i really like someone that i work with. i slept with about 9 months ago and we have been good friends since then but i was never really attracted to him until recently. last nite while watching dvds with him we where messing about kinda flirtin u could say. it was play fighting. afterwards he put his arm around meit was nice. but does this mean that we are just good friends or is there more to it?
2006-09-14 00:49:11 · 18 answers · asked by vickiebeeeeeeeeeee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why were you watching a dvd at work and play fighting?
2006-09-14 00:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooo u lucky girl! Well if you really like this guy your only gonna get more worked up about it if you dont tell him! Ask him, be honest and say i understad if you dont want anything to happen we'll just be friends. The likelyhood is that he's propably thinking the same thing as you and feeling the same feelings as you but if not 1 of you makes the move your gonna stay like this forever and could lose each other to other people. Then 10 years down the line you might think to yourself "What if" and wished that youd asked him. Yeah it might work out and it might not but you need to find out before you could be losing a relationship which you both really want but are too araid to go for. Hope this helps sweetheart and take care!
2006-09-14 01:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading your question I think he probably is feeling the same way as you and is kinda testing the waters by putting his arm around you - the fact that ye work together and are good friends might be putting him off asking you out straight - I think you should go for it though - just ask him - dont waste any more time and find out once n for all!
2006-09-14 00:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there's a little more to it. I think he likes you too and little things like playfighting and putting an arm around you is his way of testing the water because he obviously doesn't want to lose you as a friend if you don't feel the same. I always think this is the fun part of a relationship because it's so uncertain and it's a case of will you, won't you?! It's any excuse to touch each other really...have fun!
2006-09-14 01:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by mother knowledge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really need to ask yourself if you want it to be more than just friends, by the sounds of it you do. But I think I would examine your motives here are you really interested or are you just bored? Could you wreck a perfectly good friendship/or are things OK the way they are. Remember good friends are hard to find, but a friend that's hard is also good to find! Just be brave sista and follow your heart you already know the answer!
2006-09-14 01:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Queen D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is more to it if you want there to be more to it. Sounds like the situation is entirely down to you, but be prepared to potentially loose a friendship if he isn't interested in you in that way. Better to find out though rather than keeping it behind closed doors.
2006-09-14 00:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by Charlie Brigante 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's best to just ask him. Keeping it inside is not gonna do you any good. And there might be a rift between the two of you. So just come out and ask him. Coz believe me gal.. us gal and dem guys.. way of thinking is totally different!
2006-09-14 00:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by immortal.angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him he can only say no. Odd that you slept together 9 months ago and you are only friends, maybe has another woman!
2006-09-14 00:55:04 · answer #8 · answered by Annie M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends is GREAT! Its a fantastic start to something that could develop into more!
2006-09-14 01:05:24 · answer #9 · answered by sciencegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're getting into dangerous territory emotionally. declare your feelings now and stop the relationship if he's not interested. someone will get hurt but i really hope you hit it off instead
2006-09-14 02:55:57 · answer #10 · answered by minerva 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋