why do men not offer seats more promptly to pregnant women on the trains?

Question

What factors are involved in offering seats to the elderly, pregnant women and children?

Answer 1

Two reasons:

1) Some people think it's hypocritical that women have insisted on equal treatment, but still expect special treatment. And some people (myself included) have been *scolded* by women for offering their seat to them, because they thought they were being patronised.

2) Others believe that pregnant women deserve no special privileges because their condition is "self-inflicted", but would still give seats to the elderly or disabled.

Take your pick.

Answer 2

Offering a seat to pregnant women, children or the elderly is a sign of politeness. If someone is polite, then they will offer it, if not then they won't. There are no factors involved except wether or not the person is an ***.
To answer your first question, I believe that the answer is because women have spent so much time trying to show men and the world that they are equal, that a man (who's not polite) just gets mad when you want the seat.. you're supposto be equal.. you can stand like everyone else.
I on the other hand had to take a train trip with a 3 year old, a 1 year old and my husband, and there was no place that there were 2 seats together. I couldn't leave the babies alone in a seat with a stranger, so I walked up to a man who was taking up 3 seats laying down and politely told him to move. He did.. he wasn't happy about it, but he did.. I feel that I have the right to tell a single man to move when I'm travelling with 2 kids that can't sit by themselves.

Answer 3

Why do men not offer seats more promptly to ANY women on the trains?

We were riding a short train several weeks ago, and it was packed--standing room only. I was standing by one of the doors, and was looking around, and about 75% of the people who were fortunate enough to be sitting were men. There were quite a few men standing, but the number of women standing was ridiculous. They included 2 pregnant women, about 5 elderly women, and a BUNCH of very tired, worn out looking women. Unless a man is physically disabled, I think he should always offer his seat to a woman--ANY woman--not just one who is old or pregnant. I'm old fashioned that way, I guess.

Answer 4

Because people have no common courtesy, manners, or compassion these days.............and in this case that goes for women too.......anyone could and should offer a seat to a pregnant woman, elderly, or disabled person. I was seven months pregnant with twins waiting for a table at a busy restaurant and not a single person there offered me a place to sit......I was shocked because I certainly would've have offered my seat to someone in need. And for those of you that think pregnancy is self inflicted and a pregnant woman should not be given any special treatment, why don't you try carrying another human being in your body or in my case 2 human beings and see if you would not be overly grateful to be offered a seat!!!! This isn't about women's rights......it's about being decent compassionate human beings.....whether male or female.

Answer 5

Men in general have become rather lax in their manners or they have not been taught. Most public transportation have notices posted stating that certain seats are reserved for the elderly and disabled but do not stipulate pregnancy or children! Pregnant women must take it upon themselves to ask for a seat, if needed.

Answer 6

Basically it's the way a person was brought up! If you are taught those manners and see people around you engage in such practices it's get contages. In your mind you say to your self "Hey let me let this women sit down" but if you have not be taught those manners it's not part of your mind set.

Men that act like this do not feel that they are being rude. If you have not been taught something you just do not know... If you do not practice these things its very uncomfortable to do something like that.

Remember when you take the inititive ask a women "do you want to sit down" some men might feel that everyone is looking at them and they find them selves doing what other are doing it's the old "I'll just act like everybody else" it a challenge in our society to be different in public.

The Bottom line is "if you don't know you just don't know"!

Answer 7

All of these guys talking about "you wanted equal rights, now suffer the consequences" are not picking up on the real point (but enjoy your snickering just the same, fellas). The point is that she's PREGNANT, not just a woman, a PREGNANT woman. It's not a disability, per se, but it's a helluva lot to deal with on a hot, crowded, moving-starting-stopping train. And, after all guys, all of your mommas were pregnant once. Wouldn't you have wanted them to have a seat on the bus?

Answer 8

FIrst - think of the location where you live...if it's a big city with a lot of hustle and bustle, forget it. It's a different time, some guys can give two craps about wanting to surrender a seat, let alone to a pregnant woman.

But on the other hand if it were me, on a subway, and I saw that you were pergnant (hypothetically speaking), I would surrender my seat in a heart beat. It's all about location!

Answer 9

Yes men sometimes did not offer seats on the trains or bus to pregnant women with their little children,to very old men/women and to handicaped persons.It is caused by their selfish attitude,not knowing good etiquette and not be a gentlemen..They did not know that by giving helps to others they will have a good deeds and be rewarded by our God.

Answer 10

that is a good question. I do and my bf is a true gentlemen, will not take a seat if a woman in the vicinity does not have a seat. In fact all of my male friends are this way. Manners are a big deal in south african society. We may be more conservative than some countries but we have not lost our manners.