2006-09-13 16:08:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
two happy parents in two houses. How can you teach your children love and good relationship skills if the two parents are bickering, resentful, and miserable....
2006-09-14 04:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are between the ages of 7-12. They "know" things. My husband and I have been going thru things for the past 1 1/2 yrs since he cheated on me and had another baby by the other woman.
My kids prefer to have 2 parents in the same house who manage to get along. One thing that both my husband and I do is make sure that we make our kids happy. It's not really about you & the spouse when you have kids. It's about the kids. They didn't ask to be here in this situation so it's up to the parents to make this world a happy place for their children. You can talk to them and let them know that it isn't all "peaches and cream" but it's hard work that sometimes involves pain.
Most kids prefer to have their parents, the two people they love most in the world, together. In their eyes, being happy with one parent means hurting the other parent. It's not fair to the kids to make them choose who should be happy.
That's just my opinion on the situation.
2006-09-14 00:41:27 · answer #2 · answered by S D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience I think it is better to have two happy parents in two homes. I was raised in a home where my parents fought everyday, really bad. Children always blame themselves. It is in their nature. My sister is 13 years younget than me and my dad and mom divorced when she was 2 so she doesn't remember the fighting. I had a bad relationship w/ my dad and it is hard to forget the things I saw, but my sister has a great relationship with him b/c he isn't like that anymore and never has been since the divorce.
2006-09-13 23:12:23 · answer #3 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two happy parents in two houses.
2006-09-13 23:15:45 · answer #4 · answered by lene123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is MUCH better for the kids to not have to live in a war zone. If BOTH parents are unhappy and they are always fighting is it better for them to seperate.
2006-09-13 23:15:52 · answer #5 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's over for sure, no hope at all then I say get it over with, and split up. I know it's hard, but it will be better for your children not to hear the arguing and to move on with your life's. I grew up hearing my parents argue all the time and I hated it, I would wish for them to just split up so that I would not have to hear it. Whatever you and your husband do, do not talk badly about each other to the children, it's a horrible feeling I know from experience.Good Luck!
2006-09-13 23:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when I was 7. Believe it or not I was so happy. I told my dad (who had full custody) that I was happy because I could finally sleep at night without hearing my mother screaming at him. Kids can sense everything so even if you think you are being quiet they know there is a problem.
2006-09-13 23:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by TRUE PATRIOT 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i really don't understand as to why do people have to get married and then have kids if they did not think they could carry on....it is simply not understandable as to how things get out of hand all of a sudden....in the west people sleep and live with each other for long before they decide to tie the knot and having done so and specially after having kids why do people have to make kids suffer on account of divided and broken families....i distinctly remember ex - president clinton speaking on the subject saying that usa and europe needs to reinvigorate the most biggest institution and thats the family......but then again the answer to your question is that it is more advisable to live in separate dwellings if people can't cope up with each other.
2006-09-14 01:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by uknownotlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two happy parents in two houses. Seems pretty obvious to me, no offense.
2006-09-13 23:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by j d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two happy parents are always so much easier to deal with. Have them sign a peace agreement!
2006-09-14 01:10:52 · answer #10 · answered by Carolyn T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋