Ok.. this is what a girl that i like replied to my email, askin how she felt about me,
well first of all, I don't hate you. second, I haven't been avoiding you either becuase its not been just swimming that I've been busy with its been life.I also haven't been beating around the bush because you never asked me if I did or not. But I haven't ever thought of being more than friends with you because we've always been good friends and I think thats how things should stay.I just don't want to ruin a friendship.hope you've had a good day, and i will talk to you later
ok, now shes 13 I'm 15. We've been friends since like I wuz 7. Now it is totally obvious, because she makes herself perfectly clear, that she wants nothing more than to be friends. I am respeceting that, and giving her space, we havent talked about it 4 3 weeks. My question is, does she like me at all, or is she scared, cuz she says she doesnt want to ruin a friendship??
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3 hours ago
But, like a few months ago, it was completely obvious she liked me, I mean people thought we were dating, then she found out I liked her, and she reall backed off. And she told her mom, who she is really close to , that she is really scared, because she doesnt want to take the chance of ruining the friendship. But what should I do/ think:? Because, now she is like totally all over these other guys, like she used to be with me, and it rips my heart out. And please dont tell me I'm to young, I have like many girls, but none like her. I've been trying to let this go forever, but it is really really hard, because I really care for her, I would do anything in this world, anything to be with her, but I want her to be happy , and if shes not happy with me, thats fine. But what should i do?
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5 hours ago
I mean she's never beenin a relationship, so she could be scared, will anything ever happen in the future, I mean I am respecting her wishes, and she knows that, We havent talked about it for a long time, could anything possibly happen in the future??
2006-09-13 15:27:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Should tell her how you feel. If you're too shy, what i did last time is that i call my secret admire. Sometime i wrote letter and e mail. But i can say, talk to her in person sure have the edge and more advantage.
Love is a lasting forever thing. So take your time. and no rush. Girls look at 2 things, handsome and good personality. You know what handsome is. Good personality is the way u act and speak and how u behave yourself, also how u conduct yourself. They often look for good qualities. This is quite a tough area to improve. In other words, if they like u, means they really like u. If not, then, don't be sad and give up like others do, maybe there's still a chance u can improve.
All the best to u.
2006-09-13 15:29:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may like her but she's 13 and you're 15. I have been in her shoes and been where you are now...she's trying to let you down easy and she wants to explore her options with other guys. You just need to hold on for awhile and let her grow up a little more. You also need to grow and change. It's hard to hear this, I know, because you're 15 and you're at an age when you think you're really grown up. Believe me, you have some more to do.
Anything can happen in the future! Trust that it does, and it will, happen. Whatever is in store for you will happen in due time.
Like I said, I've been where you are now. You are obviously holding onto this girl like there's no tomorrow, and that's normal. You've known her a long time and you care for her. So many times when I was your age, I really liked a guy, only to have him not like me, or he would dump on me, or he really liked me and I didn't like him--at all. I learned an important lesson through all of this. If I remained a friend to the guy, things would eventually work themselves out. I went to Homecoming my freshman year (I was 14) with a junior guy that I didn't really like. He was a great guy--still is--but he wasn't the guy for me. I went with him anyway, more as friends than as anything else. It was an odd night. Friends of ours broke up that night and I ended up dancing with and consoling the guy, who was 17, and my date danced with the girl, who was 13. Sixteen years later, I married that guy that I consoled that night. But it took me 15 years to figure out which guy I really liked all that time ago. My husband tells me that he liked me from that night on but he thought I was so popular and had these guys liking me so he never pursued it. Hmmm...wasted opportunity!
Just give her time...be there as her friend, nothing more. If it's meant to be, it will be. Have patience.
Good luck!
2006-09-13 22:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by Hello Dolly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, man...you're 15. Get over this, there's only like 3 billion other women on the planet...I'm willing to bet a few of them would be interested in you.
It's not that you're too young to have feelings....you're too young to hang on to something like this for so long. Maybe a few months ago, there may have been something, but her e-mail is about as clear as crystal. Stop reading it with your heart and read it with your head.
The sooner you put this behind you, the sooner you can start developing something with someone else.
2006-09-13 22:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, she is not ready to take your relationship to a romantic level. She is probably afraid she has hurt your feelings - thus the distance. She is also growing and changing very fast. 13 year old girls change crushes and best friends weekly! Chances are, if you have been friends this long, she will come around to crushing on you again.
Keep in touch, but don't pressure her
2006-09-13 22:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by shomechely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect what she told you. Sometimes us girls change our minds constantly. Back off but remain friends with her. You're making it too easy for her to have you. Girls like a challenge. It's comforting sometimes to know a certain guy likes you so you can fall back on him when things don't work out. Don't be the fall back on guy. Make yourself a little unavailable. She'll come around if it's meant to be. But make sure you are seeing what else is out there & having fun. Don't tell her you want more again; back off.
2006-09-13 22:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by bcre8ive2day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
from a females point of view! be there for her dont avoid her! if its there it will come believe me! as far as the age, i just saw a guy i liked when i was 14 and he was 13, the relationship was precious to both of us, even 40 years later! anything is possible!
2006-09-13 22:36:50 · answer #6 · answered by L E. G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you already ask the same question a couple of days ago...I know you have because it's in my Yahoo Answers..Didn't like some of our answers so your hoping for more uh..Hope you find the answer you want to hear..
2006-09-13 22:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could ask her to do just regular friend stuff. Maybe over time it will develop into something more. But don't push it. Clearly she values your friendship and I would hate for that to get messed up for you.
2006-09-13 22:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smart girl she is! If she can tell in advance that she wouldnt love to ruin the friendship, then respect her and believe me time will tell when she is ready.
2006-09-13 22:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by E0844 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes just confused at Your guys agaes, if you put Any Pressure on her about it, she may Freak and never have anything to do with you ,just chill you guys have your whole life in front of you get out Play have fun peace Bro 10 points please lol jk
2006-09-13 22:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by rpoker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋