I have this friend who had a girlfriend. He broke up with his girlfriend because they were fighting too often. We talked a lot after that and ended up liking each other. The problem is he lives about 3 hours away from me. We got together one day and ended up making our get together into a date. We flirted the whole day and ended up making out. He felt kind of bad because he didn't want his ex to find out that he did that so soon after they broke up. He still liked her and didn't want her to get hurt. We continued to talk a lot on the phone afterwards. A few weeks ago, he got back together with his ex. It was unexpected and I was really hurt. It made sense though since she lives near him. Since then I know they have started to have some problems again. I don't know what to do because I want him to be happy, but I still really like him. I can't get over him even if he did lead me on. What should I do???
2006-09-13 17:11:24 · 17 answers · asked by nargles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There really is not easy answer because you have feelings for him. What I would do is leave him alone. He is not right for anyone because he is a liar. I do not want to sound harsh, but if he does her wrong and lies to her he will do the same to you. He has no morals. You should look for a man who will love you for you and want to be with only you, you deserve better than this guy. Let them have their problems and you go on with your life, the better man is on the way to love only you. Do not sell yourself short. He had to love her to go back to her, you can not have a secure relationship without closing the door on the one you are leaving and he did not close the door..Do not talk with him anymore and if he calls tell him to get lost, take back your pride. You should worry about your happiness first not him. Like is not Love! good luck in your life but put you FIRST!
2006-09-13 17:22:43 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG please email me at tabbeachgirl@yahoo.com because I was in the VERY SAME situation as you. My ex friend and his baby's mom have been reunited for about 3 months now, and they had separated for 6 months due to "dead relationship and no trust". I know what me and him had was special. He calls me from time to time to tell me he thinks about it. But girl, the pain, jealousy, and envy, and obsession over those two that I had to go through---wow. I'm just now healing, here's how you do it:
1. Cut him off COLD TURKEY. I know it's hard, but remember I just went through this 3 months ago, I know what I'm talking about.
2. Write about EVERY LITTLE feeling and thought about those two.
3. Try not to glamorize them two together. Remember that the grass is always greener on the other side, and you being single and carefree is gonna speak more 6 months down the line, than them. Because more than likely, once they get over the honeymoon stage, they'll be having problems again.
4. Keep your self respect and good name, and pride: DO NOT make yourself look pathetic by interfering in their relationship.
5. Go out ALL THE TIME. This is the most important piece of advice. You will meet so many other guys and gals, and you will have so much fun, you wont even remember why you were so depressed.
I love you, I feel your pain! Email me if u want!
2006-09-13 17:22:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you really in love with him? it doesn't seem like it. Anway, it sucks that you are sad, but she was there first. If you love him like you say you do, you'd want him to be happy, even if it's not with you. Believe me, long distance relationships don't work.
My advice is to go rent a chick flick, eat some ben & jerry's, and move on. There are plenty of other guys out there, but if you're stuck on one that wouldn't work they'll never appear. Good luck.
2006-09-13 17:15:53 · answer #3 · answered by Samwise Potter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When in the world did ex start meaning ex girlfriend/boyfriend? My feeling is you will have a new guy in your bed by the end of the week. You seem pretty easy.
2006-09-13 17:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortuanitly it sounds like you were his rebound. He needed attention and to feel better about himself, and a good friend is a godo way to accomplish that, but he obviously wasn't over his ex. Move on, realize that if it doesn't happen then it's not meant to be. Good luck!
2006-09-13 17:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know that u have to get over it the only way is to stop talkin to him and find someone and when he come runnin back to u play him like he played u
2006-09-13 17:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Allen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. It wasn't 'meant to be'. Apparently! Don't be so melodramatic, your life isn't a soap opera. Hopefully!
Good luck, and know rebound relationships are rebound relationships.
2006-09-13 17:15:37 · answer #7 · answered by Freesumpin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's with another woman. I'm sure you're hurting emotionally but you're going to have to get over him. If I were you, I don't know if I would even accept his calls anymore...but that's up to you.
2006-09-13 17:14:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweeti...you seam like a really nice girl...but being to nyce like this in the world makes you very low...you gota be out there fighting....its a tough world and we all know that...why are you being so soft hearted to him?...have you thought he maybe just needs you when he breaks up with his girl...your the rebound.
i know u like him alot but there are many other guys out there who would love you so much....he doesnt deserve this sweeti...trust me..
2006-09-13 17:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like bad news.
Let them alone to work it out, or split cleanly. Then observe what it was that made her mad about the guy!
2006-09-13 17:16:01 · answer #10 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋