I never thought I could be gay or bi..I like guys! I met the first lesbian who is my age and is proud of it, but doesnt flaunt it! She hugged me the other day, and I got this awesome feeling! Now, I just want to be with her all the time! I emotionally have feelings for her as well as sexually! I still love my boyfriend too though!! What should I do! I dont know how to flirt with girls!!
2006-09-13 16:07:00 · 17 answers · asked by Lacey J 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You sound young - give it time.
Talk to the girl - see what she thinks of the whole thing. She will likely have insight on being gay - and may be helpful in you figuring out your true nature.
You might be more intrigued with the idea of being gay or bi - than actually being gay or bi.
Sure she's exciting - its kind of like forbidden fruit.
Be careful - a lot of people stand to get hurt by this.
You, your boyfriend, and the girl.
As for flirting - just talk to her like a regular human being and be yourself.
2006-09-13 16:19:24 · answer #1 · answered by Melis__A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont blame you, if I was a girl I would be attracted to girls. It may just be curiosity, you could be gay or bi and not know it yet, plant a kiss on her and see if you feel the same then. But you must tell boyfriend before you go to far, there are consequences for all our actions.
2006-09-13 16:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Later Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE A GIRL BUT YOU WILL EXPERIENCE PROBLEMS LIKE GAY PEOPLE, AND LITTLE PERKS, IF YOU BECOME A LESBIAN, READ ON:
Advantages of Being Gay
There is no way you can choose to be gay, but if you are, you can enjoy the following advantages.
It is easy to get sex.
You get to mix with all socio-econonmic levels and ethnicities.
You get to make up the rules in your relationship. There are no stereotype male-female roles.
Generally a freer sexuality. Being gay is such a taboo that, say, having your nipples licked does not seem terribly wicked.
Without the responsibilities of wife and family, you are free to invent your life with adventure, dedication to a cause, creativity, whatever you want.
Disadvantages of Being Gay
If you are gay, there is nothing you can do about it, but you can work to reduce the disadvantages.
AIDS.
Even well meaning people will patronise you. They will never take your relationship as seriously as a mixed-sex one, no matter how long lasting. They tend to treat you like a little boy who will someday grow up and become straight. They will try to tell you they know more about what it like being gay than you do.
Bigots believe they have a moral duty to hound you, threaten you, kick you out of your apartment, get you fired from your job, beat you up, accuse you of pedophilia or even kill you.
It is easy to get sex, but hard to find a life partner, the opposite problem straight males have.
The secretiveness and anonymity of closeted life lead to one-time only sex. This leads to promiscuity. People don't want to let you get to know them. This is all pretty shallow.
Youth worship and consequently lonely older males.
2006-09-13 16:20:19 · answer #3 · answered by 99CLOUD99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you deal with the fact that you are Bi-Sexual and tell your boyfriend. You don't have to flirt with her if you know that she is attracted to you, its no different than being with a guy just the wrong sex. Half the world is Bi-Sexual join the club. By the way have you thought about telling your boyfriend about your feelings? I suggest that you be honest and tell him the truth.
2006-09-13 16:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you are young you get curious and sometimes girls try things out other times they don't and it goes away. It's normal to be curious. However you need to be honest with your self at all times. Then if you decide you want to experiment with girls then you need to let your current boyfriend know before you do anything. It's not fair to him if you don't.
You don't say how old you are. Just remember to always be honest with your self!
2006-09-13 16:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by larrys_babygurl_4life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it...Worrying won't help and could possibly hurt your relationship w/ your boyfriend. (he will pick up on your feelings and know there is a prob.) Most women, if there honest enough to admit it find other women attractive. (even some men find men attractive) Roll with it and see what becomes of it.
2006-09-13 16:40:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does this girl have feelings for you? Is she as interested as u are curious? Find out first before wrecking your relationship with your b-friend.
2006-09-13 16:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't get the same felling as when you hug or kiss your boyfriend then you should date the girl and not the guy,do what you think is right for you
2006-09-13 16:15:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Conduct yourself as though she was a guy.
Would you cheat on your boyfriend with another guy?
Then you shouldn't cheat on him with a girl.
If you want to explore your feelings for this girl....break up with your boyfriend.
Right is right.
2006-09-13 16:10:55 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't say your age, but when you are young it is natural for you to be curious about the unknown. Give yourself some time.
2006-09-13 16:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋