he is still with both of us but he is living with her just to help her get over it and then he'll leave and she'll move on. i only get to talk to him for a short time cuz e doesnt want er to find out,both him and myself are tryin to hang on but its really hard. we really love each other and he promises that after 3 more months everthing willl be fine, he wants to get married to me when im old enough and the time is right.i jus need some advice from u guys to know what are other persons view on this and some push to hang in there.thanks
2006-09-13 15:43:24 · 26 answers · asked by Tiph_joesy_mclynch1620 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's probably not what you want to hear but I don't think it's going to work out. Many things can happen within 3 months and hard times tend to bring people together (i.e. miscarriage)
2006-09-13 15:46:22 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's "helping to her to get over it"...what a pathetic excuse. He does not need to live with her to help her. What do you think he's telling her? Why does he need 3 more months? Both of you are getting played. I am not going to say move on because it's not that easy.
But he clearly is hiding the relationship. You can only talk to him for a short time because he doesn't want her to know -- it's obvious that the ex isn't really an ex. If he's not with her anymore, then there is no point in you being a secret.
2006-09-13 22:56:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
men can be dirty underhanded rascals... So convincing. I seriously doubt he will ever leave her - he just will say anything - and I do mean anything (even marraige proposals) to get you to keep giving him what ever it is that you give him. He knows you are young and he can easily manipulate you. You will definately be hurt in the end - mark my words, in 4 months he'll still be with her and trying to keep you around - in 5 months, even 6 months - even a year from now. Cuz, if he can get you to believe that mess he is going to stay with her... He may have feelings for you - but they are superficial. His devotion is to her - and if you do one thing wrong he will let you go... He's got you walking on eggshells I'm sure -and that is where he wants to keep you. You need to forget this guy - and realise everything he says about a future with you is a lie.
2006-09-13 22:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey, you are so gullable... bless your heart
Please don't be a fool & play 2nd best to him when there are plenty of single men not tied up in affairs already. He needs to clean up one mess before starting another & you're gonna get hurt. Trust me, that girl's not gonna take him leaving her any easier just because he sticks around a couple more months... I doubt he'll even leave... good luck
2006-09-13 23:04:04 · answer #4 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The key to your question is that you are not old enough. With age and maturity you gain insight, hopefully. Do you really have to settle for a guy that is in a relationship? You obviously are young enough to have your whole life ahead of you. Live it to the fullest! Walk away.
2006-09-13 22:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but don't believe a thing he's saying. I think what he's saying to you he's saying to her also. When you're old enough, so you are under 18 now. The next thing you know, you're going to be knocked up, and don't think that that is going to fix anything. Dump this loser and find a decent guy.
2006-09-13 22:52:33 · answer #6 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not under any circumstances hang in there. You didn't tell your age, but I would freak if you were my daughter. You need to be worrying about school, grades and friends. Look at colleges. See who you want to be. Imagine yourself in Greece in 2 years making big $, or working in a field you love in 4 years. Please don't get wrapped up in a guy that is A) a cheater B) irresponsible C) unethical. PLEASE MOVE ON!
2006-09-13 22:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by JULIE J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you are old enough? by age or maturity? i have a feeling you shouldn't be worrying about getting married anytime soon. realize that what ever is going on w/ this guy and the chick he is w/ now can and probably will happen to you if you stick w/ him. don't hang in there...get a life of your own.
2006-09-13 22:47:36 · answer #8 · answered by simple1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't know about this. He's living with her to help her get over this? That does not sound right to me. It sounds like you're setting yourself up for some serious pain. He still has feelings for this girl, and he can honestly say he wants to marry you, and only you?
2006-09-13 22:47:02 · answer #9 · answered by New mommy 2010! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ew,I hate guys who take advantage of girls like you. My advice, don't wait around for him. If you were important enough to him,his "ex" would know about you. He's basically cheating on her w/you. I understand she's going through alot right now, but that doesn't mean he has to lie to her. She needs his support...not all of him. Good luck either way. You sound young,so hopefully you'll realize you're worth more :)
2006-09-13 22:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋