I just got into a new relationship and my boyfriend is amazing. I am so scared I am gonna push him away I got hurt really bad by my first love which I know most of the time happens. Congrats to all of you that got to keep your first love.I had one other relationship since my first love he was a great guy but I ended up pushing him away. I have already started little fights with my current boyfriend. I don't want to lose this one but I don't know how to stop pushing men away. Any Ideas?
2006-09-13 18:13:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl i wish i had the answer for you. maybe you need to tell him what you just told all of us and ask him to be patient. you never know he might understand where are coming from. i know i have been there i told my b/f basically what you just said and we are in love and getting married. he is patient with me and i am patient with him. And trust me i have started some fights over some bulls*** and he listens and answers and that is the end. Good Luck!! Trust me you will find the right when because if I did then I know you can!!
2006-09-13 18:19:00 · answer #1 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you starting fights? Is it because its what you're used to?
Forget being the person you were before, and be the person you want to be.
If you want to keep this guy, keep your mind on the positive things. Stay happy. If he did something nice or that made you happy, tell him. If things are annoying you, then bring it up calmly in conversation instead of yelling at him or making bitchy comments, that way you can both work out a solution. Also if you have unresolved issues from your previous boyfriends, and you can't just get over them, talk about them with your new boyfriend. If he really likes you, then he will try to help you.
2006-09-13 18:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe when you feel like you're picking a fight, you should walk away for a few. You can also tell him what's up, and ask him to tell you if you're doing anything like that, since you may not be noticing all the ways you're doing it. So, enlist his help to tell you. You can try to think of all the things this new guy does to make you happy as much as you can, so when you're around him, you're not taking him for granted and wanting to push him away. I'd also try to think about the past and keep trying to get over it so you can go on without any of that sticking to you.
2006-09-13 18:18:46 · answer #3 · answered by t.larae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure anyone can stop being themselves but I have learned a few things. I notice there is a direct correlation between the amount of time spent talking and the amount of time spent regretting. This is especially true if you have the tendency to be bitchy.
2006-09-13 18:26:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in such situations, follow the golden rule : "When In Doubt, Tell The Truth". there must be a reason y u think u r not good enough for her (from my personal experience, i think u might hv cheated her in some way & now u feel guilty about it). but watever be the reason, tell her about it. and also don't forget to tell her how much u enjoyed her companionship and how much u miss her now!!! then let her decide....if she also misses u the same way u do her, she would come back in ur life and this time u won't feel 'not good enough' for her.
2016-03-27 00:41:11 · answer #5 · answered by Cynthia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hon, talk to him let him know what is up with you, or if you don't want to go that route get some counseling, just acknowledging you have a problem is the first step, now you need to do something about it, I'll pray for you all the best.
2006-09-13 18:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS RELAX, AND LET IT HAPPEN
DONT RUSH ANYTHING TAKE IT SLOW, AND WHEN YOU
FEEL LIKE YOU WANT TO START LITTLE ARUGMENET WITH
HIM THINK ABOUT WHY YOU ARE SO INSECURE ABOUT YOU\SELF. THEN AND ONLY THEN WILL YOU FIND WHY
YOU ARE PUSHING THESE MEN AWAY.OTHER WISE YOU
WILL CONTINUE TO MAKE THE SAME MISTAKES OVER]AND]OVER AGAIN.
2006-09-13 18:20:19 · answer #7 · answered by LUCKYSTAR 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We ll be straight up with him tell him that i will make time with you that sometimes i always busy so he won t think that you pushing him away.
2006-09-13 18:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only responsible for all this becoz you you don't know how to maintain a relationship.Why you are pushing away!Sorry if I was rude!
2006-09-13 18:19:31 · answer #9 · answered by MARY JANE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes, its like your first love is right in there but guess what he isn't so if you pick fights guess you can be alone with thoughts of your first love.
2006-09-13 18:17:41 · answer #10 · answered by terri e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋