The question is more to obtain opinions of those who have had personal experiences.
2006-09-13 14:50:25 · 19 answers · asked by autumnsgem 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was in a long distance relationship for two years and it was incredibly we're still close but things just didn't work out.. it's great though because you have space and then you finally get to see them and the bond is soo strong and you long for each other and then you see each other and it's great but the down side is sometimes you feel so depressed and alone because you can't see him all the time when you need him the most and you really have to trust each other for the relationship to work and it just takes a lot of guts to trust a guy around other girls but in general it is just based on personal preference
2006-09-13 14:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I are about 900 miles apart. We have been "together" for 5 months. It's difficult at times because we long for each other but cannot be together. This type of relationship takes a lot of trust, commitment, honesty and COMMUNICATION. We talk everyday either on the phone, online or by e-mail. It keeps us connected spiritually and emotionally. We do have a plan of being together at some point. One of us will move to be with the other. The only thing that makes this relationship really difficult is that we are from different countries. The immigration laws and red tape are exhausting!
2006-09-13 15:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on you and the other person, and how willing you both are to make things work. I've had a few long distance relationships.
One he was just never online and we hardly ever talked, so it didn't last. Another it was great... we talked all the time, were really good friends (still are); it only ended because we both felt guilty about being so far away from each other and stuff.
2006-09-13 14:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a ldr for 10 months. It's difficult. There's the expense of travel, phone calls etc...
Is it impossible, I don't think so. It really depends on the people involved. Is it a temporary distance or a permanent? Would one or the other moving be an option.
Just do what you're comfortable with and if it becomes to difficult just move along.
2006-09-13 15:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in my personal experience, no they don't. It's not that there isn't the love, it's that there isn't the personal connection that people need. Someone I know perpetually has long distance internet relationships and he gets really, really serious and it's sad because his "girlfriends" just use him. They never come visit him despite the airline tickets he buys for them, or they lie to him, one of them said she was a US Marshal chasing Osama Bin Laden, most of them just say they are beautiful and very young when they are really 50 years old and not too easy on the eyes. He really falls hard for them. It's a very sad situation and if that's the type of relationship you are asking about, here's your fair warning. Don't do it!!
2006-09-13 15:25:39 · answer #5 · answered by Sonia Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay based on personal experience they don't work. I went away to school 5 hours away and while I was away she was doing all this stuff she promised not to do. Plus she cheated on me with her friend which I didn't find out until our 2 anniversary when I quit school to be with her. I found out from her other friend that she was doing all this because he didn't want me to get hurt any more. I thought I could trust her but now I can't trust women. At least I am back at school now and pointing in the right direction. That happened in January and I'm still recovering from it.
2006-09-13 15:04:35 · answer #6 · answered by tjbaseballsaenz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It drives me crazy. You need to commit to a schedule to visit one another, and not cancel. If you cancel, it will break down the trust. Not intentionally, but it will happen - especially if one person is continually cancelling.
But the great part is that when you are together - it is amazing. The drawback is that you spend so little time together, you lose out on being actual friends, and concentrate more on being lovers.
It requires a very careful balance. And if you can figure just how to DO that - please - let me know.....
But she's worth it...every mile and every minute....
2006-09-13 14:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how far away you two live from each other. For example, my experience, I am stationed in Hawaii, and my girlfriend, that I had, lived in Ohio (where I am originally from), did not turn out too well. Now (another example), you live within driving range to where you can see each other once or twice a month, I think it will work out.
2006-09-13 15:08:19 · answer #8 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long distance relationship,that lasted a year. But it wasn't the distance,that broke us up. I think we would have had a wonderful relationship,had it not been for the other circumstances. I think if you have trust and love,the relationship can survive. Be totally honest with one another. Y.
2006-09-13 14:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a long distance relationship, it lasted for about a year she just broke up with me a month ago cause we stoped e-mailing each other as much (very little) and it was too hard. Were still good friends though.
2006-09-13 15:01:49 · answer #10 · answered by JesusFreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋