He has started working again recently but has not offered me any money. Officially he owes me £250 but has actually cost me much more. When I mention it he just says that he hasent spent any of my money, which is true, he just let me spend it on his behalf! I now have unpaid credit card bills of £600 which I have never had before he took so much of my money.He has not even been very grateful for what I have done, what should I say to him? It is making me feel incresingly angry and hard done by.
2006-09-13 22:54:54 · 26 answers · asked by IwishicoulddeleteYahooAnswers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is very good to me in every other respect, however the money is p***ing me off! Hes not a bad boyfriend, he is just ignoring the problem.
2006-09-13 23:00:48 · update #1
if he knows that you have the credit card bill and is still refusing to give you money - dump him. If he doesnt know - tell him.
How long has he been back working for? Im not making excuses for him not paying you back, but if hes not back to work long maybe he's trying to pay off a few of his own things first, or get a bit of cash in his back pocket and then pay you back?
Whatever the reason though you need to sit down and speak seriously to him about this and explain how you're feeling about this. At the end of the day you did him a favour and he doesnt seem to recognise this.
2006-09-13 23:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was put in a similar position supporting my ex-fiance financially while she fought a divorce settlement and she worked for a pittance to qualify for legal aid. I even bought a place in Scotland by the sea to try and keep her happy on the understanding that she would move there first and pay towards it while I looked for work. She changed her mind and I had to sell to stay solvent. It got to the stage where I could't help any more and when I tried to explain this, her last words were, call me back when you have sorted your Sh*t out. This was after buying an engagement ring for £1200. I now owe £15000. She phoned me back 6 months later suggesting we try again. Needless to say I have never phoned back. I can't afford a relationship with her or anyone else.
My situation may sound extreme compared to yours, but it may act as a warning to not let your situation drag on as long as mine did. Especially if there are no signs of any understanding or help from your boyfriend in the near future.
Good luck
Taliesin
2006-09-14 00:46:04 · answer #2 · answered by Taliesin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this for AAAAGES!!
If he keeps sponging off you until you have no or hardly any money left for anything else, you need to steal or he owes you more than $50...tell him to get some ASAP! (Centrelink, relatives, gifts, job, etc!) or to quit asking you to buy you stuff! (Like take-away all the time to get even more overweight and wobbly!)
If he doesn't bother to pay you back at all or spends all his money on too many crappy things, then he has no respect for money, saving, people who care or even you-he is just using you!
If he really respected you and wasn't using you, he'd be paying you back ASAP, stop being SO/too greedy and start getting his own money-and if so, SAVING some!!!
2006-09-13 23:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him the credit card bills and any other bills you have accrued and suggest that you both work out a way of paying them (with the emphasis on HIM!). Let him know how you feel, that he's taking advantage of you, and that you deserve better treatment. If he's reluctant, walk away - once a miser and a user, always a miser and a user. Good luck.
2006-09-13 22:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Roxy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should be volunteering to help clear up your debt, now that he's back on his feet, not excusing himself.
This same thing happened to me, my partner claimed that he'd never actually asked for anything (which...eeeee... is true) therefore the £10,000 debt wasn't his problem.
I'm afraid you've been used.
Either dump him and put it down to experience, or try and live with it...but you'll always be resentful of this
2006-09-13 23:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that was achoice you made granted he should be willing to help you and give you some money. You said he let you spend money on him well if you did't let yourself spend money on him you wouldn't be in this situation, you are resonsible for your own fall no matter how hard anybody pushes you. best to cut your losses learn a lesson and move on.
2006-09-13 23:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by theone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 22:48:32 · answer #7 · answered by regula 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he know that you have an unpaid credit balance of £600. Maybe if you tell him, he would agree to help you out.
2006-09-13 22:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Elchin I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about your unpaid bills and ask him to help you since he started working. If he refuses to help, leave him as he is so selfish and not worth having as a boyfriend.
2006-09-13 23:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by Tan M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stop giving him money right now sounds like he wants a mother figure instead of a two way street relationship with you. My advice is lose him before you lose everything you have worked for.
2006-09-13 22:58:55 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋