I met this sweet gorgeous girl in an unusual setting. It turns out that she is nowhere near being over this guys she was with for two years. He wants nothing to do with her and yet she pursues him. I took her on a date, Im not sure if she considered it one, and Im not sure as to how make her understand that I am interested in her. She has serious issues with this ex of hers. Anyone have any pointers?
2006-09-13 18:22:17 · 15 answers · asked by Gator21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you can't help her get over it. If she's keeping the ex in her heart, she has her reasons and anyone else won't have the key to unlock her heart.
I forsee alot of heartache if she can't give herself fully to you. If you're at a place where you can move on and not get entangled in a life-long mess, don't get caught up in this any longer. Her heart is prob still longing after her ex.
2006-09-13 18:31:35 · answer #1 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no point in pursuing her at the moment when you know her heart is somewhere else. She just can't switch him off and you on - it doesn't work that way. Leave her be for awhile and when she is over him you will have the opportunity. Maybe you could let her know that when she is ready you would be interested in getting together. It is really a matter of if you are willing to wait it out.
2006-09-14 01:30:16 · answer #2 · answered by obenypopstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might be able to help you more if I had some specifics, however I'll give it a try. You are interested in her, so if you can find some way of bringing up in conversation what she might like, then there you go.
You might also want to hear what went wrong in the last relationship. If you can find the guy (without letting her know). Then you will be able to hear both sides. (Yes it will help.)
Try to talk to her about the last relationship, talking about a "bad breakup" might help her let go. I think that's all I can tell ya for now. Hope this helps.
2006-09-14 01:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Jarod R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is worth it, then maybe you should give it a try but like you said, she has issues with her ex bf. Maybe you can ask a freind of her to intervene or next time she open up about her ex, you can tell her what you think about the entire situation (only if she's soliciting an advice)
2006-09-14 01:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply be the friend for the moment. Allow her time to realize the truth. If in time she realizes you care for her, then she MIGHT accept you as someone to love. It is a time of waiting and never knowing if she will want you or not. You can not make her change to notice you unless that is what she wants to do.
2006-09-14 01:30:10 · answer #5 · answered by th'o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to bother? Ah well anyway, if you are determined to do it just be around, be nicer than he is, pay attention to her, spoil her sooner or later she'll forget about him and notice you. But be aware that if this is the kind of girl she is then if you get to a point where you want to break up with her she isn't likely to accept that either.
2006-09-14 01:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to be a challenge but if your persistent,,,you will win.
Do things that will open her mind to a new romance. Show her a world outside of him. Have fun but dont come on too strong. Let her know your there for her and eventually she will come to realize that her ex will stay just that. Her ex!
Good Luck.
2006-09-14 01:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by muuuua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that the most you can do anyways id be a friend a confidant and a support system for her------i have many friends that started romances that way--just always remember dont push her---let her share---and be there---sounds to me like you dont mind waiting a while--obsessions take time to get over--love affairs take time to heal----
2006-09-14 01:26:09 · answer #8 · answered by darkangel1111 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her space and time. You don't want to be the rebound guy. There is no future in that.
2006-09-14 01:24:19 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you better have time on your hands as this one looks like it'll be awhile . i guess you can wait and pick up the pieces if she gets that far
2006-09-14 01:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋