I have a 6 yr old boy. hes so intelligent at school top of the class his behaviour as been better at school but hes completly different with me. we do all sorts of things like go swimming, cinema but that never seems good enough. as soon as i say no thats it he will have a strop but hes so nasty with me. he shouts at me and argues with me its like i would be arguing with an adult.he will be so nasty if front of my friends and especially start when we go out its just getting worse.i have just had about enough of it. even bed time is bad
i would really appreciate any adice off anyone.
thank you x
2006-09-13 22:41:01 · 9 answers · asked by Natalie P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
He's only six! It is totally natural for six year olds to throw tantrums and say nasty things...just be patient with him and hopefully he'll grow out of it.
2006-09-13 22:42:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids can be a challenge, no doubt about it. But they REALLY need discipline and consistency. He needs to know that YOU are the boss, the one in charge, not the other way around. He is only 6 and will get away with as much as he feels that he CAN and then try to push a little more. You need to get back in control and let him know who's boss. If you don't, you are REALLY in for trouble as he gets into his teenage years, it will be too late then. Good luck, it's going to take some time and CONSISTENCY, give him a punishment and STICK WITH IT. Whether it is a time out, no TV, no playing outside, whatever, just STICK WITH IT so he sees that you mean business. He has been allowed to push you around. A smack on the behind can get his attention too (I didn't say BEATING...!!!) Hang in there.
2006-09-13 23:06:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i have 5 kids and my six year old has a lot of similarities.although my son has suspected adhd. he too is very intellegent and behaves slightly better at school but at home he is violent and abusive in nasty (he doesnt use bad language as i dont).
the steps i have found in helping his behaviour are as follows
1/ sticker chart that runs weekly at the end of the week we add his stickers and give him a clear goal of how many he needs to get a treat or day out somewhere
2/ believe it or not naughty step or chair he hates this so now even if i threaten to put him on it he trys behave
bear with it take away the things he likes refuse to take him out and explain to hiom that because of the way he behaves you feel unable to take him out he will soon click on
hope this helps i knoe from experience that this can really get you down
2006-09-13 23:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by sharrifarri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a situation that calls for a heavy leather belt. He needs more boundaries, he should NOT be stressing you out, MOM, you are the boss and apparently he doesn't know that. Make him to know, I mean, don't BEAT him, just make him to respect you and then don't WORRY about his poor little feelings. Kids actually crave discipline, but they will never ask for it. His demands require NO response. Try it and I guarantee you'll walk away smiling and he will get back in line. I promise. You'rea good mom (I think you are female..didn't check your name really) so don't feel guilty! Best wishes and Godspeed.
2006-09-13 22:46:06 · answer #4 · answered by Sleek 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is rude - spank him - he may act 16 but being 6 he is still young enough to get a smacking when he is blatantly disrespectful to you
my son went through a phase of being rude to me when he was 6 for reasons that were beyond me. if i was getting him ready to go someone that HE enjoyed and got rude i would say 'OK take your coat and shoes off OUTING CANCELLED due to rudeness'
if he shouts - make him sit on the stairs for 10 minutes
eventually he got the message that being rude and difficult with mama = no treats
when i took him back to school after the holidays he must have said something at school in response to 'where did you go to over your Easter break' because his teacher came to me and said 'he wasn't being naughty HE WAS BORED'
I KNOW FOR A FACT that his teacher wouldn't put up with that kinda thing in her classroom and i let them know in no UNCERTAIN TERMS that i wasn't putting up with it either.
so on the the present
after a LOT of firm handling my son has turned some corners and a year after the above he was awarded a 'star pupil headmasters award' for being a model pupil
so if i can offer advice then it would be to be firm and don't give in to your sons behaviour - dont be afraid to smack his hide if he wont co-operate with you.
2006-09-13 23:53:34 · answer #5 · answered by Aslan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is 4 and he thinks hes 18 if i dont do what he ask me right now he gos and gets a chair gets in the closet starts getting food out and put it in the toast oven I'm scared he will get HURT, he tells me off f words , but he is so sweet sometimes , i cant go out to eat b/c he wont sit in a chair walks around . i know how you feel , bed time is when ever he wants it to be . i have tried time outs , telling him no more pet (his 3 turtles) , the only thing that works is taken toys out of his room and putting it in a trash bag , i dont realy throw it away but he thinks so , it works sometimes
2006-09-13 22:52:03 · answer #6 · answered by erich's mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but you may want to learn to spell. Perhaps you and he could help each other. Mother-Son time.
2006-09-13 22:44:56 · answer #7 · answered by sjwhvac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but my 14 yr old can act that way.
2006-09-17 12:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give us a break
2006-09-13 22:43:43 · answer #9 · answered by el.tuco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋