we were in love,but jealousy,lies and deciet are tearing us apart,he is doin more of the listening than the ignoring the hear say issue when two people are in love,he is letting people talk because he is listening to their lies and he cant give me a single chance to explain myself,because every thing is not true,so i know one day he'll learn the truth and he might want to come back,i love him so much but he dumped me,but i want to wait for him,how long should i wait and am i doing the right thing
2006-09-13 22:03:33 · 27 answers · asked by quebbles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
why don't you ask him to talk to you, heart to heart, without considering what others are saying and just try to listen to you with all his heart, for just one day? set a place and time wherein you know you two can be alone and just try to talk about all possible issues he has in yourrelationship.
if after it, he (or if you) still feels it's not worth to stay in a relationship with so many unresolved issues, then he doesn't probably love you as much... that's when you decide to break up with him. you don't wait for anything else.
2006-09-13 22:09:26 · answer #1 · answered by kamahalan_12 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not wait for him (why waste the time). This same thing happened to me. I dated a guy who behaved in the exact same way he believed everything everyone said and did not give me the chance/or even listen to anything i had to say. Funny because just like you I kept waiting for him to come back and when he did he would just hurt me again and again until i had nothing more to give and realised that as long as i kept waiting or taking him back this would be the same experience and said no and have kept saying no. So take it from me We did love each other and many envied us but i put my foot down and moved on. We are still friends but not close. He has a way of talking me back into a relationship with him so we keep intouch by phone but once in a blue moon kinda way..
2006-09-13 23:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are these people??? Was it not possible for it to just be the two of you without allowing a crowd to join you two into your relationship.
If you didn't invite other folks along for the ride you'd probably still be together. The relationship suppose to be just between you and your mate. Stop telling your LOVE business to others, that goes for him too.
If he's Dumped you because of reasons given from HEARSAY from others without listening to your side of the story, especially if it was no truth to any of it, then, he's just using that as an excuse to leave anyway.
If you've already had sex with him then, he has no reason to stay...he's got what he wanted.
You're the one in Love. Not him, maybe not with you, anyway.
NO ONE CAN BREAK UP A COUPLE THAT'S REALLY, truly, N LOVE. A couple that's really in LOVE comes to the conclusion and discern when OUTSIDERS are trying to break them up and on their own ,decide to KEEP TO THEMSELVES, IN MUTUAL AGREEMENT.
He has another agenda, probably, like another woman.
2006-09-13 23:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Vera W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no,
If he doesn't even believe your side of the story then he obviously has no trust, you don't want or need a man like that you deserve better
When i first got with my man all the pathetic boys round my area started telling him a load of **** about me, some of it was true but most if it wasn't.
I just admitted to him what i had done and told him they were lying about everything else. If you have got anything to hide though i thinks its best that you tell him now as secrets aren't secrets forever.
Also the people that are doing this are just jealous prats trying to bring ou down don't let them and be strong!
2006-09-13 23:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him, he's not the guy for you. This sounds like a bad relationship, things like this never get better. The person you probably want to spend your life with is kind and, loves you more than anything in the world, and mostly he respects you. Find that someone, and than you'll be sure that you've made the right choice! Good luck!
2006-09-14 03:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your wrong on waiting for him. you allready know there is a problem with him listening to lies and get jealous through your relationship. get on with your life and find someone who will trust you, give you love- true love, and peace of mind. some of you girls really need to stop putting everything so easy for the boys. why would you wait he's probably with another girl behind your back and also could of used the excuse of hearing things about because he couldn't bring himself to telling you the truth.
2006-09-13 22:11:38 · answer #6 · answered by sexydiabla592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he speaks English and you talk the way you write, I'm not surprised he has given up trying to listen to you.
Take it on the chin, move on, get yourself an education and some self respect and learn how to communicate more effectively.
Oh, and until you do, stop spouting this drivel in public; it's annoying and makes you look like an idiot.
2006-09-13 22:14:26 · answer #7 · answered by lickintonight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is unconditional, and though i know it hurts that he has left you, your love still holds strong. But think of this, any man who does not believe the one he loves over all else, any man who turns his back and runs, isnt in love, because his love is conditional, i know its not the answer you wnated and in a way it avoids your question. i cant tell you how long to wait because id wait until the ends of time to win back a love lost, for the one chance they may fall bak in love. whatever you choose to do, dont believe the lies others say, the ones that drove him away. x
2006-09-13 22:10:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hold of him one last time. speak ur heart out. give him say...2 weeks to think things thru and made it clear that u cant live in uncertainty like this. when the times up, ask him what he thinks of the whole thing and if he still want to be stubborn..then i guess thats your answer.
it really hurts but the fact is, if he still dont want to patch things up then it only shows that not only CAN he live without you, but he PREFERS it.
walk away and never look back, even if he begged later on. if he can hurt u now, he can hurt u again.
2006-09-13 22:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by aishah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an *** because he does not let you explain yourself, and listens to others before listening to you. Give him one more try to redeem himself, make him listen to you, tell him you love him and make him see what is true and what are lies and let him make his decision if he ignores you turn around and never look back.
2006-09-13 22:09:37 · answer #10 · answered by adrian p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋