Is my mom right?

Question

I have been trying to move out of my brother's place for the past six months, but loss of a job has delayed that process. She said she won't help me move out until I can get steady on my medication and also find another job. But my last job I got fired from and it took me over a year to find that job through a job coach.

My mom thinks that I am lazy, but I have a disability and have trouble working. It is not that I don't try; rather, I am distracted easily and have a form of ADD.

I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place, and my father isn't much of a help either (he's just as stubborn as she is, unwilling to help out until "conditions" are met, etc.).

So how is this resolved? Do I explain to them my situation, and continue to argue with them endlessly, or just grab some boxes and move out myself (I don't own a car)?

Paul

Answer 1

take your meds baby -
then try to think of a job that would keep you buisy with something different ( working at a kennel )
you would constantly be doing something and it wouldnt require you to listin to many people for more than a few minutes a day -
walking dog and feeding them come on now - good luck baby boo '

Answer 2

So where would you go and what you do--become homeless. That isn't an option, in my book. Have you thought about going to the Employment Office and asking them if they have any job training programs. What are your interests. Is there a trade of some kind that you might like. Maybe you have to go the social security office and sign up for SSI disability if you feel you have some sort of health issue that keeps you from working gainfully. Sometimes parents and adult children are on parallel tracks. I think you'd be happier if you could find your own solutions rather than depend on your relatives. At this point, your Mom is trying to do what she thinks is best for you. Tough love, so you go out and take care of yourself. God bless.

Answer 3

I don't think your parents are wrong in wanting you to get on proper medication if your ADD is so bad that it is hard for you to find a job and function properly. Try talking to them and tell them that you are willing to get on the meds, but would like some help moving out of your brother's place in the meantime. Then, keep looking for a job.

Answer 4

You say you have ADD but have managed to write four good and long paragraphs of a questions, i think you are ok for an office assistant job or Radio talk host, I bet you'll have plenty of things to talk about, and changing subject each quarter minute.. But if i'm wrong then definitely you shouldn't work at all or how about trying a job where ADD is not a problem... such as picking up tomatoes in a big farming place. whetever you look they're going to be tomatoes waiting to be picked up.. after all, we all want tomatoes, a dirty job but somebody has to do it. (they don't pay bad actually, ask Pedro my friend).

Answer 5

its called tough love.....it is very hard from some parents to do with their children.....but sometimes it is necessary. I dont feel they are wrong....they probably have helped you out many times before and now they feel you must help yourself. Stay on your meds and get out there and look for a job. If they see that you are making an effort they maybe more willing to help you. There really isnt any reason to continue arguing with them...they have their minds made up. You now much show them that you can do what they feel you need to do......best of luck to you

Answer 6

Wow- someone call the wambulance! Stop the whining, already! I'm with Mom - get up, get out & get going!! Stop with the excuses, they are like b-holes, everyone has one & they all stink! You can sit at a computer & write this question? then you can go get a job somewhere - anywhere - I promise you'll feel better about yourself when you do! and we'll all be very proud of you - you might even get a date or make some interesting friends - go for it - or you're a loser!

Answer 7

First listen to what she means. Next see what she means is true.
BE STRICT IN EVALUATION. (INTROSPECT.)

IF U HAVE MADE A MISTAKE OTHERS ARE THE FIRST TO KNOW THAN YOURSELF.

If she is true see what possibilities lies ahead of you, and what your mother said can be implemented in your life. u should know ur parents have seen more of life, they are more experienced.

REMOVE THE CONFLICTING THOUGHT THAT COME TO YOUR MIND. THESE THOUGHTS MIGHT BE AFFECTING THE JOB U ARE LOOKING AT.

IF U R A MISTAKE MAKER THEN U ARE ALSO A MISTAKE BREAKER.

See how u can cut down your mistakes! Please take a inventory of yourself.

Pl. note u r not lazy. u r letting the situation take control of yourself rather tahn u taking the control of the situation.--Sound tough but this is the only workable way.

Answer 8

Your mom is right,is better for u to find a job first , and be more stable on your medication. She's stubborn because she care for u.So don't argue with them or try to move out.Do what u should do first, and that is stable your medication and find a job.
Good luck.

Answer 9

Their are many jobs out their. I am sure that their is somthing that suits you. Their has to be a compromise, it sounds as if your family only wants the best for you. Moving out is a bad idea with nowhere to go and no means to support yourself.

Answer 10

If you are not on your medication steadily you will not be able to find or hold a job. If you are not on your medication I as a mother who raised 19 children would do the same as your mom. She wants you to try harder because she loves you. Have faith in yourself. You can succeed.