2006-09-13 20:57:18 · 18 answers · asked by trisha s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably right. The short and obvious answer is that you should develop some self-confidence and trust, but that's easier said than done!
The best way to gain self-confidence is to become good at something. It doesn't matter what, just have some activity that you enjoy doing and are good at. It helps if the activity is a social one, so others can recognize and appreciate you.
As for trust... hopefully that comes with time, when your boyfriend has had time to develop a track record of reliability and trustworthiness. I think self-confidence helps with developing trust, too.
For now, you're aware that there is a problem. That's always the first step in fixing it. Stay aware of it and work on fixing it, and it'll become less of a problem as time goes by.
Good luck!
2006-09-13 21:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he given you any reason to be jealous? If not then you should just trust him because no man wants an insecure jealous girlfriend. Besides you have to take risks in a relationship because you never really stop getting to know a person and you never know what they are capable of doing. So trust him and if he breaks your heart, you pick up the pieces and move on. Someone will come along who will help you piece your heart back together.
2006-09-14 04:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by adrian p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club... if he has done nothing to make you distrust him than you should stop worrying. But if you cant shake off the womanly intuition that he is cheating, tell him that....you should be able to see it in his eyes....if not then how well do you really know this man? If you dont believe that he has cheated, but fear that he might... well then you have to drop that!! Men hate to be constantly accused of that. So make a clear choice either trust him or leave... all the other stuff is not fun... trust me...be with someone who allows you to trust them. You deserve to be in a healthy, loving, honest relationship. Read this article if you are still stuck... It helped me realize a lot about the type of men I have dated and why... :)
2006-09-14 04:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear
Go for his comments do what he likes, but don’t cross your limit and don’t allow him to stand on your head. He is only your boyfriend that’s it, not your husband. If you are looking him as a life partner for future then go for my comments as above.
Go for the above for couple of weeks then watch is their any change on him, if he still feels the same as you asked on your question. Then start to ignore him his words and try to show that you don’t care about his feeling now, but in a cool manner. Try this if you don’t find any result then ask me at surajthathayil@yahoo.co.in.
Bye take are and good luck
Suraj from India
2006-09-14 04:08:29 · answer #4 · answered by suraj t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, there was a stage in my relationship with my bf that i was extremely insecure and jealous, i would always check his phone when he wasnt around and i used to question him constantly about where he has been and if any girls approached him... but now i try to keep my head up and i think to myself, why is there any need to feel so insecure, hes MINE, no 1 elses, im with him and F**K everyone else... Just be confident within yourself, if you ACT like your NOT jealous and insecure, he will actually want you more, trust me, when my bf trys to make me jealous i just laugh and change the subject like im not bothered, i can tell that in his mind hes thinking WTF why isnt she responding... lol...
Theres nothing to worry about, just keep positive, and as long as your self esteem is high and your confident, you will feel less insecure in your relationship ok... im sure your beautiful and you just feel slighty inferior, it will eventually go away! x
2006-09-14 07:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of life is about "Self Control" Not easy but one must try or live with the consequences.
2006-09-14 04:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRy be urself with time ul change but learn to trust him its importatant
2006-09-14 04:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have trust in the relationship, it will never work. He's with you, not someone else, so get over it.
2006-09-14 07:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get over it, even when its eating you inside - go to the bathroom n let it out just dont let him see you break a sweat!
2006-09-14 03:58:42 · answer #9 · answered by cvegas229 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to break up, good way to see if he really loves you!
2006-09-14 04:04:08 · answer #10 · answered by Michael 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋