My girl and I were talking tonight about things we would like to do. The topic of Anal Sex came up and I said that I have never done that and neither has she so I would like to do it. She started questioning me about why I would want that. That she thought that I loved her. She asked why I would even want to do that. I told her because I never had and I would want to do that with her because I want to expierence everything with her and the other reason is she has never done it. It's not like I have to have it, fantisize about it, or even crave it. It is just that I want to try it and because I love her I wanted to share that new expierence with her. She made me feel like a real jerk by even mentioning it. Told me why would I want to hurt her like that and just continued to ask me over and over why I wanted to. I have no big reason. I hear from friends and stuff that it is awesome and can someone tell me what to do. Was I wrong to ask her that. Any feedback or opinions on it
2006-09-13 18:25:18 · 35 answers · asked by mtjs06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next time you are spooning, wait until she falls asleep. Then quietly and gently apply some lube to her. Rub "yourself" against the opening and then just jam it in. If you go too slow there is a chance she'll wake up and push you away. But if she wakes up after it's already in, she has no right to complain, so just tell her to keep quiet until the deed is done. If she screams in pain, it's more because it hurts "in a good way," so ignore it. She might act like she hates you the next morning, but give her a week, and she'll be begging for more.
2006-09-15 12:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by donatello 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I don't think you were wrong to ask her. You were both having a discussion about things you would like to do. When Anal was mentioned, you should have asked her opinion on the subject. Her response would have told you wether or not to continue on the subject. The most common thing I hear is "ewww...exit...not an entrance".
She should have just told you that was something she was not comfortable with and change the subject.
But what about you? Are you willing to enjoy some anal stimulation of your own? For some ladies, it's a tit for tat situation. If you want me to do it, then you have to do it also.
However, I have a feeling there won't be any anal action coming from this lady!
2006-09-13 18:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by ShutterbugNS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes that is very disturbing to any woman that would not feel good at all to her or any other female at all and yes I am siding with her I'd have to say what she has repeated over and over is relavent in more ways then one.
she may not have asked you that if it was not ainal.
You need to know how to approch things better then the way that you did if you approched the topic a bit or a lot different or what have you else and again nothing that has to do with ainal even if you are curius there are many other things that are not so distrubing to People or her that are considered normal but nothing ainal at all.
So unless you want to scare her stop while you are ahead or you might lose her and she may considere you more then a jerk -more like a freak or something worse .
2006-09-13 18:36:46 · answer #3 · answered by Peace Man 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Men need to understand that women are not the same in that area in that it actually feels better for a man. He has a lot of nerve endings there which women don't so although it can be pleasurable for a guy, its just plain painful for a woman. Its just not enjoyable so that's probably why she is wondering why you want to do something to her that can't be anything but painful for her.
All you can do is to let her know that is really is no big deal to you and assure her that it doesn't matter if it upsets her so much. I don't think you were wrong for asking her... I mean she asked and you were talking about it so you were just being honest. Continue to be honest with her. She is probably concerned that you have a big need for it and she may feel a little insecure about satisfying you if she doesn't do it. Let her know that she satisfies you without it and explain to her what you did to us. Men seem to be obsessed with anal sex. Some women do it because they want to please their lover but there are a very few women who actually enjoy it so you are asking a lot of her. Perhaps she could buy a toy and perform it on you first? Think about how open to that you are and remember.. its better for guys so if you are not into it, imagine how she feels?
2006-09-13 18:36:43 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some girls are really disturbed or disgusted by the idea, but you are right, there are many girls who are really into it. I think you can confidently feel that you did not do anything wrong. Wanting to try different things sexually should be okay and sharing your ideas with your woman should be encouraged. If she does not want to try it, then dont, but down the road she may change her mind. If she does bring it up again, I would re-assure her how gentle you intend to be. You should start with a smaller insertion (like your finger) and you might need to use some lubricant.
2006-09-13 18:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Zero Cool 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
She's not as sexually adventurous as you are. That's all it is. She reacted badly but i think that's a product of what she's been conditioned to think about anal sex. I know a lot of girls (normal and well adjusted) who enjoy it and even ask for it although I don't particularly like it or dislike it...It's ok...
No you were not wrong to ask her. But like any other request, sometimes the answer is "no."
2006-09-13 18:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by spindoccc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may be aware of the fact that AIDS is spread by anal sex. It's very unnatural. Your body is not made for this type of sex, and as a result, millions of people have died a painful death. I don't think you were actually wrong to ask her - just uninformed...)(
2006-09-13 18:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by MissKathleen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how old is she. she could possibly be a lil misinformed, or maybe she has heard bad stories or possibly think its degrading. maybe its you that should be questioning her.
you need to let her know that you would neva wanna hurt her and that the same as normal sex it depends on the situation and people weather it hurts or not.
you need to let her know that you dont like being interregated for giving your opinion.
good luck mate :O)
2006-09-13 18:31:31 · answer #8 · answered by amor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dah!!! Listen to yourself man you sound like a pick-up artist and a selfish -------!!! Its not love its LUST! ask yourself this... WHAT WILL SHE GET OUT OF IT? you should fell like a jerk...Go get a large flash light later tonight and sticking it up your --- and see if you feel like you still want to experience this with your girlfriend that you love so much...Wake up my friend before you screw everything up.
2006-09-13 19:18:47 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Phill klueyain Jr. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why mention it if you have no intention of wanting it?
I did the same thing as a joke to a girlfriend and it was the worst mistake i ever mande
2006-09-13 18:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋