Even though we are together for years , my fiance has a hard time bonding with my son. I mean, they get along, but he doesn't like to play lets say catch or go bike riding together, stuff like that, and I want to know how I can get them to bond better. I mean, in the past few years, he's only done very select things with my son. I don't know if I'm asking to much. My son has started showing some animosity toward him because he never does anything with him. And they have this jealousy thing when it comes to me. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions helpers?
2006-09-14 02:13:48 · 6 answers · asked by Mother of One 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Dont force the bonding what ever you do. THis could cause some problems for the son and your fiance. He may be the type of person that does not bond easily with others.
If he has had some activity with your son and yourson enjoyed it plan activities like this that will involve there being together.
try to do things that invlove all three of you and your fiance has to interact with your son more. Perhaps this would help both of them. Do some things that they bothwould perhaps like to do together. Your fiance might be having some problems with this in that it is not his child . Perhaps a good converstion with both of them might do well. let them know how you are feeling.
2006-09-14 02:30:57 · answer #1 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This situation could get OUT OF CONTROL.
What is your fiance background history? Did he have a father figure in his life? Your fiance might have a mental disorder that because that is not HIS son. Then he does not want to share his fatherly bonds with your son. Is your fiance stressed out alot with work or what not? Does your fiance have an interest in being a father figure? Does your fiance have an interest with riding bikes or playing sports?
2006-09-14 02:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Dwayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is an area in which your fiancee needs to GROW UP. So what if he doesn't like to play catch? It is NOT about him. It is about creating a good strong family feeling.
Also, the jealousy on the part of your fiancee is rather immature, don't you think? You were the mother of this boy long before you were his girlfriend. You need to make it clear to your fiancee that this is a package deal and your son comes first ALWAYS. If he can't handle that, he is not ready to get married.
2006-09-14 03:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by Puzzler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bonding there is not something that you can force, but maybe your fiance could try a little harder. Have you tried talking to him??? That might work.
2006-09-14 02:16:40 · answer #4 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really can't answeer tht question because i wouldn't know how to. but i will advise you to do family things and tell your fiance to try to communicate with him. sit down and talk. let the two of them spend alot of time together.
2006-09-14 02:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by wanda w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at first try to do things all together..than find something they both are interested in
2006-09-14 02:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by malorieks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋