Can there be love without commitment? How will a relationship work if there is no commitment? Can love without commitment exist? i heard it from some people. Im just wondering how it can work without commitment.
2006-09-13 17:52:24 · 26 answers · asked by Jay Aka. ngerkday 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you really think that with all of the men who cheat on their wives that none of them love their wives? Of course they do or else they'd divorce. But love has little or nothing to do with a man's need to satisfy his sexual appetite.
To varying degrees, men are driven by a continual appetite for sex. Even in the most perfectly loving relationship, a man might not be getting what he needs sexually. Women underestimate the seriousness of a man's sexual needs. I had to get out of my last relationship after 4 years because I could no longer continue with the rate of sex I was getting. I needed much more than I was getting. But my GF's sex drive was just not as intense as mine. I loved her dearly, and still do, but my sexual needs are more than she, or perhaps any 1 woman can provide. So now I get my needs met through noncommittal sex with multiple partners and continue to love my ex girlfriend as I always have.
In breaking up with my girlfriend I illustrated how factors other than love can affect a man's willingness to commit. I still love her with all my heart and we have a great friendship, without sexual commitment. Quite frankly variety is what I want in sex, and no single woman can provide that. That doesn't mean I'm incapable of loving. I just don't buy into the idea that love is an exclusive endeavor. I would love to hear any philosopher attempt to prove that it is. I would argue just the opposite-- that real love is boundless and shareable and should be given to as many people as possible... like Jesus says! The brand of love that necessitates exclusivity is not real love in my eyes, it's possessiveness fueled by insecurity.
Exclusive relationships eventually end, unless they result in marriage. However, any woman who dates me inexclusively can count on me coming back for more until the end of time.
2006-09-13 18:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm sure you can love someone and never commit, but are asking about having a relationship without commitment?You can love someone and decide that it would never work, which means moving on, but if you plan on pursuing a relationship with someone you love, then a certain level of commitment is probably going to be necessary. The most important question for you to consider is "What does the other person want?" If you want love with NO commitment (meaning the ability to come and go as you please, with whomever you please) and the other person wants full commiment, (marriage, kids, stability) this WILL NOT WORK! And it's not fair to hold that person's love for you hostage, stringing them along while all of your wishes are fulfilled and none of theirs are. And vice versa. The person who wants complete freedom must not be trapped in a situation where they feel, well, trapped! Unless a copromise can be made (which would take an EXTREME level of maturity and lack of selfishness) the two people must agree to move on. Love is great, but a great relationship takes a lot more. So, yes, you can love someone without commitment, but a relationship is a lot more difficult. Now, all that being said, if you are VERY young, scrap everything I said, because commitment shouldn't even be in your vocabulary, and you barely know what love is.
2006-09-13 18:15:00 · answer #2 · answered by wendy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's unclear here is what do you want? You really don't have much of a relationship so the whole question of commitment is totally premature. I don't want to be mean but I have a strong urge to say grow up kid. Just chill out and enjoy each others company. Take some time to talk. Give him a chance to tell you what's going on in his head before you take things to another level. If you want to know what he is thinking, do it the old fashion way -spend some time together and build a relationship instead of expecting everything to instantaneously falling into place. The only thing that happens fast is casual sex, that's not bad but if want more you'll have to invest the time and effort -and most of all take a chance on failing. In the end he might not be the right guy for you.
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You really can't bring up the subject of commitment, because it's likely that he doesn't want one, at least not yet. Especially being in college, this is likely considered a "friends with benefits" situation, or even just a hookup. That doesn't mean it might not turn into more, but now is way too early to say anything to him... you're right, it would then make your "hanging out" come to an end.
2016-04-07 07:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the two can be separated. You can really like someone without commitment but love is commitment. When you truely love someone, you give yourself completely. It is a selfless act. Commitment is part of it. Being commited to another doesn't necessarily mean that you have to be with them all the time. It just means that you are always available to them, willing to give yourself to them should they need you.
2006-09-13 18:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i love someone, I would desire to give my time and my heart and my best to that person. That requires commitment. Anything else that doesn't require faithfulness of heart and mind is a deception - easy fast transient convenient "love".
True love demands commitment because humans stray and if people just go with the flow and don't want to give a relationship as much as they can give, then what's the true joy in loving?
2006-09-13 18:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by Beth 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it....that is the type of relationship I am currently in. I don't have to answer to where I have been and who was I talking to. Coming out of an 18 year marriage that is the best thing I have done. I guess it depends where you are in your life and what the other person wants. So make sure that is what they are also looking for. I think it is possible as long as both of you are on the same page.
2006-09-13 18:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Holly G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you i don't think a relationship can last if there is no commitment. people can say what they want about it but deep down they maybe just trying to make there self feel better about not having the commitment that they need.
2006-09-13 17:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by aprils242001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess its possible i mean if both partners can be that emotionally detached from the relationship but i dont see that ever being able to happen between my bf and I. I personally dont know how you could love someone and not commit to being their and only their gf i dont know its sounds fichy to me! lol but i guess some people can do it!
2006-09-13 17:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Sunshine ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋