im currently seein a girl, shes great we get along like a house on fire, she says she loves me, like REALLY loves me an i agree to please her, but feel im lying to myself. maybe this could grow to love but i dunno? should i stay or go ?
2006-09-14 01:46:20 · 32 answers · asked by one 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOU SHOULD STAY BUT BE HONEST. DONT TELL HER YOU LOVE HER JUST COZ SHE DID. LET HER KNOW THAT YOU ENJOY BEING WITH HER AND YOU CARE ABOUT HER. YOU NEVER KNOW YOU COULD ACTUALLY GROW TO LOVE HER VERY DEEPLY SO TAKE THINGS SLOW AND HAVE FUN UNTIL YOU WORK OUT HOW YOU FEEL.
2006-09-14 01:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by cripplegraham 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The advice that I can give you is either you love her or you don't there is no in between when it comes to real love. Tell her but before you do that, seek, truly seek your heart first; for you just might be letting the best thing walk right out of your life.if she is like me she is already thinking that she isn't going to be waiting here for much longer. Seek your heart, if you do not love her let her go so that she may give the love she so desires to that one someone who will give that same love back to her the way she deserves to be loved by one unless you can be open and honest with her and let her know that you have strong feelings for her and that you can't make any promises where this will go whether it will be love someday. The rest should be up to her whether she wants to take that chance or not. There is an old saying something called thunderbolt that is when you look into their eyes and they stop your speach or even your thoughts for a minute or so, ever had person do that? My prayers are with you. bye 4 now signed born2damromantic
2006-09-14 03:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by born 2 d-mn romantic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well how long have you been with her? If its not long then yeah maybe you will grow to love her but next time she says she loves you, instead of agreeing why dont you just tell her you think its moving a bit fast and you'd appreciate if she could slow down a bit - only you can know if you think you'd be capable of loving her - if you dont think you are then its kinder to end it now before she gets more involved in this.
Moral of the story - dont ever say those three words unless you REALLY mean it - even if it means upsetting the person that has said it first - love is not a loose emotion!!!
2006-09-14 01:51:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should lie to her or to yourself, instead you should give yourself an ultimatum, let's say a week or two weeks or whatever, and after that period you can decide if your relationship has evolved or not, if not, then you should leave her, don't give her false hopes, it will hurt her really much.
In that period try to see what is good and what is wrong in your relationship. Focus on her, try to find out, why she s special. If this doesn't work, than just tell her, tell her in a nice way that she just isn't the right for you, and the fact that you can't love her as she should be loved proves that you aren't the one for her, so good luck!
2006-09-14 02:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't end it just because you don't love her yet, but it depends how long have you been with her?
If you feel you should love her by now, there may be something wrong. But if like you said, you get on like a house on fire, just give it some time. Love takes time to blossom.
But be honest with her, tell her the truth. Say you really like her and you want to be with her and you don't want anything to change, but you don't love her. Not yet anyway, tell her that you don't know how you'll feel in the future and that you'd love to fall in love with her. But you just don't feel it yet.
She'll appreciate your honesty.
2006-09-14 01:56:17 · answer #5 · answered by Yasmin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this girl and get on like a house on fire, maybe you are afraid of love and commitment! If you let her go now you maybe the one that hurts when you realise, as they say, you never realise what you have until you have lost it!
Have a little break, maybe a week or so and see what happens before throwing away your relationship!
2006-09-14 01:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you don't feel the same way she does doesnt mean that you should leave. Like you said if everything is going good and you care for her then it could grow into love. The only thing that you are wrong for is telling her you love her when you dont. You could have simply stated that although you do care for her tremendously, you just dont feel that you are ready to say that you love her.
2006-09-14 01:50:09 · answer #7 · answered by superbad~honeydip 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having a great time together then by all means stay. You really need to talk to her about the love factor though. Please don't tell her you love her if you're not sure. That will break her heart eventually. Always be honest. Never, never, NEVER tell someone you love them and don't mean it. That is the cruelest thing you could do to someone.
2006-09-14 01:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by jacquelinebrns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ooh, that's a toughie, but don't lie to the girl. Lying about your feelings is what breaks hearts. It sounds obvious she really likes you, try spending a little less time with her and getting a little distance and then re-evaluating your feelings. Please don't use her, it doesn't sound like you are, but when someone feels strongly, it might be easy to take advantage of their feelings and that wouldn't be nice. Be a gentleman.
2006-09-14 01:49:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't say how long you've been together. it may just take longer for you feel what you think of as love. everyone does have a different idea of this. don't throw in the towel unless you think it will never grow in your heart. don't tell her you love her when you don't and tell her why. openess and honesty gives everyone a chance to choose their destiny. tell her your not there yet!
2006-09-14 02:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋