Im a virgin but i want 2 change that but im scared...what should i do will it hurt i dont know what 2 expect

Answer 1

You sound very young; maturity should come before sex.

Answer 2

I can understand what you are going through. I went through the same thing around ten years ago. I followed the lead of a friend and then latter regretted it. I felt goofy being a virgin because it seemed like no one else was. But the reason why I ended up having sex was because I had been in lust with this guy I knew. And he knew it too. I wooed me and I gladly caved.

However, when you hear people talk about sex, no one ever ever mentions the emotional strain that it puts on you. After I lost my virginity I was a wreck. I had emotions bursting out of me I had never had before. Part of me was confused about what I had done and what it meant.

There is a reason why you are supposed to be married when you lose your virginity. Other than giving birth, losing your virginity is the single most love creating action there is for women.

I did not lose my verginity to my husband and for years after we were married I regretted it deeply. It wasn't until I was saved by Jesus that my regret turned to bother and then to just a fact that I screwed up, but I'm not perfect.

There is no reason why you need to lose your virginity. There is a great upside to not having sex until you're married that a lot of people don't think about. If you don't have sex you can't get diseases. That will be a very good thing later in life. Especially since anything that you might get you have a chance of passing on to your children.

Also, the protection that you use to not get pregnant should be abstenence, not condoms and such. They can not be used right and some can be tampered with. So it is best for you to wait.

Sex, especially the first time, can be hard on your body (because it can hurt a lot), your emotions (because your heart wants to love and females link sex and love), and possibly your future (because if by some chance you catch Hiv you could die and if you catch herpies you don't die, but you can't get rid of it).

I just remembered something that shocked me when I first heard it. When I was seventeen I gave blood. I was talking to the lady taking my blood about the questions of having sex with a man who had sex with a man and having sex with a man that sex with a woman that had sex with a man that had sex with a man. She said that when you have sex with someone it's like having sex with everyone they have ever had sex with. That's gross and kind of disturbing.

When was the last time you heard about someone asking whether or not they had had sex with a man or had sex with a woman who had sex with a man who had sex with a man? That's because it doesn't happen.

At this particular time I think that it would be better if everyone started waiting till they were married to have sex. But they don't and they won't. However, that doesn't mean that you shouldn't.

Answer 3

DON'T CHANGE UNTIL U GET MARRIED. No matter how ppl & the media picture it as something funny & useless it's not, it's yr treasure, and anyone else who tells u other than that is a liar. Girls who encourage u to lose yr virginity r jealous & wish u hurt. And guys who try to convince u to do it now only do it because they want to have fun for the time being then leave u after that.
Especially if u r a believer I don't see any reason why u shouldn't wait. Don't do it plz.
God bless u & good luck

Answer 4

PLEASE WAIT!!! I'm going to tell u like i told my own daughter. You are special, u are gift from god and a gift to the person YOU want to give ur self too. That is all u can give a man that is priceless! Having sex is to be taken very seriously.
When u do decide to have sex u should not be scared maybe a little nervous, but not scared! The right person will come along and you will know it.
You are not ready yet! SO AGAIN PLEASE WAIT!!!
Tel the person u are with that u want to wait one year from this date and if he agrees to wait good! He doesn't then u have not lost nothing for nothing. and when the year is up if ur still not ready wait another year.
Always remember that once it's gone (ur virginity) you can't get it back!!!

Answer 5

I think it is great that you came on here seeking advice. However, are you willing to take the right advice? Mopst people on here are going to tell you to go ahead and have sex. I am not one of those people. I don't know who you are, but I do know that you are special. God has given you the gift of sex to be shared with your spouse. Please, I beg you to be strong and to not give into this temptation. THere is no greater sex then when it its shared with the one you are married to.

Please be srong and do not follow what the other person is presuuring you to do. Oncew you give in, you cannot change what has happened. Hebrews 13 says that the marriage bed should be kept pure. If you have sex now, and when finally get married and go to have sex the first time, your marriage bed will not be pure. This will be because you have already given yourself to seomeone else and your spouse will never know the joy of being your first.

Please keep yopurself pure. Wait until you find a person that will love you and wait to have sex with you until you are married. I assume that you are a female. If a mna really loves you, he will wait for you.

However, Wouldn't it be nice to have a man that loved you liked this:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

Well there is a man that loves you like this...Are you ready to know who He is.

God is Love
1John 4: 16

If God is love, then that means God fits the description above. He is patient, kind, etc. God is who you really need. He is the perfect man who came to die for an impefect you.

Now you can give in and have sex but that will not be love...that will be lust.

Accept what your Lord Jesus has done for you. Let Him be your man. He will never leave you, nor forsake you (Hebrews 13: 5) nor will He ever stop loving you.

Answer 6

no matter what people say the first time is always rubbish but look on the bright side practise makes perfect and things can only get better. so go ahead get it out of the way then you will know what to expect. your question `will it hurt` depends on several factors ie how big or small the other persons areas are. there are several toys available to experiment in these areas first. good luck

Answer 7

I am not sure how old you are, but if you are have feelings like this i think you should wait. Do not let the pressure around you cause you to give up one of a woman's most precious gifts too fast. Take you time and wait for that special someone to come along. Alot of women sometimes regret the decision they made and who they made it with to give up their virginity. You want your first time to be memorable not regret it.

Answer 8

well, be forwarned that some people will tell you to go on. But you should be careful about your decision. You are about to enter into a world where you have to look out for yourself, and that you will gain a big difference in social status, whether good or bad.

I believe that sex should only be shared by a husband and wife. And i'll stick with that. I was raised that way, taught that way, and i live by that way.

I do not mean to offend those who are, in fact, not virgins.

All i must say is be careful.

Answer 9

Keep your legs together, don't give up such a wonderful gift just because your friends are doing it or becasue it's cool. It takes a woman to keep her virginity until she gets married, any female can be a s1ut and give it up. Wait until it's the absolute right time, your wedding night.

Answer 10

if u'r scared wait till u don't feel scared anymore. also be sure that who ever this dude is, he's the one u want to give ur virginity to because u can't get it back after that. once it gets to that piont in tym, well relax is the best advice i can give u and it hurts a lil at first

Answer 11

wait until you get marry, that is more valuable. It will hurt and expect to use condom or contraceptive pills if you don't want to get pregnant but again it's always feel more valuable if you do it with the husband instead of some boyfriend.