I have been going out with this guy on and off for about three years. I have feelings for him but only because of the history there. Now I just feel like moving on but if I break up with him I know he won't leave me alone. So I need some advice on how to make him break up with me. It's a little tricky though becasue I don't want to break his heart and I don't want him to think that I really want to break up. HELP!!!
2006-09-13 16:55:30 · 40 answers · asked by AC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are breaking his heart by not returning your love to him. He might start to think he did something wrong and then he will try to do whatever it takes to make it better. HONESTY is really important, be honest and tell him you no longer feel the same way and you want to move one alone. Either way you will break his heart. Breaking up is never easy.
2006-09-13 16:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was like that before. I wanted to get out of the relationship but I know that when I'll do the break-up, he won't leave me alone. And so, I looked and did things that will make any guy break-up with their girlfriend but to no success at all because he forgives all the time. The last thing that I did but never really wanted to do it on the first place, was have another boyfriend. I let my male friend pretend that I was his girlfriend. And that did it. He broke-up with me.
2006-09-13 17:05:04 · answer #2 · answered by ~Amor~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably better breaking up with him in a very kind way. It's hard to get started on that departure. Telling him that you are in different times of your life might be an honest way to do that. Perhaps you could say that you're looking for something in life but you no not at this moment what it is and that you have to look for it. He's just not what you foresee in the future. Make it seem as it is you that needs the time/space/ and that it is your issue, not his. That might give you a start. Trying to get him to break up with you might backfire. Ooph! Gossip!
2006-09-13 17:01:20 · answer #3 · answered by Educator on sharks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am reading your question but I'm reading it as, "I do not want to feel bad (guilty) about breaking up with him because he is a nice guy."
So be up front with him. To lie to him or do anything other than tell him the truth is disrespectful and insulting to him. And it would not say much for you, either.
Creating unnecessary drama on top of breaking up with him is not a nice thing to do to someone. How would you want someone to break up with you? Give him credit.
If he will not leave you alone, get a restraining order if it comes to that.
2006-09-17 12:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by joyann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BeI was in the same situation but we where living together and had a baby lol. I just told my ex that it would be best if we were just friends so we could see what else is out there before we took it any further. I understand you don't want to break his heart and the relationship is boring but this will be good to see if he is the one you want to be with. But remember this the grass is not always greener on the other side.
2006-09-13 17:05:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is ridiculous. Show him a little god da.m.n respect and tell him you want it to be over. If you give him the benefit of the doubt, instead of just assuming that he won't be able to leave you alone, he might rise to the challenge and leave you alone. Every heard of self-fulfilling prophecy? You are pulling what most guys pull all the time - "oh I don't want to break up with her and hurt her, it will be so hard on her...." wah wah. To guys like that, or people like that - don't give yourself so much credit - you're not that special, she/he will get over it. Trust me.
2006-09-13 17:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds a bit like "How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days" ...I'd suggest just telling him that it's over and offering to be there as a friend if you actually intend to, but it seems like you just want to cut him out of your life. Risk hurting him, but don't go out of your way to be cruel. Broken hearts mend, but you can't get back lost time.
2006-09-13 17:00:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be truthful and break up with him. It's the grown up and mature thing to do rather than do annoying things to make him break up with you. All breakups are hard, and usually someone gets hurt. It's just the way it is, but people move on. You really need to tell him how you feel.
2006-09-13 16:58:04 · answer #8 · answered by Mimi Kitty 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no way around hurting him. The only thing you can do to make him break up with you is to humiliate him - do you really want to do that? Like sleeping with is friend or something? I'm sure you don't, which means you have to just tell him. There's no way to weasel out or make him do it for you. Time to just bite the bullet, unless you want to do something that makes you out to be a real b****.
2006-09-13 16:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's easy...flirt with other guys when he's around, also plan to set up something like him walking in on you making out with some other guy (it will be even more effective if that guy is his best friend) but in my opinion you still care a lot about this guy.
2006-09-13 17:00:54 · answer #10 · answered by Åñð¡€£ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋