I'm disabled & someone I thought was a friend betrayed me & dumped my 3 wonderful children at the Department of Human Services & they won't give my kids back...she made all sorts of HORRIBLE accusations about me & The lawyer for the kids seems to think I'm retarded & unfit to parent!!! I will get them back BUT I think I am loosing my faith in humanity, I have been turning the other cheek but It would be so easy to lose my temper....Do you have any kind words or inspiration for a person like me???
2006-09-13 19:13:21 · 21 answers · asked by Catcanscratch 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
My kids were perfectly happy with me but now that they are in state custody they are picking up curse words & bad behaviors....Not being able to walk doesn't make me any less of a caring mom
2006-09-13 19:31:25 · update #1
Hang in there.
I hope more than anything that you get your kids back.
Its horrible when things like this happen and I have a serious fear of this.
Be careful who your friends are in the future.
Dont consider this person a friend ever again.
Keep your calm and prove them wrong.
Save your angry rants for on here or around family, not in court.
Be careful and good luck!!
2006-09-13 19:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by BoredomStrikes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, that's really rough.
Yes, there are times when it is easy to give up on humanity. But hang in there. You aren't really expected to turn the other cheek for something like this either - you need to realize that you probably are better off knowing what kind of person that is and getting them out of your life.
Hmm... I'm sorry, that's not very inspirational is it.
Okay, well here's something else. One of my good friends is disabled. And yet, she is the permanent caretaker for her mother and father. Her mother has a host of health problems, including that she's gone blind from diabetes. My friend has taken care of her for the last 10 years. She hasn't been able to work outside the home. She has put many things on hold. And there are those who would never blame her for simply resenting her own situation - without the complications of her parents. When I was talking to her one day, she told me that of course she gets tired. But when someone asked her why she does it, her answer was "They are my parents. Isn't that what you are supposed to do?" She didn't realize why the other person thought this was significant. I pointed out to her that in similar situations many people would have given over custody of her parents to the state. They would have been put into a care home somewhere - and then no one would visit because they would feel too guilty. Her simple belief that this is what she should do - that sometimes you really must put others first - reaffirms for me that there is still good out there. Sometimes it is hiding, and sometimes it is delayed, but it is there. And as long as I have people like her to remind me to be grateful about the good things in the world, it helps me get through the bad.
Best of luck to you - and don't give up!
2006-09-14 02:25:34 · answer #2 · answered by tigglys 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you are in this position I can't imagine being in your shoes as I read your question. All I know I've not been there but if you are in it now "you can get out of it". You do need help and I'm sure there is a group of people who can assist you in your city. Whatever the complaint is against you being a unfit mother you can turn your life around and be fit again. Whatever it takes believe you can by your own power and God's blessings pull yourself out of it.....sometimes we want others to do it for us....but there are times we must face facts and do it ourselves....we who are reading this question do not know the details but only you know....call the Salvation Army or the Red Cross or a local church office for guidance....it's never too late. Whatever is wrong in your home fix it....make it a better place to bring up your children....they deserve the best the basics. Love, food and cleanliness and security is what kids need to grow up to be good citizens...best of luck and God bless you....
2006-09-14 02:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Mama Jazzy Geri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not be desperate.Be an optimistic person.You must give the evidence to convince others that you are capable although you are a disabled man and not retarded man..Maybe you can show them your monthly income and your wealth that is enough for raising your own children. You must confidence on your capability
and do not feel loosing your faith in humanity.You can not lose your temper.You must be keep patient.A patient man will be loved by our God.If you lost temper you have been tempted by satans and you are the loser.Please try and try again to get your beloved children.May God blessed you.
2006-09-14 02:33:50 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ain't easy, sister. I am also disabled. DSHS took our first two away. So let's try this:
a) Please don't lose faith in humanity because you will soon lose faith in yourself as well.
b) With all the anger here, where is this other cheek? Looks to me like you have collected and stirred well.
c) Go with the flow. If you think losing your temper will help anything...including the way you feel, EXPLODE!
d) Inspiration - take a quick look at how silver/gold is "cleansed."
e) Psalm 121
f) Find a way to pray for each person you are mad at even if it is only "Lord, I thank you they are the people who have to live with them."
Shalom
2006-09-14 02:20:48 · answer #5 · answered by Joe Cool 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Humanity is a terrible place to put your faith. Humans are fallen creatures, slated for the grave. Without guidance from God, those among us who act best are prone to deceit, cruelty, betrayal, and everything else that people feel and do.
I'm sorry that your friend behaved this way. You can choose to turn the other cheek--and you can also choose not to be friends with her anymore. If you are tempted to lose your temper around her, just don't be around her. Deal with your anger with someone you trust. Certainly express your anger--as anger in and of itself is not a bad thing. There are justifiable reasons to be angry sometimes. It doesn't mean you're bad; it means you've been treated unfairly.
What I do when someone betrays me is I look in the mirror. Have I ever in my life betrayed another? Yes, I have. Who am I to judge? I ask God for the humility to accept my current circumstances, and to help me more clearly see exactly why I need him, how I need him, and why I don't want to be without him--because when I am apart from God, I don't act any better than many of those around me.
I also pray for mercy. I remember my own sins, and well imagine how they banged in the nails on Christ's cross--and in this, I am put on a level playing field with all other human beings.
When I remember again the mercy Christ has shown me even though I have sinned against God, it is easier for me to have mercy for others.
2006-09-14 02:23:39 · answer #6 · answered by Gestalt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is our nature to be sinners it is hard to be good. Unfortunately maybe your friend really felt like the children were needing something. I am sure if you were not guilty of anything that will be brought to light and everything will be worked out. If you are disabled , are you still able to care for the children? I am sure it will all work out, and God will do whatever is best for the children.
2006-09-14 02:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Godb4me 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Satan is fighting everyone who is trying to walk in Christ's shadow. Hang in there and do not lose your faith over another human's error. Remember, that you also are sinful and when you make mistakes you want God to forgive you.
2006-09-14 02:41:45 · answer #8 · answered by Sparkle1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep faith and hope for a better day but continue with life but dont regret anything just learn from it and the more you think about some thing positive or negative the more it becomes true so put your mind to it and do it and also your not a retadr because your typing is good
2006-09-14 02:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by duy n 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to go into the whole dramatic story of mine. But trust me when I say that if you do what you believe is right & stick with it, great things will come to you. Just stand your ground & don't let them bring you down. I know it's hard, but you can do it. Good luck to you
2006-09-14 02:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Brooke~* 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋