my girlfriend is extremely sensative and needs constant attention, how do i confront her needs?

Question

Im not saying its a burden (i mean she is a girl right, and besides that i love her to death) but i often find myself exhausted from other activities in my life i just need some help anything you can offer would be deeply appreciated

Answer 1

My girl is the same way. Best advice I could give is, just give her what she wants(attention). Think of it as theres always someone else out there who would love to give her all the attention she needs. So it better be you and not someone else. Give her attention even when shes not asking for it. She would definitly like that. Being with a woman is a 24 hour job my man.

Answer 2

But you ARE indicating it is a burden. It won't get better, either. She has issues that you may or may not know about. My advice is to give her what you think is a normal amount of attention. You can better make a decision on her based on her reaction to not getting the excessive amount she has required. It could be she expects alot, because you have given her so much. Just reassure her when she isn't getting the extra attention, and then see how she is

Answer 3

Not to play armchair psychiatrist, but she sounds like she may have Borderline Personality Disorder. Of course, she may just be clingy/needy. See if this sounds like her:

1. frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment. Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.

2. a pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation.

3. identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self.

4. impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating). Note: Do not include suicidal or self-mutilating behavior covered in Criterion 5.

5. recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior

6. affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days).

7. chronic feelings of emptiness

8. inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights)

9. transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms


BPD is diagnosed with 5 or more of these symptoms. I don't know her, but I've known a few borderlines very well and the "constant attention" and "extreme sensativity" are red flags for that... but, like I said, she may just be needy/clingy. She'll probably eventually "grow up" or realize that the level of attention she's expecting is out of the ordinary.

Answer 4

You are being very sensitive to her needs. Any girl like your girl in the long-run will appreciate your attention. You may give your girl some space. Show your support thru your affections. The little things like your attentions and tokens of your love and affections is esp. nice: a long hug, a long walk holding hands. : )

Answer 5

You can give her the attention she needs just make her tired of you once in a while go out come home apologize and hold her

Answer 6

let her know that while u love her and love spending time with her, she is not ur ENTIRE life. let her know that she needs to be a bit less dependent on u and that sometimes u just cant give her the attention u need. be sure to say it nicely :)

Answer 7

You cant she thrive's on attn no matter where she gets it from. so if you dont give it to her she will go else where. she also gets attn from everyone she is around the best thing to do is to show her what she does to you and make her do the same for you she will learn very quickly i promise

Answer 8

Well be there for her, listen to her, and love her. Even though I'm a guy saying this, I'm sensitive myself so I know how it feels.

Answer 9

"confront her needs"

Please look up the definition of "confront". Is that really what you are asking? Do you mean fulfill her needs?

Answer 10

Sneak up behind her and grab her butt, when she turns around say TAG your it! and run away!This might not help the situation butt I'm sure it will get a different reaction!