my boyfriend is 15 yrs older than me!!!My friends call him a perv cause weve been dating since i was 16 now im 19 and hes 34!!! i love him but hes way to old, how should i tell him?HELP!!!!!!
2006-09-14 02:14:46 · 46 answers · asked by tweety 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
rule of thumb is to never date anyone who is younger than 1/2 your own age plus 7 years. If he is 34, he shouldn't be dating anyone younger than 24.
It also means you shouldn't be dating anyone OLDER than 24.
2006-09-14 02:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by rahkokwee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off forget what your friends think. If it didn't bother you then there would be no problem. But it seems that it bothers you too. If you are not comfortable with it then you need to end it. He's not going to get younger. This is a problem that will not change. But... my dad and my step mom are 10 yrs apart, and my grandma and my grandpa are 12 yrs apart. It's not that un commen. Men do mature a bit slower than woman so he may be right on your lvl lol. Every guy is different though, there are 16 yr olds out there more mature than my husband. Age is always going to be a problem for people. But you need to decide right away, specially since you guys have been together for 3 yrs, you really owe it to him to be honest. If you love him, then get over the age thing and let it go. If it's not worth it to you and you don't think you will ever get over it then you need to move on. My ex was only a year younger than me, and he had a seriouse issue with it and I think it was one of the biggest set backs in our life. Men seem to have a hard time being younger than their woman. I had a hard time dating a guy who was 12 yrs older than me, but the problem wasn't his age, it was that he had son that was the same age as my little brother and that is what got me. I couldn't imagine being a mom at 19 to an 8 yr old. But keep in mind, age is just a number nothing more.
2006-09-14 02:20:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hon yes it does, along with size, education, social standing and so on. the fact that he is 15 yrs older than you is not so significant now as when you were 16. but one wonders in this day and age why he can't find someone his own age? has he met your family? if so do they approve? have you met his friends or family? do they approve? in certain cultures and also about 50 years ago it would not have been frowned upon by society. what i suggest you really think about is if you are going in the same direction or has he already arrive and you are now finding yourself? what about studying, exploring life, you haven't had opportunity to really see life and he's getting older, what about marriage and kids, note his age, he might want kids soon, whilst you have alot more growing to do, hon take your time. anyhow all the best.
2006-09-14 02:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You pretty much answer your own question. You agreed he is way too old for you. Most time following your instinct is the best course of action. Love can be found in someone closer to your own age. Someone who will have the same interest and encourage you to seek self improvement. A 31 year old man did not have your best interest in mind at age 16 and apparently he still does not if you are still dating.
2006-09-14 02:25:43 · answer #4 · answered by Merlene M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him and tell him how you feel yes at first its going to hurt him and maybe he will be mad at you and upset but honesty is the best in this type of problem. But be honest with your self too dont brake up him if you are only doing it b/c of your friends if you love him and you dont think his age is a problem then stay with him age is just a number but i cant see where your friends are coming from I would never date someone that older than me take some time and think
2006-09-14 02:33:50 · answer #5 · answered by ashes2le 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 engaged to a 30 year old. Age doesn't matter. My friends call my bf's pervs to. I want date a guy that's under the age of 25. It's not my thing. If you really love him and want to be with him, who cares what your friends think. They are not living your life. If you honestly don't want to be with him anymore leave him. Good luck!
2006-09-14 02:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you want to break up that you have grown apart. He should have known better than to date a 16 year old in the first place. Where were your parents when you were 16 dating a 31 year old man?
Stick to someone closer to your own age, you will have much more in common with them.
2006-09-14 02:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do not think age matters. It is only a number.
Now if he is 34 and you are something like 11-12-13-14-15 NOW THAT MIGHT BE A DIFFERENT ISSUE.
Honey, if you love him and he loves you. Why stop a wonderful thing?
2006-09-14 02:19:30 · answer #8 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why the hell was he going out with u when u were 16!! yes he is a perv..but ur old enough now so its legal..but dont be suprised if he leaves u for a younger girl...its been 3 years and now u want to tell him hes too old?? i guess u should toss out that issue and look at the relationship as a whole
2006-09-14 02:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes little girls. However, now that you are 19 you certainly have a right to date him. If you want to stop dating him you need to tell him straight up. Don't be wishy washy but try to be clear and confident without hurting him. Just say "I have decided not to be with you because I realize that when I am 40 you will be 55 and when I am 50 you will be 65 and that is too much for me." Amen.
2006-09-14 02:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a huge age difference I'm surprised you parents let you date someone that old? havent you heard of sagatory rape that's what he did he could go to jail for that, Now your legal but hes still way older than you , maybe you should date some guys your own age just tell him you need to take a break for a while .
2006-09-14 02:28:37 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋