I don't know much about how many people he's dated and how deep things were but thinking about the possibilities and what it could have been bothers me... He refuses to discuss or share much about his past because to him, it's all irrelevant...
I love him a lot. We've been dating for over a year now. He is very caring and has never given me a reason to complain about anything. I feel very lucky to have met him and I don't think there's many guys out there like him, and despite feeling this way, sometimes, it makes me jealous to think that some woman at some point was maybe more special than I am or will ever be. He is the most special man to have ever come in my life and I don't know if he can say the same thing about me :-(
I wish I could help being jealous and not feel this way. I wanted to see what the "popular opinion" on people's significant others' past is. Are people without much past normally bothered by such things or am I just being weird and unreasonable??
2006-09-13 16:00:08 · 7 answers · asked by anjusmile 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been together a year!! Wow ..congrats !! I would say your pretty special to him. I wouldn't say he thinks another woman as more special than you, he probably has a few that are special in a different way (like psycho ex's) lol.
Seems to me though you got someone that only cares about you , each day since you met, and every day in the future he wants to spend with you. He doesn't live in the past and thats good. He isn't compareing you to anyone or holding you to a " Well my last girlfriend was/would/did/had _____" standard. Theres a ton of girls that have to be jealous of that!! BUT HES ALL YOURS!!! So don't question it, go with it!!
2006-09-13 16:09:00 · answer #1 · answered by deethsnake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're boyfriend is right. It is all irrelevant. What's in the past is over and done with and you can't change the past, so don't worry about things you have no control over. You will just drive yourself nuts and possibly drive him away in the process.
Look at it this way, what happened in his past helped to make him the man he is today. If he is kind and caring, then consider yourself fortunate that you are the one that he's with and not the women from his past.
Jealousy is a normal emotion. Just don't let it sour a good thing.
2006-09-13 23:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the same way at times. The boyfriend I am with now is my first boyfriend ever (and I am 21). He's five years older than me and has already experienced a few serious relationships. I always wonder what was it about them that attracted him...how were they similar to me...how were they different?
But he constantly tells me that he loves me and not to worry about them. He is with ME...not THEM. Perhaps if you can remind yourself (or even if he reminds you) of this, you will feel better. I think it is a normal feeling...people without a vast relationship experience in the past are going to be curious of certain things.
2006-09-13 23:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your answer is in your question. His past bothers you but you don't know much about it. Think about that. Sure, it's normal. We all doubt relationships, especially when they start to get serious because that's where you can get burned, but that's a risk worth taking for the potential reward. If you like who he is, then his past made him that way. You've got to learn how to build trust with him, not work on undermining it. Consider, he may have had a lot of drama and failed relationships and he doesn't want to scare you off. It could be that simple.
2006-09-13 23:12:57 · answer #4 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to lose him, you are certainly going about it the right way hun. The past is his, you are the present, and that's all that matters. Get over your insecurity, and fast!
2006-09-13 23:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by panty_splash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well unless u broke up w/ ur x and he commited suicide no!!!
2006-09-13 23:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by Angelic Messanger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know but thanks for the 2 points!!!
2006-09-13 23:03:13 · answer #7 · answered by Chino's Lady♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋