I am in university and last semester I had a history course with this boy who I never really spoke with, but I really liked him. I am far too shy to act on my feelings, as I have been shy my whole life and this was no exception. For a 19 yr old I am incredibly naive about relationships and love and anything in that realm of life. And I could never understand why he acted so strangely around me. In discussion he would sit across the room and keep looking at me, but when I looked at him he would quickly turn away. In group assignment, we were placed in the same group and when I would ask him a question he would get completely tongue-tied and he never looked me in the eye. When I asked him for the assignment sheet he dropped all of his papers on the floor. He stood in the rain to hold the door open for me. Whenever he would see me he would immediately start talking to a random student he didn't know. I didn't understand him at all. Now I don't see him, but I can't seem to forget him.
2006-09-13 19:08:30 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
More importantly, this scenario has happened before and then too I was unsure of how to react. How is a shy person ever to overcome her shyness so that they can experience what others get to experience? I feel like my shyness is coming in the way of meeting some potentially wonderful people.
2006-09-13 19:12:21 · update #1
Well I sort of have to forget him because UC Berkeley is so large that it's likely I won't see him again. 40,000+ on campus after all...
2006-09-13 19:16:36 · update #2
Your description of the boy says that you loved him, they boy knew this, that's why he kept looking at you. He too was in love with you...but like you he too was shy of something...that's why both of you parted without expressing your feelings to each-other.
There are always people whom we loved, and were loved by them in return, though the love is never actually expressed.
What to do in such situation...such people always remain in our sweetest memories, whenever we are down...we can lift our spirits by just one memory of that person.
What will happen to you...you should nurture and cherish this sweet memory. It is likely that you'll meet the person yet again (it has happened to me), but in reality nothing earthshattering happens, you meet, your heart aches a little, you part again...and the feeling remains.
2006-09-13 19:16:31 · answer #1 · answered by sameer s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sounds like your friend might be just as shy and scared as you are...and from your description, is probably interested in you right back. I'm sorry because you sound sad about not seeing him any more. If you really can't get him off your mind, maybe you can get up enough courage to find him and talk to him? It may be just the push he needs to talk back. No guts, no glory. I know it's scary, and there's always the chance of rejection, but at this rate, what have you got to lose? I know you don't want to live like this forever, so go out and try. Take baby steps...it will get easier. I wish you the best.
2006-09-13 19:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Cindi A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you should of hinted to him that you liked him cause you probabably intimadated him.Hey guys are shy too!Know if you ever see him again you probably will have a boyfriend or him have a girl that will suck for both of u cause when you think about it how did that other girl show him she liked him.Or viseversa!Do not ever be shy you will learn from every guy you date,you sure learned from this,right.I'm gonna share something with you,I saw this man oneday he lived in my fathers apts.I had just broken up with an abusive boy friend who beat me all the time and i mean all the time.very jealouse guy,anyway i saw this guy i really liked him but like you i was shy and scared and nervouse but i said to my self OH! by the way i was still so in love with my ex.But i knew one day he would kill me,anyway something told me when he goes some where leave a letter on his door and i did,girl it took me 4-5 times running back and forth to get the balls to leave it but i did,Guess what happened 1year later he asked me to marry him,so see stop missing out on expiriences in life just go for it!you can e-mail me to talk more i'm 28 so i lived my life to the fullest.verosammy78@yaho.com
2006-09-13 19:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by jazy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounded like this guy liked you too, but was too affraid to make a move. Do you have his email? If you do tell him who you are, and tell him how you feel. This is the best way to get rid of those feelings, and if he likes you back you could probably start a long distence relationship. If he rejects you then you'll get over him sooner. If you don't have it try asking one of your friends from that school if they have it.
If you still have troube getting over him, get involved in more activities aroubd campus like clubs. Start hanging out with your friends more, going places, and meeting new guys. Staying busy is the best way to get him off your mind.
2006-09-13 19:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Marcus O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a protracted time in the past (in my youthful and dumb years) I had married very youthful and had a infant. We have been shifting to New Orleans via fact he reported our lives may be greater valuable there. We had an previous beat up automobile and have been driving from Kansas city. We have been someplace in Mississippi and we stopped for gas, with little money. As i became walking as much as pay for the gas with my infant on my hip, a stranger stopped and reported he had paid for our gas and that he was hoping issues have been given greater valuable for me. I unquestionably have not at all forgotten him and picture of him usually. My life did get greater valuable after a divorce and a college training. pay attention on your mom and dad, little ones!!!! They understand what they understand of what they talk!
2016-10-14 23:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an open mind when it comes to meeting someone new, but in the back of your head, always remember if it is meant to be it will happen. I have been in the same situation and as bad as it hurts, you will get over it if things don't go your way.
TIME HEALS EVERYTHING(sooner or later).
2006-09-13 19:19:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do other things that will take yout mind of him. Just do not do anything you two did together. Also try to meet other people, that will take your mind off him. I have had my mind on someone for the last 8 years and it is bad, I have dated other people but it does not matter, I still think about her everyday.
2006-09-13 19:10:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was like that before very shy person and its hard for me to express my feeling because of afraid of rejection. most often i act without thinking and don't know how to behave properly when the girl is there.. thats was before my teen life.... i understand the boy, he just have no confindence to express his feelings to you, he is just afraid that maybe you will reject him. as what i understand for you is that you have also feelings to him, though you don't if it is love, from the kindness that you see to him.. i guess what is the best you do is not to forget but tresure the memories.. maybe by chance you will meet its other and talk........ guys sometimes doing things randomly without thinking when he saw her crush.......
2006-09-13 20:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this man had feelings 4 you. FURTHER more you must be BEAUTIFUL for him to stare.Sounds like you had feelings as well.
2006-09-13 19:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
over time u'll forget him i guess. since u will never see him again.
2006-09-13 19:12:19 · answer #10 · answered by keira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋