I've been going through a rough patch lately and the only thing that keeps me going is the hope / thought of me getting back with my ex. I think about him day and night. I have asked him out but he said no, but i'm hoping (and praying) he'll change his mind.
Why can't I move on?
2006-09-13 23:05:23 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
babe, move on. he said no . it will hurt like hell but hes an ex for a reason. U should try concentrate on whats good for you,do u really want to be with him when he has blatently said no. babe............theres loadsa guys out there and i bet they are much better than ur ex. stay single and live life with a smile, cos u dont know whats round the corner. please.....let him outa ur mind....life really is too short.xxxxx
2006-09-13 23:10:38 · answer #1 · answered by missfunkigroover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard when you break up and especially if you are going through an emotional rough patch but if he does want to get back together then accept that and move on yourself - he obviously has or is.
Ask yourself if it was a good relationship - and then consider it from his point of view. Was anyone to blame or had the relationship just run its course?
Moving on will be tricky but perhaps you need to get out and find other things to occupy you instead of thinking about him all of the time. This is easier said than done but moping at home will not help you and you could get further and further into the sadness you seem to have gotten into.
Don't go looking for another man just get out and find things to do - take up a hobby or interest or do an evening course. It's a good way to meet others and will help you move on and away from your current predicament
2006-09-13 23:14:24 · answer #2 · answered by smileyh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When going through rough patches hope is a gr8 thing to have to make you think that at least there will be something good at the end of it. but unfortunatley it probably won't be your ex your better off getting up and out and keeping as busy as possible and before you know it a day will have gone by when u haven't thought about him then a week then a month and so on and so on. i know its hard but its doable and the sooner the better you start. chin up and keep smiling :--)
2006-09-13 23:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
going from past experience it is never a good idea to go back to an ex. i think because you are going through a rough patch, as you call it, you are looking for a comfort zone to get you through and being with your ex at the moment is probably what you believe will get you through it. it obvious that your ex has no intentions of getting back with you so you need to use your inner strength to concentrate on getting yourself through this time. i have recently been through a very tough time and i know at times you feel alone but you need to focus on something for yourself. set yourself a new goal whether its a change in job, or a part time course, a new hobby anything to take your mind of your current situation. i would definately recommend a trip to the hairdressers for a bit of you time get pampered and get yourself a quick confidence boost when you step out looking glam with a new hair-do. you will soon realise you dont need your ex when you get attention of passer bys. good luck.
2006-09-13 23:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by allyh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was watching a talk show yesterday morning and they were talking about the same thing. The host told the guest that she need to "he-tox". You don't think,talk,or see the guy for 60 days. If you feel like calling him call a girlfriend instead, if he calls you don't answer the phone and call a girlfriend instead. When you feel sad and want a whole gallon of Rocky Road, put on some shorts, and t-shirt and your running shoes and go for a run a walk or to the gym.
2006-09-13 23:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by amc192003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it all maybe too much on you and your last thought of security and good times are with your ex? You dont say if your rough patch relates to him or if there are other issues but maybe you think that getting back with him will solve things?
If he doesnt want to be with you then he doesnt want to be with you and theres really no point in trying to persue it - you cant force someone to change their mind.
Why not involve yourself in something like a hobby etc to take your mind off things?
2006-09-13 23:09:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Lady, I think you know the answer to this which is - nothing is certain in life but probably not. You have already accepted, in your heart, that you need to move on and you just have to find a way to do it. Don't jump from the frying pan into the fire - have a few fun, non-serious dates, to get yourself back on track and laughing - before you think long term. Feel for you - good luck.
2006-09-14 00:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinnking about your ex and do things to keep him off your mind like going out with friends etc.....the more you stop thinking about him the more you will be able to move on. It sounds to me that you and your ex are not going to get back together. Maybe coz he knows he could have you back anytime, he doesnt want you if you stop contacting him he will wonder why and proberly ring you!!! Move On!!
2006-09-13 23:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself some time to come to terms that you're not together for now, meet new people, (don't rush into another relationship) and you'll find it much easier to either win him back that way (at least by proving to him to can do without him) or by moving on.
2006-09-15 06:23:21 · answer #9 · answered by Brains7733 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just need some closure, I don't think he sounds that interested in getting back together (I'm very sorry to say that). You need to just pick yourself up and try to move on with your life, don't even try to get with anyone else just yet. Live your life, enjoy yourself as much as you can and if this guy or someone else comes along then deal with it then. Don't plan your life and happiness around getting back together with this guy.
2006-09-13 23:17:11 · answer #10 · answered by Richard C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋