i have shared a house with my sister for a year. she helped me out when i needed it. but now i have a good paying job and have found a place that i want to move to but she does not make enough money to support herself and i really want my own place. what should i do.
2006-09-13 16:04:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She must be able to find another person who can move in and share rent with her. Sit down and talk with her and come up with a plan that will help her and create the freedom you desire. She must know deep down that you two wouldn't be living together forever, so just talk and come up with a solution. You might find it isn't such a huge problem in the long run.
2006-09-13 17:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by Geez Louise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have the best of both worlds. You have a moral obligation to help your sister out. She helped you when you needed it and now she needs you. If you abandon her you will might sow the seeds of resentment and animosity, so don't. She sounds like a real winner and you should do all you can to keep the relationship healthy. Tell her that you want to move out but will not until a suitable room-mate is found. She can choose the room-mate and place the ad as soon as possible. Take some very important advice from me cause I have had some serious room-mate issues in the past. Good signs to look for in a room-mate (but not always a guarantee)
1. Stable job that he/she has been at for a length of time
2. Do they own a car? Another good sign
3. First impressions are lasting ones, how do they dress? and care for themselves? How do they carry themselves in a conversation?
4. Meet them outside the place of residence like a coffee shop and interview them. Your going to be potentially living with this person so go ahead and ask questions.
5. Make the lease in the beginning month to month. If they do not keep up their end of the agreement, kick them out of the house and change the locks! Make this known in the beginning that you will not tolerate slackers and any money owed will come out of the security deposit.
6. Remember, you can only be taken advantage of if you allow yourself to be.
7. Craigslist.org is a good place to place a free ad for a room-mate but the sight is not responsible for who replies so screen your potentials carefully.
2006-09-13 23:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by microwaved-brain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she stood by you when you needed it. Now it's your turn to stand by her. You can see if you can find a place that will give both of you the privacy you each need and share it. You could see if she will be doing better in a year and make it on her own. There should be a way to help her and still get the privacy you want.
2006-09-13 23:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by wires 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FInd resources in your area to help teach your sister the options for supporting herself. There is help out there, you just need to find it. Try a Community Center. We have a Center for Community Resources. They know what we have here and how to access most services. Believe me, there are ways for people to make it in the world. It is tough...hang in there!
2006-09-13 23:10:09 · answer #4 · answered by Yoda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be honest with her and tell her you really want your own space and place. Help her find a better paying job or a roommate. Don't move out unless she is secure!
2006-09-13 23:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by gator girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm maybe u could try discussing this with her and the possibility of finding another person to take your place- if she is happy with that you could help her pplace the add, interview the people and help with picking the right person who will be responsible and such - or u could jsut take ur sister with u to the new place
2006-09-13 23:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by oz_gurl2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look dude
help her git a job
dont let her leach off ya or any thing but just tell her u need ur own place so u guyz gotta make her more independant u kno
les u wanna be there for eva
2006-09-13 23:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your sister. Maybe you can help find her another roommate to help with the rent. Maybe it's your turn to help her.
2006-09-13 23:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by katie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with your sister and help her out this time. Don't be selfish.
2006-09-13 23:06:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Help her find one she can afford ,she can get state help for low income housing .
2006-09-13 23:11:01 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋