I went to rehab but that didnt do any good i stopped doing meth but my family doesnt think that i am good enough to be a part of it and they says i am worthless druggy and all i do is stress them out
2006-09-13 23:38:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have seen a lot of drug addiction and it kind of sounds like your family just don't "trust" that you have quit. Give them time and don't quit for them. do it for yourself. If they don't think you are "good enough" for them maybe they are just ignorant about drug addiction, they are being very unfair to you. I'd stay clean just to prove them wrong! Also, I know how much it hurts to watch someone you love who is an addict...they are slowly killing themselves and you feel totally helpless. If they bring you down then maybe the best thing to do is just stay away. You have to take care of you now and try not to worry about what they think. I know that might be hard to do but sometimes that's just the way it has to be.
2006-09-14 00:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen,you deserve all that they are saying to you and you should understand where they are coming from, after all , you are the one who bought this problem into the picture.You fooled them for a long time into thinking you were fine when you were not.they at one time probably believed all the lies that you gave them.now you say that you are drug free(we've heard it before)and you think everything is all good.well it's not and you have to prove you are no longer a druggie, or a liar or a thief and that will take time/ you owe that to your people to be as patient with them as they had been and have been with you.you didn't fall overnight so don't expect acceptance over night/ I have been in your shoes,not with meth,but with crack and it took a few years to regain my family's trust,but I have and now I am the head of the family that I was born to be.The struggle you have before you is a tough one,but living the drug life is tougher,trying to get high everyday is a battle that I know longer wish to fight.I hope you will keep your head while you earn your family's respect back.when they see you are serious this time they will be so proud of you.won't that be a switch??it is possible if you don't give up on yourself.
2006-09-13 23:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to take some time. Don't think that you can restore your life just because you went through a program. Your family is going to have to see a change in you first before they can learn to trust you again.
I don't know how religious you are, but God might be the only one who can help you now. If you have no one to turn to he is still there. You didn't lose him to meth too. So you didn't really lose everything.
You may need to spend more time working on yourself before you begin to think about getting your family back. God can give you the strength to do that. Good luck to you. I think it was a good thing asking what to do. Just ignore what mean people say. There is never any shortage of mean people. I wonder what all their sins are? They sure are quick to cast a stone.
2006-09-13 23:48:02 · answer #3 · answered by Kelli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been clean for almost four years now. It is a tough road to travel. Especially when you feel like you are not getting support from family and friends. The best thing you can do for yourself is to get out there and start making a life for yourself away from meth. Sooner or later, they will see how well you are doing and will start to try to mend things over with you. We like to say that we don't have to prove ourselves to anyone, but in truth we do. When we hurt others by doing things like being addicted to meth, we lose their trust and faith in us. It is something to be earned back. It can be done. Just give them time!
2006-09-13 23:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to see where they are coming from especially if you have been stealing from them to fund your habit. The only way to build a relationship with them is to go out on your own and make a life.
If you go to your gp and explain your situation they maybe able to help you with some support system. It will be a slow progress but you should get yourself an honest job and somewhere to live and let them see in their own time that you have sorted things out. Dont pressure them but concentrate on building a better life for yourself. They will see soon enough that you are not the person you once was and let them get the relationship back on their own terms. Dont see this as going it alone but see it as a responsibility that you, a drug free person, are proud of.
2006-09-13 23:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get yourself into counseling for your sake, my son is addicted to crack, he got caught for distributing, and spent time in prison, and then in a halfway house, he is going on over 1 year sobriety, and though he has a positive attitude now, it was really hard for me to trust him. He had lost everything that he owned at least twice, including a great job, and his freedom, it was really heart wrenching for me to watch a son that I cared for treat me like I was just another stranger he could manipulate, lie, and steal from.
He has made his parole and I am concerned for him because of his addiction, I believe him when he tells me that he no longer wants this drug, but as a parent, I am still concerned.
I wish you the best of success with staying off this drug, and rehab does not help at all times, this is going to be a lifetime of desire to stay away from it, don't let your parents get you down, I know you want their approval, but you don't need it.
Get yourself involved with positive reinforcements, please stay clean, and think of you right now, you need to hear more positive things in your life, day by day, one hour at a time.
Prove to yourself that you are a worthy Human Being, hopefully your parents will come around, and if they don't...know that someone out here is praying for you.
Good Luck, God Bless.
2006-09-14 00:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 07:21:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do hope, for your sake, that you got away from that crap.
If you're sincere about trying to reclaim the family you dumped, you need to make the first show of initiative. You need to clean your act up, get responsible, get and keep a job & roof over your head.
Apologize to your family for everything you've put them through. They probably aren't believing you because you didn't finish rehab. You need to make sure you've given all that crap up, forever. AND MEAN IT!!!
It's up to you to choose. Choose wisely, your life and family are depending on this.
2006-09-13 23:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by thatwench 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By family,do you mean Dad & Mom & sibs or is it wife & kids?The family that raised you are no longer obligated to you but if you have lost your wife & children,you do need to stay clean & perhaps ease back into their life at some point.I'm alcoholic & have been dry for over 28 years so It can be done! i wish you the best of luck in staying clean!
2006-09-13 23:49:05 · answer #9 · answered by Putt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you left a sour taste in their mouths. all it takes is some mouthwash. what im saying is that your family didn't turn against you all at once. it was what they were seeing coming from you that did. all you have to do now is show them that you have changed. once they see the new you, then you will be accepted again. Congrats on being clean. way to go, its a hard one to do. keep up the good work
2006-09-14 00:16:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋