I had many flings before I married my last encounter. Igot pregnant and he married me .We have been 2gether 4 13years. Ihave asked forgiveness in my prayers but still feel guilty. Ican't face the priest. I am shy. I know him too much.
2006-09-14 00:51:39 · 28 answers · asked by senzia 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Whenever Jesus talked to women who were guilty of fornication, He would tell them that they were forgiven, but to sin no more. If you have asked forgiveness and turned from that sin (you are no longer having sex outside of wedlock) then you are forgiven. That is all that God ask.
We can not go back and undo what we have done in the past. About the best we can do is to try to "make it right" if there is a way - such as repaying if we robbed from someone, or asking forgiveness if we hurt or wronged someone. Sounds like you have done that. You have married the man and provided a home for your child for 13 years. That sounds like a good thing to me. That is exactly what God would want you to do. You have "made it right" as best you can.
As a Protestant, I believe that we can confess directly to God and receive forgiveness. We do not have to go through a priest. But if you are having a hard time accepting your forgiveness, then please do talk to him about it. I bet you will find that he will agree with what I said. If you are uncomfortable talking to your own priest, talk to a different one.
You have done what it right, turned from sin, and already have the forgivenss of God. You just need some reassurance of that.
You will be in my prayers today...
2006-09-14 01:03:58 · answer #1 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive me for being critical of your religion, but this is one of the big issues I have with the Catholic Church -- the whole idea of confessing your sins to the Priest. That is not Biblical. Nowhere in the Old Testament or the New Testament will you find a commandment or even a mention of sins being confessed to a Priest. Your sins are between you and God. If you have confessed this sin in your prayers to God, if you are truly sorry for what you did, and if you have asked God for His forgiveness, the Bible says that your sins will be forgiven. Don't make the mistake of putting your faith in what a Priest or a Bishop or a Cardinal tells you -- put your faith in the Bible.
2006-09-14 00:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by sarge927 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are married for the first time, then you are not living "in sin."
You are being tormented by sins committed long ago.
If you have asked God for forgiveness then you are forgiven.
However I think you would feel better if you find a priest that you do not know and go to confession.
With love and prayers in Christ.
2006-09-15 17:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You needn't see a priest to confess. Take it straight to God. After all, Jesus is our High Priest and mediator.
Have you repented of your sin? If you haven't, that might be why you continue to feel guilt. Not just ask forgiveness, but think deeply about what you've done... to all those guys... to your own body... and what you've done against God. Think about all the hurt that has been caused... realize how terrible it is. And then make up your mind to never do it again. Then ask for forgiveness once more.
2006-09-14 01:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't suppose this will help much, but I'm trying to provide a solution. But it's not an easy one.
You feel guilty for what you've done. You know the priest. You attend a Catholic church.
I am guessing, but I would think you don't feel comfortable in this church? Maybe you think you're the worst sinner there?
You need to realise that the Catholic church is just one part of Christendom. Is it possible for you to attend a different church?
If not, then it will help you to read more widely about your faith, and not just listen to the priest, although I don't think the Catholic church is known for the quality of it's teaching to it's flock.
Perhaps you would care to contact me, and I can recommend some reading material......???
2006-09-14 02:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Rude 4 U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason that you still feel guilty is that you have not forgiven yourself. When you hear from the priest that you are forgiven, you will be able to forgive yourself.
Go to confession to your priest. The priests I have known see the people who come to them for confession as very brave souls to admit that the are wrong. It takes a great deal of humility to confess your sins to another person, but that is when God can lift us up. The priest will not think any less of you. You will actually gain a lot of respect with him for being able to be honest with yourself.
I know this from personal experience.
Go to confession and then contact me about how it went. i will be praying for you.
2006-09-14 01:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Sldgman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our sexuality is God-given, and like all of God's gifts we should seek wisdom in using them. What you are doing is not sinful in itself, but have you harmed anyone? That would indeed be sinful. You don't have to go to a Priest to ask God's forgiveness. Tell Jesus about it , for He is the one who gave His life for your sins, and is able to forgive. The doctrine that all Christians share is that "we have an advocate in heaven ". Having confessed sincerely then put it behind you, but do what you can to undo the harm. You needn't feel guilty anymore.
Keep in close touch with our Lord in prayer. See Proverbs 3:5-6. And may God bless you.
2006-09-14 01:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by Malcolm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure there are a lot of RCs in this modern world feeling exactly like you. If you really have repented to Him thru prayer then I'm certain He has forgiven you. If you really feel you need to go to Confession maybe go to another church in a neighbouring town?
This happened a long long time ago, and your marriage is solid..dont let anything from your past spoil that. He wants love not unrest. :0)
2006-09-15 02:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by theoldecrone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
repentance is the key. if we repent it should show in our actions. we then begin to try hard to make amends, sacrifices and offerings. its good of you to share ur personal experience. since u are catholic u need to follow its rules. u need to go and confess ur sins to a priest. we are not worthy to go and confess directly to God. we are too sinful and God specifically and clearly mandated that we should confess our sins through the sacrament of confession. its hard and embarassing to have to tell a human being about it. but in concept you are not really asking for forgiveness from the priest but from God. the priest is just a medium so God can forgive you and bless u with a new lease on life. even the priest needs to confess his sins to another priest. so what, no one is immune from sin. everybody sins. what matters is the desire to change and vow never to commit the same mistake over and over. God loves you and He is waiting. Eagerly waiting to lift the umbrella of sin that has been blocking His graces all these years.
2006-09-14 01:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by gaucherive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a catholic but doesn't the Bible say that Jesus is our great high priest and it's to Him we direct our prayers, including prayers of repentence? I feel forgiven inside if I do that. You should also know that if you gave your life to Jesus and repented of your sins, that's you forgiven past, present and future. Nothing you do surprises God, and He accepted you even knowing that you would sin again, even in a big way. Repent to Jesus and be assured you are forgiven.
2006-09-14 02:24:38 · answer #10 · answered by good tree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋