How'd you avoid it or come to a compromise?
2006-09-13 17:04:22 · 9 answers · asked by Lucy Lu 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Hi Sandrawil and Mina_mei,
Well, I'm glad you gave it up cause it wasn't the best thing for your child, and you're right for doing that, and I'm proud of you for doing that!
There are men out there who would love to be in the life of you and your child and if you don't have a daddy for him/her, many men would love to be his/her daddy and I have a story to back it up.
However, and this is a huge however, tell him everything about your child when you date him or talk on the phone, (not just online).
Tell him everything about your child so he knows everything, so he knows what kind of child you have. That way, he can decide, "yes, I do want to be with this woman and her child, this child I can bond with." Or, he'll decide, "no, I don't want to be with you because of things about your child I don't like and I can't bond with him/her."
Alot of single parents have given up on dating and that hurts me as a man, cause alot of men are still nice good men today, (there's of course some creeps), but many of us are good men who'd love to care about a woman and child and lead in the home and be the loving leaders and protecters that a woman and child need.
As far as avoiding it, please don't. It's always better to love and get hurt instead of closing yourself off and never loving.
I've dated many women, (some with children, some without), but I never regretted it. Never found the right one yet, but will not give up.
Just be completely honest about your child/dren, and let the chips fall where they may.
Let him see your child as he/she really is, good behavior/bad, any medical problems, any bed wetting issues, any kind of school issues, everything. That man needs to know what's a part of the package, since you and a child/dren are a complete package.
Answer every question he asks about your child and hide nothing. Remember, you want him to know everything so he can make a decision to stay with you or not.
I'd love to talk with both you Mina_mei and Sandrawil, so email me.
Hopefully yahoo has placed a mailto email link to my email address, but if not, send me an email to
wd8oep@Safe-mail.net
I'll respond sometime tomorrow.
I work durring the day, so if either of you don't hear back from me till late tomorrow night, please understand, but I want to get to know you both, cause I'm praying for God to bring the right girl into my life as well.
God bless you both, and please don't give up, your man could be right around the corner.
Harry
2006-09-13 18:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 22:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have given up a relationship and my ex husband has changed his. I just threw in the towell it was sad but I lived. He and his girlfriend of 6 years lived together and then moved into seperate houses because of children conflicts. I can't imagine they are happy either way. I have moved on to a relationship that is kid friendly and am so glad not to worry anymore.
2006-09-13 17:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I gave up more than one, then finally gave up all together until my son was 17, he's the youngest. I've been remarried 2 yrs.
I believe you can never be too careful when it comes to your children.
Take time to enjoy your children and parenthood, don't worry about relationships. There will be time, later. You can date without involving you kids, just don't let yourself get serious.
I always reminded myself that my children were here because I wanted them and I felt I owed it to them to give them as happy a home life as possible.
2006-09-13 17:37:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your kids come first. You chose to have them and they're your responsibility until they can take care of themselves. And they grow up SO fast!
I ended a few relationships because I didn't like how my children were treated. (Nothing physical, but disrespected)
I dated but kept it separate from my kids until they were on their own. It's worth it. They are your kids.
2006-09-13 18:25:30 · answer #5 · answered by desertrat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no compromise when it comes to my kids. I always put them first, and I let potential dates know and understand that. It is always going to be my kids needs first.
2006-09-13 17:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by jobie023 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have and i gave it up because he wasnt the best thing for my child... sometimes we have to give up what we want for the best interest of the children.
2006-09-13 17:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by sandrawiltzen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was never a man alive worth more than my children.
Your kids are always your kids, and should always be first.
2006-09-13 18:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Sicily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE WITH JOBIE
2006-09-13 17:23:05 · answer #9 · answered by ☺☻ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋