just curious how much detail i need to get into, what did you do? What worked, what didnt? she just entered 1st grade so i dont want it to be too graphic but want to tell her the real deal not some stork nonesense. Thanks in advance y'all
2006-09-13 23:58:11 · 22 answers · asked by Mike G 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Babies grow in their mommy's belly for about 9 months and then when they are ready to come out the mommy's begin to feel contractions. Contractions are like really strong hugs across the mommy's belly that help to squeeze the baby down and out into the world. The baby comes out the birth canal, the mommy's vagina, the hole she has between her legs. The mommy has to work hard and push, kind of like pushing when you have to poop, to help the baby get out. Sometimes the mommy has to work so hard that she grunts and makes lots of noises. When the baby comes out, it is still attached by a cord to the placenta that helped the baby get food and oxygen when it was in mommy's belly. Someone, usually the daddy, cuts this cord after the baby is born. The cord doesn't have any nerves in it so it doesn't hurt the mommy or the baby when it is cut.
2006-09-14 00:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am pregnant with #3. when my 2nd was due, my then 4 year-old son had SO MANY questions. I could not believe that he got so detailed with his questions. All the above answers were not enough for him. "special place" or "doctors do it" or "the baby tunnel" were not enough. Eventually, I figured out that he was somewhat scared that the baby wouldn't be able to fit in any of the places that he was aware of. Be sure she isn't scared or nervous about how big mommy's belly is looking.
Finally, in desperation, I let my son watch some live births (with no sound as the moms were groaning and yelling) and he asked a few more questions like: Does her bottom stay big like that? and what's the rope on the baby? (umbilical cord) I answered all his questions honestly, even though I thought he was not really old enough to understand.
NOW, he is 8 years old, and my daughter is 4 1/2. Neither one of my kids have asked very much this time. My son is very very curious and MUST know the truth. That's what kind of kid he is.
My daughter accepted the generic "there's a special tunnel called the birth canal that opens just when the baby is ready to come out. Mommy's womb (we use the right words, so it's not confusing) will squeeze really hard and the tunnel opens up, and out comes a baby!!" She wanted to know "where" the tunnel opens up. I told her the tunnel is between Mommy's Peepee bottom and her Poopoo bottom (names she came up with) and it's called the vagina.
Check the library for some great books. Lots of good resources there!
and check some websites for in-utero pics and other good explanations.
By the way, my son also asked how the baby got in there....that was more difficult. we talked about plants and seeds to start with. I explained that mommy has an egg and daddy has the seed to plant (called the sperm) so the egg can become a baby. (he's only 8!!) He wanted to know how daddy "plants" the seed....(sigh) So, I told him that God made a special kind of hug just for moms and dads, and when dad hugs mom just right, the seed gets out of dad and into mom, and hunts for the egg. ( he said OH, kinda like easter!)
Well, then he wanted to know what kind of hug. I told him we'd talk about that soon...(i'm heading back to the library for help with that...)
bottom line is, answer just enough and then see if there are more questions...every kid is different, and every parent has different ideas for their kid's needs. I'm sure you'll do great!
2006-09-14 08:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by sexymommyof3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 6 and I get questions like this all the time.. I'm honest with her. We had a talk about how womens bodies change as they grow so that they can help a baby grow when they are ready, and I actually have pictures of her older brothers birth, so we looked through those and I explained it to her. You don't have to go into a lot of detail though. All they really want is a simple explanation, and if they have other questions, they will eventually ask. Good luck :)
2006-09-14 06:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by sokkermum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that mommy goes to the hospital and the doctors take it out for her. If she asks "how". Just tell her that only doctors know how to do it. She is only 6 1/2, and like you said, she doesn't need much detail right now. Hope that helps you. Good luck, been there. My daughter is now almost 10. It keeps getting more interesting all the time!!
2006-09-14 00:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by teashy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've always told my children the truth. Now I didn't go into great detail I told my kids at that age that mommies have a special place that babies come out of. If when my kids asked further questions I told them that it was down at their private place. You don't need to get graphic but it's best to tell her the truth.
2006-09-14 00:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by firefly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem with my 4 year old and his 6 year old both girls and 2 7 year old boys no not twins when i was pregnant with my daughter i simply took my 4 year old to the doctors with me she didn't see anything but she listened to the heart beat and asked he said he was going to help but mommy and the baby would do most of the work and she was like cool
as for the rest of the kids we followed the pregnancy with a book and yes it had drawings but from the side so it wasn't graphic it also showed a c section
2006-09-14 10:45:59 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth! Why in the world would anyone lie to a child with something like a stork? I'm not real fond of the word vagina but you can inform her of the difference between boys and girls. Hopefully you know the answers already, best not to make a big deal about it! Oops, to late.
2006-09-14 00:07:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her the baby comes out of Mommys tummy and its something that only the doctors can do, and thats why Mommy goes to the hospital. Whats more interesting is explaining how they got in there!!! (My daughter is 6.5 as well)
2006-09-14 02:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Marie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's old enough to explain to her that babies come from a special place girls have down by their pee pee or they have to have surgery and take the baby from the mommy's tummy.
She should be old enough to understand (she knows her plumbing by now). Just be open, honest, to the point, and don't act embrassed. You want her to be open with you when she becomes a young woman.
Gettting baby out is easy to explain. Just wait till you have to explain how baby got IN! That's the fun part.
2006-09-14 03:06:44 · answer #9 · answered by little fairy lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth but obviously try to leave out the sex part. If she asks how baby got in there, tell her that when Mommies and Daddies get married, love creates a baby.
I never told my kids that babies grew in bellies. I told them that women have a place in their bodies that men do not have.
2006-09-14 01:41:30 · answer #10 · answered by KathyS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋