I have met the gril of my dreams. She lives in another state and is planning on moving here with me. I have thought about selling my classic car to have enough money so I can take care of her every need untill we get adjusted. She told me not to sell it. The car was given to me by my father and has been in the family for 20 years. I have been restoring it. Honest opinions please
2006-09-13 16:22:49 · 41 answers · asked by Bad Andy 7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not my only car
2006-09-13 16:26:09 · update #1
We really love each other
2006-09-13 16:28:16 · update #2
The girl of your dreams wants to remain the girl of your dreams. No woman who truly loves a man would want you to sacrifice that much for her. Do not sell that car! She wants to be with you, she doesn't want you to hurt yourself to see to her every need. If she loves you and it sounds like she does, she will want to be with you struggling or not. Believe me, she would much rather bear the burden of struggling a little bit until she can get a job and be a financially productive part of your relationship than to watch you give up something that sentimentally important to you.
2006-09-13 16:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by justme 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
How much money are you going to get for this? I know most "classic" cars actually don't have a really high price tag. One can pick up a decent 85 Corvette for 10k if they don't mind a few small imperfections. Anyhow, if your talking 30-40k in your pocket, then yeah, do it! No way you shouldn't have enough money to pay the electric bill if your sitting on that kind of cash. But if your talking 10k, well you'd be supprised how fast that can spend. The best way to raise your standard of living is to raise your yearly income. Perhaps a second job. I do it, it's not that bad.
Just remember the right girl will be around longer then the right car.
2006-09-13 16:31:48 · answer #2 · answered by thetyranyofevilmen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The money will come, if you need it bad enough. The car is a possesion, and they can sometimes weigh us down. Eventually, sooner or later, that car will be destroyed, belong to someone else, etc. The question becomes...what does this car mean to me. Are the memories part of owning it, or are they in me, and as long as I have a picture, etc, will that be enough.
If it's been in the family for many years, perhaps you have a family member who might want to buy it from you, and let you drive it once in a while.
Also, the fact that she's telling you not to sell it, is a good sign! It means she cares, and is not asking you to choose between supporting her, and a thing that you love. Good for her!
2006-09-13 16:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sad-Dad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT, by any means, get rid of the car. What if the relationship doesn't work out, God forbid, you will be out your car AND the girl.
She is responsible for her every need. If you want to take her in, that's fine, but she needs to be self-supporting. She may just be a free-loader. You don't know her well, obviously. DO NOT get rid of that car. It was a gift. Why doesn't she sell something of value to move to you? You will resent her and her presence if you sell the car and it doesn't work out as well as you planned.
Take it really slow. I have a bad feeling about this. (I'm a mom, I can say that.)
2006-09-13 16:26:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't sell it. If she is able-bodied, you can figure out a way for her to make a living. You'll never get that car back. If you were husband and wife, and it was an illness or emergency, perhaps think otherwise, but something as obviously special to you as this, is not worth selling when you are not yet in a committed relationship (i.e. married).
Best of luck to you.
2006-09-13 16:26:14 · answer #5 · answered by Jim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt want you to sell it then dont. You know I hope things work out for you because I am moving 2866 miles away from my home where I grew up to be with the man of my dreams. I live on the east coast and he lives on the west coast of the United States and I would NEVER want him to sell anything that has sentimental value to him for me. Now I know that there are other people out there in a similar situation as I am.
2006-09-13 16:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by dede 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the car. The girl cares enough to move there to be with you so that tells me it will be ok if things are tight moneywise for a short time so you can get settled. If you sell the car you may hurt your relationship because in an angry moment you may resent her for the car being gone and believe me she will know it.
2006-09-13 16:26:28 · answer #7 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her and don't sell it! But do get an extra job, if possible to make some extra money. How much does the car really mean to you? There is also something to be said for doing something totally selfless for someone else. Sorry I just see the two options as equally appealing!
2006-09-13 16:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Silva 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT sell the car. Girls come and go, but the car will be with you for as long as you take care of it. It's part of your family's history. If you can't afford to take care of the girl, perhaps it's wise to re-think the plan.
2006-09-13 16:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait on selling the car, because if this relationship doesn't work out, then you'll really regret it. And also, it makes you seem too desperate, and is a sign of weakness. She may pick up on that and make it a lot easyer for her to use and abuse you.
Give it time, if she is worth it, you'll know in a few months.
2006-09-13 16:25:08 · answer #10 · answered by jenyluv2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋