Why is it that when you become a mother your heart seems to break so much easier?

Question

I became a mother 13 months ago, and there are times that I can't even watch the news becuse I get a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach when I hear about the horrible things that happen in this world. I used to be able to "Handle" the horrible evil I would hear about, but ever since I had my daughter, my heart just aches for the less fortunate people in the world. I wonder if any other mothers have experienced the same kind of emotions, your thoughts are welcome!

Answer 1

That is what makes us mothers. We are the keepers, the protectors, and the healers. Your heart multiplies for every child you have and for the rest of your life you will feel their joy and their suffering 10 times stronger than you feel for yourself. When you see others suffer, you automatically relate it to your own child. It never goes away. Mine are 12, 9 and 2 and I still cannot watch anything that shows children suffering with out bawling.

Answer 2

I stopped watching the news. I could not get over it. I would cry thru the whole broadcast. I think when we become mothers we realize how much horror is in this world. We realize that we just brought a child into this place and now have to teach them to survive. It never stops but eventually you will be able to cope. My daughter is 6 and I still cry when I see or hear of atrocities happening in the world especially when children are involved.

Answer 3

You aren't just thinking of the world from your own perspective any more. You're thinking of how it affects your child too. And you realize how vulnerable children are, especially babies. Then you think of how those people in other places have children too. I go through it too. It doesn't go away when your child is older. My kids are teenagers and I still feel that way.

Oh, and when you have a child, you are sharing your heart with another person besides your husband. The more people you truly love, the more vulnerable that makes you. That's the downside of love. Prepare for lots more heartache in the years to come, just because those little angels aren't always so perfect when they're older. But think of the upsides, and there are so many! Think of your baby's smile, and have a smile yourself!

Answer 4

It's called Post Partem Depression. hehe. J.K.

Maybe you're feeling guilty about bringing your child into this messed up world.

Just FYI. I'm a guy and I quit watching the news a long time ago. Our News Media's philosophy seems to be, the worse it is, the bigger the ratings. So I choose to opt out. I'll read headlines and click on the articles I want to see, and choose not to care about the rest of it.

It's a hard world, with hard consequences. It's an unfair world. I know that, I don't need to be reminded of it every waking minute.

Answer 5

What a great question!! I remember telling my daughter that once she becomes a mother, everything changes. Well, 2 children later (3&8) she knows exactly what I was trying to tell her. I can see how much she has changed, her compassion, her unconditional love for her children and how protective she is of them. She is so kind and gentle,always trying to make sure all their needs are met. I can also see the compassion she has for people that truly have nothing. When we have our talks, she remembers growing up and hearing me say that she should appreciate everything she has because there are kids in the world that have nothing. A mother always hopes that they can instill good qualities in their children and I know with her, Ive succeeded She is probably one of the most sympathetic person I know---She has a heart of gold and yes, it tears her apart when she sees people that donot have much. I can tell that you are a very caring person, I was so happy to have read your question because it brought back memories for me. Thank you!

Answer 6

Oh, my gosh, what NORMAL feelings you're having!!!! I did the SAME THING after I had my baby 16 mos. ago!!! When you have a child, your heart is literaly out of your body forever more! Everything you do centers around this little person, and everything you see is now seen as a mother and not as a girl/woman. :) It breaks my heart to hear those sad stories too. It really changes your perception of the world and makes you want to protect that little person from all the bad things that are out there!!!

Answer 7

I believe when you become a mother you think of everything in a new way. I know that things that I hardly noticed in the news before my son was born were now vivid to me. I thought of everything as if that could be my son. It made me a more compassionate person. It looks like you got the compassion thing as well.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

I find the views of the world around me have changed as a mom. I was pretty sensitive before though (as a kid) I would cry to sad songs and movies starting at around age 9!

Answer 10

i have the exact same thing. its like we see things in a more sensitive way because we have someone that is so sweet and innocent and we just want to help every one to be kind and sweet. i don't know what it is but maybe our hormones change after we become a mother and it makes us cry about every little sad thing we see even if its some thing bad. its weird!