2006-09-13 15:27:39 · 19 answers · asked by yolanda s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yolanda, you should do both. Pray for the man God has prepared for you and wants you to have.
The problem with many women who wind up in lowsy relationships is that they have the wrong criterion for a man. And know little about what they should expect in a truly Godly man.
You should know that if you are the type of woman described in the proverbs for us men to look for, then God does have a man ready for you, and is seeking you. For you are likened unto a valuable treasure; as all God's daughters are.
The treasure never seeks the treasure hunter. There is a good reason for this too. For look at it this way. If the treasure is seeking a particular hunter, jumping from one place to the next, how does it know that the hunter is looking in place that the treasure just left. Liken that unto the good woman. For if you have looked around and jumped to some other man... a Godly man would not consider you because you belong to another.
SO be patient my sista. Trust that God is working on h.i.m. that will love you til your dieing day. A truly Godly man is not perfect, but God will make h.i.m. perfect for you. Selah.
He will come soon. Maybe not as soon as you like, but it will be soon as compared to the time you would have to spend waiting on the next one once you've missed the initial one.
As for me, when I missed and messed up on the first Godly treasure that I had in my life (way back in the 9th grade), it was almost 20 years before I came accross a next treasure of that calibre... and you can best believe that when I found her... I made certain that I made my self known... for she trusted God, and God gave her a man just like she wanted: Not perfect; but perfect for her. And sad to think of it, but she said, about the same amount of time went by for her...
Learn from our mistake... k?
2006-09-13 15:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Prince J 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can pray for one and you still will be waiting until the answer comes. So if you wait and do not pray, who to say that you will get one. So try the praying first.
2006-09-13 15:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
praying shouldnt be about begging for things we want, cuz no matter how much we beg, god isnt going to give us something we shouldnt have.
If my daughter begged for a big mac, I would say no. shes only 2 years old, and a big mac is unnecessary. she may not understand WHY I say no, she may think that a big mac is just what she needs. and yet i will continue to say no. perhaps, when she is bigger, i will let her have a big mac as a treat, but she has some growing to do. being her parent, i can see what is best for her. her mind cant understand why i tell her no or make her wait sometimes. god is like a parent. we cant see 5 minutes in front of our faces. he knows what is best for us, and the timing that is best for us. so, the best thing you can do is pray that god will prepare you for being a good wife, and help you to keep your heart and mind open for when the right man comes along. good luck, and god bless. pray AND wait. but dont beg
2006-09-13 15:32:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prayed a prayer of thanksgiving for providing me a husband that was good, kind, compassionate, caring, fairthful, and a good father to the children we would have.
I looked, dated, and waited while I kept praying.
My prayers were answered about 5 years later when I wasn't even looking. We married the same year we met and now we have 3 wonderful children and one grandchild and we're still married after all these years.
Thank you Father God.
2006-09-13 15:49:16 · answer #4 · answered by Lizzard 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
...Both.
1. While you are waiting, work on being and becoming the person God wants to be.
2. Only marry another growing Christian believer, since a believer marrying a non-believer is against Scripture, and has caused many heartaches.
3. Marry someone who loves God more than he loves you.
4. Marry someone who is sold out to Jesus Christ.
5. Adam was busy obeying God when God brought Eve into His life. If you are not currently married, you don't need to be, since God promised to meet all you needs. Marriage is the norm. Watch, pray, and work on becoming a true disciple of Jesus. When you need to be married, trust God to bring the right one into your life.
6. Choose a spouse who can serve God together with you.
7. You'll never regret waiting for God's choice for a spouse.
2006-09-13 15:43:10 · answer #5 · answered by carson123 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should always pray for God to bring you a Christian Husband. Be specific in what you want. My mother in law prayed for a Christian Man, but didn't get specific. he turned out to be a man that ran around on her. He went to church, and played being a Christian. God has someone special for you. Just wait on the Lord. I wish I would have, and then I wouldn't be in the mess I am in. My husband had many affairs. We have two children together, and he don't take care of them. He hasn't seen them in 10 years. If I would have waited on the Lord, my children would have a father.
2006-09-13 15:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by salvation 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Do both. Indeed you must pray for your future spouse, but you must also have the patience to wait for God's timing, as well as the ability to accept God's answer (as in, his choice for you).
Do note that this doesn't mean that God will present your spouse as one coming down from the heavens with a train of angels waiting on him, but you get the idea...
2006-09-13 15:31:28 · answer #7 · answered by Shepherd 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Pray and wait. Patience is a virtue, and a God given man will be truly inspired and solely the one for you.
2006-09-13 15:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1 Corinthians 7 : 8 But I say to the unmarried and to the widows: It is good for them if they remain even as I am(unmarried); 9 but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
32 But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for the things of the Lord—how he may please the Lord. 33 But he who is married cares about the things of the world—how he may please his wife.
serve the Lord while you are single, pray for a husband if you wish. Jesus loves you
2006-09-13 15:34:56 · answer #9 · answered by SETFREEBYJESUS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Praying is very appropriate. Then you can wait for the answer. Sometimes the answer to a prayer is "Wait".
2006-09-13 15:31:17 · answer #10 · answered by Stratobratster 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋