I have booked martial arts lessons, swimming and trampoling lessons for my child....(see added details)?

Question

I have been told Im a pushy mom, I defended that and said one is for survival, the other is for self defence and the other is for fun and it is showing my child there is more to life than T.V and computer games, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

My child is all for these activites, if she didnt want to do them I wouldnt force her to do it!!!

It is in the city I live in not violent, but if (any thing) happens to self defnce would then come into play, the matrial arts teacher is very good and my child knows that its only used for this purpose!

LAST ADDED COMMENT!!

She plays out with her friends(after homework for school is completed) on the days these activites that dont take place, they are not every day

Answer 1

At least you are encouraging your child to become more active with things that are fun. Too many children are living their lives through computers and television. If your child is up for it then where is the pushiness? If anything i think you are being a good parent. You know that your child's best interests are in your heart so don't even worry about what others think. There will always be someone somewhere telling you that you're doing something wrong if you let them.

Answer 2

Hi

I think it depends on how happy your child is doing all those things. I agree that swimming is very important and once they've learnt it can become a fun thing instead (ie drop the lessons and all go at the weekend as a family etc).

As for whether or not the martial art is good for defence really depends on which one you've picked! It can be good for the childs confidence regardless.

The main thing is to listen to your child and be supportive. You're only a pushy parent if you demand s/he goes to all three.. make them practise all weekend, every weeknight etc.

If s/he does seem unhappy at doing so much then there are ways of showing them there's more to life than TV/comp games without rigid routine lessons. Playing ball in the park, going bowling, rollerblading, bike riding, building a camp/treehouse, woodland walks...

:o)

Answer 3

Without knowing the age of your child, and in my very humble opinion as the father of two - I do wonder whether by enrolling them on martial arts lessons for survival you are reinforcing violence as a solution. I appreciate that the goal of martial arts is for defence - but I think that perhaps being a watchful parent and teaching that intellect can often outwhit ignorance might also be valuable in this area. THAT SAID I live in a sleepy rural idyll and you may live in an habitually violent area where defence is the ONLY solution.

One thing's for sure you clearly care about your child and that has to say a heck of a lot more than those despicable parents who hardly share a word with their children on a daily basis.

Well done :-)

Answer 4

There is a fine line however between caring and being pushy. Don't keep her too busy all week long. This adds stress on a child whenever they don't have time to breathe. Make sure if she starts to complain often about being sick or she is making excuses that she doesn' t want to go- ask her if she is bored or tired of it. I am not sure how old she is but from experience with my sisters- keeping her too busy may backfire down the road. If she is enjoying all of these and is excited about going then continue but keep your eyes open and watch her. Also make sure that there is still time for her to just chill out at the house or at a friends. Make sure that it is never everyday!~ Good luck! Last thing you want to do is create a child that is sooo busy and stressed all the time that she ends up with health problems because she is always go go go !! Bottom line you know your daughter better than anyone else and as long as you are spending quality time with her while she is at these activities and she likes them GO FOR IT!!

Answer 5

I think you are doing the right thing. What you teach and show your child now will help them in later life. My son does martial arts, not only does it teach them self defence, it teaches them co-ordination, gives them confidence, and is also good exercise & fun.
Swimming is a must, and trampolines are fun and again these two are good exercise. If you your child has plenty of exercise it helps to keep them healthy and motivated.

As long as the activities are not interferring with school and your child is happy and willing to go, there is no problem at all.

JJ

Answer 6

I think that is great, if she wants it too. I was raised pretty much without TV (last show I remember watching was Felix the Cat, before I started going to school - yes I am older). I think it turned out for the best cause I hardly ever watch TV at all. I love bicycling and walking and I am very physically fit (even with my family history of being overweight, I am not at all). I contribute this to not ever being a couch potatoe. I have no interest in TV and I am proud of it. I think getting out and doing things and finding out more about the world in this way is better. I think f you find things that she is interested in that is not TV, you are doing a great thing as a mother. I would suggest doing one class with her to connect with her more, whether it be doing the class with her, or letting her teach you what she is learning at home. Good luck with raising your child like this. I think its great.

Answer 7

Sounds to me like you are trying to raise a well rounded child. Martial Arts are great, teaches self defense, and self control. Swimming and trampoline are great physical activities and lots of fun. I have six kids and I let them play or do whatever activities they want. We do basketball, football, baseball, cheerleading, show livestock, horse club and anything else they want to do. Just remember, the more activities they do, the better the college applications look.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Not necessarily. My mum did the same kind of thing when I was a kid, so I did football, gymnastics, swimming and martial arts, as well as a whole host of activities during the holidays. I think it's great that you are getting your kid out there, but you would fall into the pushy catagory if you made them carry on with it if they didn't enjoy it.

Answer 10

I think you are a fantastic mum, I teach Martial Arts to all ages and in this day and age you can never over protect your children.
Martial Arts whichever one you choose will give your child great confidence,self security and self respect.
You seem to have balanced things in a practical way with as you say mixing swimming for survival and the good old trampoline for fun,(don't forget a good diet) and if your daughter is up for this get on with it and good luck to her, and yourself. (don't upset her though)