Non-Christians: When deciding whether to trust someone, what criteria do you recommend to yourself?

Answer 1

Ah, here's my question... one moment...

I take into account whether or not they have a tendency to answer questions as though they are the foremost expert on the subject. I know a few people who, when faced with a question or point of contention, start yammering on as though they're a brilliant professor lecturing to a hall full of students.

I always figure no one can be THAT sure and accurate all the time, so they've got to be either bluffing hard or truly convinced that everything they "know" is absolute fact (when in fact they may've only heard it once on talk radio while they were only half-way paying attention).

Also, I value highly the backstory I get from my friends. If they already know the person and secretly introduce him as "full of crap phil", I tend to take their word for it as I already trust my friends.

Thirdly, being asked for a loan right away is a huge red warning sign. I need to know more than a first name and musical genre preferences before I fork over the dough, and frankly anyone who wants me to empty my pockets to them after 3 minutes of "getting to know you" is downright fishy.

Of course body language (shifty eyes, fidgeting, unnatural pauses in the flow of their dialogue, etc) are obviously red flags too.

Answer 2

If I meet someone new and they immediately proclaim to me that they are a Christian, I immediately suspect that they are not a person to be trusted.

99% of all Christians are merely sinners in disguise...in the light of day they will thump the book and claim high morality on just about any issue but that is merely a smoke screen meant to hide the sins they commit while hiding in the shadows.

The louder a christian preaches on a particular sin, the higher the chances are that the christian is participating in the sin that they publicly denounce....like Catholic priests who use the pulpit to rail against child molestation, the more they can get it into the public realm that they are "against" a particular sin, the better chance they have when they get caught that the gullibles in the church will defend them...also a better chance that when the child comes forth to expose the abuse the child will be deemed a liar...certainly not the person who stands before "God" denounceing abuse as evil 7 days a week.

Answer 3

I am an agnostic.

I know this is a question for the christians, but I will answer anyway.

First of all, I would NEVER be friends with a pro-lifer.
I wouldn't even talk to them in a friendly manner. They'd be on my ignore list.
It doesn't matter now nice, smart, friendly, trustworthy, talented, funny, etc they are. If they are pro-life, I will always detest them.
Well, Actually, if somebody is pro-life, there is NO way that they will be nice, smart, friendly, trustworthy, talented, and funny. Pro-lifers do not, can not, and NEVER will fit under any of those categories. If they were smart, they wouldn't be pro-life, etc etc etc.

Also, I refuse to be friends with extremely religious people who will criticize me. If they don't criticize me upfront, I know for a fact that they will be thinking negative thoughts about me, my lifestyle, etc.

Sexists are also people whom I hate.

Answer 4

First, presentation. Like it or not, humans have evolved to take first impressions seriously. Fair it isn't, fact it is.

Second, verifiability. If the person says things that make rational sense, or are contextually accurate, they are more trustworthy. If they make outlandish claims, they are going to be perceived as less trust worthy.

Third, familiarity. Do I know this person or not? If someone comes up to me and says, "1+1=2," this is easily verified, so who cares if I know them. If they say, "you should go to so-and-so for lunch," then I'd better know the person if I'm considering them trustworthy to make suggestions based on my particular food preferences.

Fourth, follow-up. Can I contact this person if it turns out they lied, or otherwise follow through personally or legally? If not, it's harder to trust them.

Answer 5

complicated to matter in simple terms on gut feeling as I actual have been harm/injured in techniques that may no longer possibly completely healed by using this methodology. This has led to me to have a gut reaction it is often overly careful. So I additionally take a glance at what a guy or woman projects as their values and supply that a theory. and then i'd desire to come to a selection to take a threat yet no longer one which will reason irreparable harm. If that seems nicely, then i'd desire to come to a selection to proceed to construct on that. each and every so often little issues can positioned up a pink flag and those would or is probably no longer sturdy so interior the tip, I would desire to come to a selection "is that this guy or woman, if genuine, nicely worth understanding? Will my existence be enriched by understanding him/her?" If specific, then I actual tend to threat often.

Answer 6

I'm atheist.... I trust everyone by default, but it depends on what are you trusting for, for example, I can probably trust some belongings to my neighboar, like some kind of tool, but I won't trust my children to sleep over their house, it's just me, there are some things I can trust some others that I don't regardless of any reputation.

Answer 7

i typically trust someone to a certain extent unless they either cause me to lose that trust by their actions, or my instincts tell me not to trust someone. i know instincts can very easily be wrong though so i dont automatically paint them as someone to watch out for. just remember this: the average human being is worthy of trust to quite an extent.

Answer 8

it is a live and learn experience to find out who you can trust or not. basicly if someone has done something hurtful to me or someone that i know, then i will not trust him or her.

If you meet someone new just slowly build trust until yours is broken, you can forgive, but never trust them again.
Why is this aimed specifically at non-christians?

Answer 9

Well, we non christians use a completely different criteria than those christians for trust issues. Generally we look for people who have shown theirself to be untrustworthy, people who lie often or at least seem to and last but not least those who have religious values. Please.

Answer 10

I observe their language, openness regarding their own strengths and shortcomings, communication via body movements and facial expressions, relationships to their friends and family and co-workers, ability to listen as well as share.

That's enough for an off-the-cuff answer.

I wonder why you're asking?