2006-09-13 16:30:13 · 28 answers · asked by erika j 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Wait until your both ready. If you deceive or try and trap him into it you may just loose him. It's a big decision with at least 18 years of reponsability and a lot of cost associated. They say it's a minimum of a $300,000.00 decision. Really think you should make it together and with both of your eyes wide open.
Good luck,
Happy Parenting If You Both Decide
2006-09-13 23:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are going through this right now. He will be deploying to Iraq in less than a week now, and we're waiting to find out if we're pregnant. He's not so thrilled about me being pregnant while he's gone. He keeps telling me he doesn't want a baby right now, but at the same time we've done nothing to prevent it. And have been trying the last 6 months or so. But this deployment just popped up out of nowhere and now all of a sudden he says he doesn't want one right now. I think he's just worried about not being here while everything else is going on.
If you're really serious about getting pregnant, you need to sit down and have a very very long talk with your husband about all of this and what his feelings are about wanting children and not wanting children. If you're not trying anything to stop from getting pregnant, then obviously he's not making too big of a deal out of not having babies. But I guess that's just my opinion, not really an answer per say. Good Luck in whatever happens.
2006-09-13 23:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by DLicious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a BIG commitment by BOTH parents. Wait until your husband is ready and willing or you may find yourself a single parent. Tricking a man into becoming a father has never really worked out well. If you wait until you are both ready I promise you everything will be wonderful!
Has your husband expressed his reason for not wanting a baby right now? Maybe he is scared of the responsibility of parenthood. Maybe he feels the two of you haven't had enough time just as a couple alone yet. Maybe he is worried about the expense. Talk with him.
2006-09-13 23:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by dddanse 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah mydear..both of you shld be ready to b a responsible parents.Afterall having a baby is more likely u both have to sacrifice a lot of things.Its no easy to handle a kid nowadays.They grow much faster and we tend being exhausted by them.You have to put in more afford n time for your kids.Money is not enuf,love and caring is more probably like it.You have to give sometime for your husband to make decision.Let him feel that hes ready to be a dad then only u can slowly tell him that you need a baby .With the crying of baby n their smiles might bring your live more cherish & meaningful.At the meantime,why not u buy a few books abt baby,sit with him n read together...seeing that u r serius to hv a baby,might change is mind.GoodLuck girl!~
2006-09-13 23:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by Naza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait or find another husband. I know where you're thoughts are heading with this question and I can tell you up front that doing anything sneaky to get pregnant will ultimately lead to a divorce.
A betrayal of trust is a betrayal. Whether it's cheating or getting pregnant on purpose just because YOU want a baby.
2006-09-13 23:37:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm having the same exact problem i want a baby so bad and my husband keeps telling me that he's not ready, I've thought about tricking him but after thinking about for a while i feel guilty. I really want him to want a baby as much as i do, all I've been doing is talking to him A LOT, telling him that i really, really, REALLY want a baby. I hope he changes his mind. I hope you can talk to your husband and you can change his mind too GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-09-13 23:39:04 · answer #6 · answered by angie1412 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unless you like the thought of having to do ALL the work yourself, never being able to count on him to chip in when you are dead-tired and the baby has kept you up every night for weeks... and having him blame you when life becomes harder due to the extra mouth to feed, etc....
I'd suggest you make sure he wants a baby before you "get" pregnant.
2006-09-13 23:39:37 · answer #7 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A baby should come into this world because it is wanted. If your husband does not want a baby, then you should not have one.
2006-09-13 23:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by kb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, but you better not stop taking your birth control cuz that would be totally unfair to your husband. Respect his decision and keep talking to him. If you were to get pregnant without his consent you would truly regret it later, because he would never forget that you went around him and made an important decision without consulting him. Your marriage would suffer from lost trust and bitter feelings on his behalf. Think about it.
2006-09-13 23:49:38 · answer #9 · answered by liberalthinktank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you "get pregnant" by accident(wink) then he will prob think you where not on your birth control. This will cause a big problem between you to, it would be a betrayal of trust. So find out his reasons. He could be wanting to be "financially stable", or maybe he is wanting to make sure your relationship is secure. So talk, find out, and if need be go to Counseling.....
2006-09-13 23:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by tinytinker79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋