when me and my bf had sex he was a virgin( or so he says..) i dont know if its me or what but a guy can never bring me to orgasam.. the only way i can is if i masterbate...im not going to tell him and yes i fake it just so he wont feel bad..i dont know...does anyone else have this problem ??
2006-09-13 16:26:08 · 43 answers · asked by brieana_lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not unusual for women to not experience orgasms during sex with partners. I think this is especially true of younger women who are largely inexperienced in sexuality.
Orgasms don't just happen. Your partner needs to understand your body and to discover what you most enjoy. The best why to teach him is to masturbate in front of him. Show him where your clit is, how to tease it to your liking and how to manipulate your genitals the way you like. If you like several fingers inside, show him. If you prefer light touches, tell him. If he was a virgin before having sex with you then, for sure, he doesn't know what he needs to in order to satisfy you sexually. Believe me, he doesn't even know where to look to find your clit. He needs a roadmap to your body and you are the only person who can show him around.
Also, don't be afraid of experimenting with toys and lotions and pornography. While some prudes may disagree, these are just part of sex and sexuality.
Good luck.
2006-09-13 16:38:06 · answer #1 · answered by paly33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell from your question that you are too young and inexperienced to achieve orgasam through intercourse. You need to experiment some more and find an experienced partner to show you the way to eternal bliss
2006-09-13 16:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by captcruzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem, i learned that after the dude reaches orgasam, its really up to the woman to say something. The dude then should understand and help you to have the pleasure as you gave him. And if hes a "virgin" then you should tell him, as he doesnt know.
2006-09-13 16:28:23 · answer #3 · answered by littolonerboi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Next time you guys have sex, you should tell him what makes you fell good. Do the same for him. But before you guys have sex you should masterbate and let him watch, tease him for abit so your ready and about to climax and then just go at it. Try different positions hope this helps
2006-09-13 16:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by gerry d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very common problem among women. But it doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. Take my advice and stop faking it. If you feel you have to fake it then your stress level is up and you cannot relax, if you don't relax you will never know if you can orgasm during sex or not.
2006-09-13 16:31:55 · answer #5 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 22:25:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks that you're more experienced in sexual intercourse
than your boy friend is. I would say he's 'green' and needs
training in sexual acts.
In order to achieve orgasm by both parties in sexual intercourse,
both should firstly be in the right mood and understand each
other's feelings for sex. Before penetration, fore-play, like kissing
the lips, breasts and nipples, lower body, inner thighs, legs, ankle, foot, private parts (vagina and penis) and using fingers
and tongue is very important for the success of an orgasm.
However in your case, I think little of these took place during sex
and you don't get an orgasm from your inexperienced boy
friend.
Now that you know and you're more experienced, teach him or
show him the way to reach orgasm.
2006-09-13 16:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by steplow33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the faking part is not going to help u, open up and enjoy and just relax. dont spend so much time on faking an orgasam and hav one (:>))
2006-09-13 16:30:07 · answer #8 · answered by MasterChief 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most women who orgasm - are on there late 20s. What u r experiencing is pretty normal- ask Dr. Drew,because the female body is not ready- and there are emotional issues onvolved.also the masturbation will make it more difficult to have a orgasm through reg. sex. intercourse- it desensitises the genitals- and it takes more stimulation to orgasm= don't masturbate or have sex for a couple of weeks= or more- then when you have sex you can tell the differ.Best: in marriage- no worries-
2006-09-13 16:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i hear its pretty common...ive never had that problem tho *wink* neway, basically you lay it out like this...u know how to get orgasm on ur own. he cant do it himself. whats the obvious solution? ive heard this recommended before. ok so you basically knwo what gets you off when you use ur fingers. instead of you doing it, you need to tag in ur guy. take his hand in yours and have him make whatever gesture you need and guide him around. yeah, your kinda leading him. thats teh idea. hell know what you like by doing this, and the more u repeat this, the more hell pick up. people only learn by teaching right? or you can masturbate in front of him and let him watch...i dont know what the hang up is some girls have...maybe stagefright? i dunno...if its taht big a problem and it bothers u, then showin him how to do it, givin him some 'hands on' training, is the best way...itll work, trust me
2006-09-13 16:30:12 · answer #10 · answered by af4sguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋