other day my 18 year old stepdaughter saw us having sex.my wife is 44 and 8 year older tome.wat u think of it?

Question

my wife has delivered twin girls month ago. she still sexually active even i cant control myself. i also have 2 year old daughter by my wife, beside she has 3 daughers by her ex husband aged 18, 14 and 8 years. who died by accident six years ago. we used to lock door wen we used to have sex. but dat day we are so heated up we forgot to lock. sometime frends of my stepchildren make a fun of us dat their mother married to a much younger gay. these day the girls are not talking to us. wat can i do. how can i win them back. it that make any differnence to their life. should i hide the age of my wife because she still look younger

Answer 1

Man, sounds like you have a lot of issues. If you love your wife, who gives a darn about the age difference?

As to your stepdaughter seeing you in the act, just forget about it and do a better job of locking the door.

It might also be a good idea to remind all the kids that they should not enter any room without knocking and getting an invitation to come in.

But I promise you, she learned a lesson she won't quickly forget; that girl won't be entering your bedroom unannounced again! Trust me on that one.

As to doing better with the girls, perhaps if you spent some time doing things with them, instead of only jumping their mother, they might develop some respect for you. Try being their friend, let their mother do most of the discipline (but that doesn't mean to go against their mom..never do that), and learn more about what interests them.

Hopefully you have a good job and contribute money to the household. If you're living off their mom, they will know you're just taking advantage of the situation and they have a good right to hate you if that is the case.

If you're adding to the household, making it a better place for all of them, that will earn their respect.

If they see you as a cool guy and someone who treats mom well, they'll be happier and won't care if you're younger. I date younger men, age has never been an issue with my kids.

Answer 2

an 18 yr old is old enough to understand what is going on.
Most likely they won't speak out of embarrassment. Or maybe they are upset that THEIR mother was with someoen besides THEIR father. It's hard for kids to get over
a tragedy like that. Becuase he didn't really do anything wrong the ex husband is now exalted into saint hood.
Your wife should have a talk with them. If the situation doens't resolve soon, see a therapist.

Answer 3

Tell the 18 year old, and any other child who is old enough to understand, that when the bedroom door is closed, they are to KNOCK FIRST AND WAIT UNTIL IT'S ANSWERED. They are in YOUR house and a closed door should tell them to stay out of it.
When comments are made about the age difference, chuckle just loud enough for them to hear it and go on with your business. There's no comment needed past that, let them figure it out for themselves. Even you don't know why you chuckle, it'll give them something to think about and should shut them up for a day or two.
I am confused about what you did to lose them. How did you lose them? Are they mad at you for loving their mother?
You owe them no explanations past the fact that you love their mother and them and what they caught you two doing was quite natural for adult married couples. (Don't make a big deal out of it with younger kids, say it matter of factly, and don't go into detail. Just say it and be done).
You and your wife have a right to privacy (the closed door), I'd say you and she were the ones that were wronged, not the kids!!
Joking here -> Looking at it through the eyes of the 18 year old, I'd say; Ew-w.

Answer 4

I think that it's great that you still have such an amazing sex life (considering both your ages). The older some get ... the more the passion tends to fade.

Even though you are in the heat-of-the-moment, you need to lock your door regardless (you do have young kids roaming the house).

As for the 18 year old - she should know better & have more respect!

Answer 5

Hmm a lot of kids, there is birth control you no, i hate to sound like an idiot here but wow there are a lot of kids, how the heck do you find time for sex? anyway, your step daughter saw you having sex, OK, she is 18, whats the problem, she is not a child anymore, if she is giving you a hard time over this i don't see why. just explain to her you are married and married people have sex! as far as your age. do they not no how old you are? and if they do or don't, its nobodies business.

Answer 6

they know the age of their mother, just don't bring the sex thing up to the 18 year old
if their no other reasons for them not talking to you
tell the mohter about the situation and have a family meeting
the situation is not healthy for none of you
so best to put it on the table an discuss it
Good Luck with your family

Answer 7

Shes 18. I dont think there will be any mental scarring... not like shes 5. She may want to forget it, and maybe have a coupla stiff drinks to help that.... maybe buy her a bottle of vodka?
Thats a joke.
Shes 18. She has to realise her parents have sex eventually... I mean, if they didnt, she wouldnt be there in the first place, right?

Answer 8

I guess that can;t be any worse than leaving your 4 yr old daughter and 6 yr old son at home with a babysitter and you come home to find her sleeping on the couch and the kids are watching your porn tapes. They were quiet and glued to the TV. It was pretty embarrasing.

Answer 9

18 yr olds know that their parents have sex, none of us like to think of our parents doing naughty things but its a fact of life. I would imagine a lot of kids have walked in on their folks going at it.
Tell her to knock b4 she enters your bedroom, and show some respect for your privacy, even if the door wasn't locked.

Answer 10

Maybe it is time to get another job? Just kidding, I would apologize for your event and tell her that it happens to be your favorite pass time [judging from the new Born's]. For most people the thought of seeing their parents go at it is a turn off.