Hi, I've been through a couple serious relationships in the past, even been married for a year before. But I've been in a great relationship for the past eight month, yet we've had our downs too. We didn't have any money to work with. So I lived in a car. But not considering any of that, I love him more than anything. I am inlove for the first time in my life, he's great to me. We've been apart for the past two months now. We miss each other tremendously. But We're not perfect, and he's hurt me at times too. While being down here with my family, saving money for a place together. Well I got rehired, at a local Burger King, and now this is where I'm so confused, and need some serious advice and help, can't do this on my own, at all. I met this guy named Donn. He's great, we have alot of fun. He just one night kissed me, and we've been falling inlove ever since. I am now stuck, cause I've got two guys I am inlove with, crazy about, dont want lose either. But can only have one. Help!
2006-09-13 18:15:36 · 15 answers · asked by eeyoretld18 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Actually my first guy, Jack told me that he forgives me for the kiss with Donn. That he still wants to marry me and spend a life with me. But Donn has just plead his love, and told me he wants to spend forever with me. I am inlove with both! We all have things in common, and I'm happy with both. I can't decide because either way I win and lose, and someone I love and care for, gets hurt and loses. please help!
2006-09-13 18:26:48 · update #1
The first guy Jack has never hurt me once, actually rescued from my abusive husband. But I lived in the car, because of my own intentions, no anyone elses. Jack is a wonderful man too. Hell, I'm engaged to him!!!! But Donn just had to kiss me, is what he told me, and that's when I became intrigued with him more than just as a friend, and now I've put myself in a bad spot, cause they're too different guys who are so much alike, and different too!
2006-09-13 18:31:54 · update #2
JACK FORGAVE ME THOUGH AND STILL WANTS ME!!!
2006-09-13 18:32:41 · update #3
This is NOT chetco, but a rude clone..Please note his level.
2006-09-13 18:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Chetco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to make a Mature decision. This means choose the one man that can finally support you and work with you in whatever dreams you have. You say that you lived in a car before with this other guy. This is no way to live.I think you need to think about how you ended up in that car with this other guy before you go and leave the new guy.
You speak of Donn like he really is a great guy. Maybe you really do love this guy. Maybe you love both of these men.
If this is the case and you do love both men then, I would say to you. You need to take a break from both these men. Spend some time alone, with your Family and then in a couple of Months make a decision on what you would like to do. I think then you will know for sure. Good Luck and That's it, God Bless You!
2006-09-13 18:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds to me that you care for the guys a great deal, but Love no I don't think that you are in Love, maybe infatuated but not Love, because we you are in Love then there's only room for the on that you Love! And when you find that you will know what to do, you will know that there is no one else for you out there!! So I think you need to take a step back and look at the whole picture. You will know when the one is the one! And until then just have fun! One more thing, if the first guy has hurt you then he will more than likely hurt you more in the future!! So think about that also!! Good Luck!!!
2006-09-13 18:25:48 · answer #3 · answered by stormy2u2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would stick with Donn cuz I have been through bad relationships and they always get worse. Trust me on this one. I took my ex back several times and the abuse got worse. Then he just up and left me for a ***** he is still with today. And to make matters worse I got pregnant by him and his mom took my baby away from me when she was 2 1/2 weeks old. NOW GET THIS He is with the girl he left me for PLUS my half sister. and they both know about each other!!! And they act like best friends!! If that ain't as ****** up as your situation I don't know what is. So stay with Don and give that other loser up.
2006-09-13 18:25:26 · answer #4 · answered by sexy_lil_woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, dump them both. You should find yourself before you start ruining other peoples lives. You're not likely in love with either of them. It's probabley more like lust. Don't despair, but don't attach so many feelings to it either. Women aren't good at cheating, we put our hearts in with sex and lust, and it gets very confusing. Anyways, the first relationship is ruined. you could try to fix things with the second guy if you can be loyal. Look, just cause he kissed you, showed you some attention, doesn't mean he's the guy for you. You can say no. You should choose who you go out with. don't just give in because you have low self esteem and they payed you some attention. sorry if I read into this wrong.
2006-09-13 18:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by -- 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you cheated there is something obviously wrong with the relationship otherwise you wouldnt have strayed in the first place...you need to make up your mind...otherwise it's not fair to either one...cheating is a very hurtful thing to experience!!
2006-09-13 18:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by issiez 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not put all the dating on hold and put all your energy into education & career. Living in a car is not going to be a ~happily ever after~ ending!
2006-09-13 18:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by blankit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
love is personal, only two person invlove, you know what is best of your. yes people some times having problem having two great guy show up in your life but you can only choose one. pls put kisses and sex aside and think which guy are willing to go far with u?
2006-09-13 18:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by aeeyo1314 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dump the abusive boyfriend and try to work it out with Donn..Maybe this can work:)
2006-09-13 18:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by wittlewabbit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get an apartment silly! and just date around and have fun. tell em both u want to date others and that they are free to do the same and for God's sake; use a condom
2006-09-13 18:21:09 · answer #10 · answered by bedroomeyes#1 s 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you are going to have to make a choice or tell both guys that you are dating another and see how it goes. Chances are though, you'll lose them both.
2006-09-13 18:18:39 · answer #11 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋