The IT manager of the company we a re affiliated to asked me out. We had an amazing time. He was funny and chilled out and kept making me laugh. He went on all romantic it was lovely. He then was a bit distant and he said it was due to him recently splitting up with ex. Cool i wasnt bothered, as i am very busy anyway. We had a few more dates and you can guess what we ended up getting up to. It was just what I needed. He popped into my office to see me a few times after that, we chatted a bit on the phone but then he just stops calling and emailing. Im a bit surprised but didnt ask him why, i just left it. Now he texts me saying he has met someone and he has started seeing her and that he thought he should let me know. I am like omg are you having a laugh? Was I not seeing him? I am obviously hurt and angry, but I need to work with this guy on occasion and he knows this. Do i give him grief or rise above and make out like I dont care. I am very confused. Apologies for the essay. thanks.
2006-09-14 01:20:04 · 16 answers · asked by Ms.Trouble 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I wouldn't waste 5 minutes on this guy - move on.
2006-09-14 01:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by tnmtngirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that you are feeling pain, but you must get past it. There was something going on that he didn't tell you about and a guy like that is no prize. He hurt you early rather than forming a relationship with you and then dumping on you. Either he never really broke up with his old girl friend, or he was looking for an easy lay and it didn't happen so he cooled it. Alot of guys will do that. He isn't worth your time. Rise above it, there are alot of nice guys out there that would be lucky to meet you.
2006-09-14 01:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by orygunduk1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's not wonder alot of companies frown on office romances, not that they're worried about any feelings being hurt just that they could lose an employee. You probably feel like you'd like to distance yourself from him if you could just about now, and you're justified in feeling that way. He is an insensitive jerk and dishonest. Be glad you got out while you could as he obviously out to get his. It's hard to know if he;s even telling the truth about this other woman. Maybe after splitting with his ex he just wants to be single and he knew this all the while by stating something to that effect in first place.There are so many good guys out there just hang in there and do like you said "hold your head up,dust yourself off and never forget you don't need a man to complete yourself. Love yourself first by guarding your heart more carefully. Good luck!
2006-09-14 01:36:31 · answer #3 · answered by lcsotter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but you seem like you would be better off without him! If he is going to treat you like that while just waiting for someone "better" to come along then he isn't worth it! I know you won't see it like that at the moment but you will eventually and you will be glad you got out of it earlier rather than having it gone on for longer and have him do it then!
As far as still working with him, you will have to keep personal and business seperate as otherwise your work will be affected and you could put your job at risk and its not worth the risk over someone so worthless!
It is understandable why you are confused but the only thing i can say is don't let it ruin your future relationships! thats no way to live your life!
Sorry!
2006-09-14 01:27:34 · answer #4 · answered by johnapdavies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rise up and forget him. He obviously believed you were in nothing more than a casual dating relationship. The guy may be nothing more than a player and is not worth your effort to give him grief. Jjust move on. Be the mature one and keep a professional working environment in place. Go find a man .. . not a boy.
2006-09-14 01:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this but I think he only used you for getting what he wanted. I think you should just forget about it, make like it did not happen. I know its hard, but just do it. And so now and a then were something really sexy!! He will see what he left behind and when he comes back to you you just say sorry you had your chance I met someone els. But showing him know that you are hurt and up sett about what happened will only give him satisfaction!! The childish a@#%#%^&&**(!!!!!!!!
2006-09-14 01:29:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's the playboy of the company, he's out to score as many females as possible then off he goes to the next.
Get off the emotional roller coaster and just move on, you enjoyed ur self? leave it at that and keep living your life. When u run into him, simply treat him as a friend/co -worker. Don't make mention of what happened or it'll make u look like a weak female.
2006-09-14 01:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by cvs_girl_36 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be the bigger person and let it go. It's his loss not yours. He is obviously still in the minsd set of an 18 year old boy on the rebound. A real man wouldn't have stooped so low.
2006-09-14 01:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by feliciaw1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live well and act like it doesn't bother you. Be the bigger person even if it hurts. I'm going through the same thing with a girl that I work with and it tears me up inside to see her. Keep your head high and chin up sweetie
2006-09-14 01:24:41 · answer #9 · answered by woodersondylan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typical rebound romance. He was feeling down, detached and you were receptive. That sometimes happens. Times like this is what people call baggage, the older you get the more baggage you have. Personally, I have a u haul truck! :)
2006-09-14 01:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, lesson learned, never $$$$ someone you have to work with. I would act like it never even happened because that's pretty much how he treated the situation. Sometimes guy's need a good dose of their own medicine.
2006-09-14 02:21:58 · answer #11 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋