My bf and I see each other 4 days a week and most the time I go to his house to see him. We work together also. He can’t come over my house because my parents want not like him. Anyway he lives by him self so I can go over his house any time I want. I love him so much and he loves me too, and he talks about he want to spend the rest of his life with me he want to have kids with me and all that good stuff. But I don’t feel the same way I love him but that is about it I want to marry some one who can take care of me and him self, he works at a department store he doesn’t have a college degree, I am going to school and working full time, I just want to be with him and have fun, and I feel so bad I know he cares about me so much I just cant see him sad, I know he is going to be so heart. What should I do I don’t want to tell him I love so much, but we are to different people. He talks about me all the time, he tells his friends how we are so in love together I feel so bad. What should I do?
2006-09-13 15:08:19 · 12 answers · asked by sweet84 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop there for a minute! Ok...you've got a dilemma here. Ok, so it's nice that your boyfriend loves you, wants to spend the rest of his life with you, have kids, blah blah blah blah blah. Cool.
But...he works in a department store...I'm sure he's not earning what he should be earning. Does not have a college degree. Anything else?
You, on the other hand, work full time, going to school, and so you are looking forward for a better future...but with a man with no higher educational level?
I'm sure he likes you. I'm sure you want to be with him and do all the fun stuff with him. But think clearly here! It's like you're going to be the man of the house, do all the work, while he sits there and do nothing...working at a department store doesn't do much, unless he's the general manager there, or a higher administrator.
You will have all the work, a higher education. Does he plan on getting unto a college and get a degree on something professional? No wonder your parents don't like him. Every parent's desire for their kids, is for them to have an excellent education, and when the time comes to build a family of their own, they want to make sure you are with the right person and not with someone earning minimum wage. You deserve better.
So, if your boyfriend wants to do all that...have him get an education first, an excellent job that pays more than he earns now, so that the two of you put your savings together, buy yourselves a nice house, and then you can have your children, as many as you want.
EDUCATION CAREER FAMILY.
2006-09-13 15:17:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Careful, you don't meet people like that very often. Just because he doesn't have a college degree doesn't mean he can't be succesful, he owns his own place and supports himself, and you live with your parents.
It seems like he's actually what you want, he just can't provide everything you want. I'm sorry to be blunt, but you sound like a gold digger. How old are you? You sound like you're still in HS or something..
People can work and go to college at the same time, did you ever ask him about it? People can also climb the corporate ladder. But I regress, its not my problem. However if that were me and I knew you'd felt that way, I would be hurt...but I would also probably want to drop all involvement as I knew I was being used by a little girl.
You just need to leave him, he deserves better.
2006-09-13 15:14:29 · answer #2 · answered by Jim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think the best thing to do is to have a talk with him. He is going to be hurt, however if it were me, I would rather be hurt now than to find out months or years on down the road that you had no intention of anything more than a good time. You guys need to be on the same page. Dont play with peoples hearts. Its not a good feeling on the receiving end of this. So.. just be honest, say whats on your mind. Dont be afraid of hurting him, he will heal. He will appreciate in due time your honesty.
2006-09-13 15:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he's got it real bad for you, and it would be better if you told him that you don't love him in that way now more than later. He is going to be hurt, there's no way to avoid that, unfortunately. You sound like a very caring person, and it's sweet that you don't want to hurt him so badly, but is it really fair to keep him hanging on to a dream that has no chance of coming true? It's not fair to you either. You both deserve to have the chance to be truly happy, and I hope you see fit to tell him the truth. He deserves that much! Good luck, hon, and God Bless!
2006-09-13 15:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by kevin_p0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should break up with him and stop leading him on. If you already know this is going nowhere and he's talking about kids, it's going to hurt whenever you do it, but if you wait, you're just being cruel and playing with his heart.
The second you knew he was this serious should have been when you said something, and every second beyond that makes him think you feel the same. Your cruel-o-meter is growing by the hour, so think about that before you let your fear of hurting him lead you to inaction and then hurt him worse later.
2006-09-13 15:12:42 · answer #5 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, first of all, you need to work out if you actually "love" this guy for real, cuz if you did you'd prolly b agreeing with him, how old is he? it shouldnt really matter where he works, or what he looks like, cuz love is love, and if you cant feel the same you have to end it now, cuz ur obviously not the one and he needs to realise this, he needs to move on, he'll find some one else, and theres no point in you being miserable, cuz either way, some ones gonna get hurt, you need to get out there and find the one who's right for you, even if your the one for him, he's obviously not the one for you, and i know its hard to hurt some one like this, but in the end, youre both gonna be better off, other wise, your gonna be miserable.
2006-09-13 15:14:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 00:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth hurts, but honesty is the best policy. the sooner you can be honest with him the better. sounds like you are just wasting his time and yours. you need to be focused on your life, your education and possible careers right now, not a relationship that you know is not going to go anywhere significant.
2006-09-13 15:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could the whole " i want to marry you and have babies with you" just be his way of getting you into bed?
Guys talk a lot...
2006-09-13 15:11:41 · answer #9 · answered by Travel_Fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are the living proof that everyone on this board talks about. Women love money, not men. Please read Jim's response below (which should receive the best answer, in my opinion).
2006-09-13 15:11:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋