A friend of mine's teenage daughter just started high school last year and she started cutting classes. She was punished, talked to, had stuff taken away from her, etc but nothing worked. They put her on sign in cards and she just forged the cards. The school knows this but won't take any action. Now it it's the second week of school and she hasn't gong to her last class even once! Her poor mother was sitting in the office crying in frustration. She is divorced from the girls father (not that he was ever any help) and is feeling hopeless and frustrated. I suggested brat boot camp but they are expensive. Any thoughts?
PS The whole Dr. Phil "Make a contract" thing didn't work.
2006-09-14 02:02:40 · 5 answers · asked by morrowynd 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I had this problem with my son and here is what his mean mom did , I took him to school in my pajamas , pants and top of course and walked him to all of his classes , at the end of the day I asked him how he liked his mommy going to school with him and he said I swear I wont skip again if you just don't go again...It worked he hasn't skipped again...It too is embarrassing for us , but if it works , it is worth it..
2006-09-14 02:39:39 · answer #1 · answered by MARY B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This teen is in crisis. There is a reason that she is not going to school. Has she gotten an unearned reputation? Is she being bullied? Does she have difficulty reading? What is she afraid of? Who is she afraid of at that school? I have a teen who loves to go to school because that is where her friends are and she also recognizes her obligation to get an education. Sometimes she just wants to stay at home. I feel sorry for your friend's daughter as she apparently doesn't have anyone who cares enough to find out about her feelings. She sounds like a child that might have even been date raped and phobic. The answer is to get her therapy someone she can talk with if changing her school isn't a viable option. She is too young to have the experience and venacular to articulate what all those new emotions she has are and to know what the cause is. She doesn't have high self-esteem. People will do what makes them feel safe and secure and successful which is evident she feels none of these. Torture/abuse/deprivation camp does not say I love you and even though you have made mistakes ; I will help you etc.....It says let someone else deal with you. These problems didn't surface over night and won't be solved quickly.
2006-09-14 09:10:23 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
seems the best thing for her is to pull the 'tough love' thing and turn her in to juvenile court.
When a parent looses control over a child, this is experience talking by the way, the best thing for that child is to let someone who CAN take back control step in.
Yes, i felt like a complete failure for a long time but in the end when my daughter came home, she was the model girl! She apologized to me for all the nasty things she did and made good on the promises she made to me b4 and while she was in juvi.
Be there for your friend, she'll need u
2006-09-14 09:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by cvs_girl_36 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if she is out of control, then brat boot camp may be the way to go... how expensive is it to save a life? keep it in perspective and encourage her to send her
2006-09-14 09:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by casurfwatcher 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My brother did this in school. My mom just took him outta school made him get his GED and get a job.
2006-09-14 09:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋