Why cant I get over my ex?

Question

well we broke up 4 months ago and it seems like she is the only thing I think about. she is still the first thing i think about when i wake up and the last thing I think about before i go to sleep. I'm so tired of thinkin about her, she has another man that cheats on her and everything its not right. She said that she would never take me back, i've tried to move on but i cant every girl that i date i always compair her to my ex. What can I do to get over her

Answer 1

I'm in the same boat. She really pissed me off by dumping me but I loved her with all my heart, soul and life. I've started working out more and that helps at times. I'm also putting more into my job because I have more time. I'm also doing more for myself because I have the time to do that. I'm watching more football than I've watched in years.

Answer 2

I understand you. I once felt the same way once about an ex-girlfriend. Now I am more mature. Looking back, I can tell you a few things.

Most likely, you are still young (teens or 20s). This was probably the best relationship you've ever had with a girl. You're still very inexperienced concerning girls.

You need to work on your social skills, self image, and most importantly your self confidence. There will be plenty more girls for you later on 10x better than your ex. The best thing you can do now is forget about her.

I have a theory.

"You're only with someone for as long as they choose to be with you."

No relationship is guaranteed. Married or whatever. Everyone is always waiting for someone better to come along. There is nothing you can do about it. Always keep your options open. Do not let my words fall on deaf ears and a broken heart!

Answer 3

Hi. Well, you have to do it somehow. That's for sure. You can't go on mooning over what is past history. She was great, fine, but it didn't work. So maybe start with that reality check. You are avoiding your own future. You are burying yourself alive in self-pity. You need to wake up and get moving again for real. No half measures, but a genuine effort to start doing things in a new way. Shake your own life up a little. Take a class. Join a group. Take a trip. Do something unusual and creative. Live from the inside again. Take a vacation from sorrow. Tell yourself you will come back to feeling like something have on the bottom of their shoe in a week: for now, you are going to try something fun.

Answer 4

Babe, been there done that. I know how it feels to not be over your ex. It is one of the worst feelings, specially if they are already dating someone else. I think it is very sweet that you still have feelings for her, but you need to think about what makes you happy. There must be things that you liked to do before you were with her. Try to keep yourself busy and dont think so much about her. She has obviously made it clear that she has moved on, so it is not fair to you or her to keep persuing this. It is not as easy as just getting over someone,it will take time for you to let go. Try new things and stay busy thats all i can tell you. Good luck.

Answer 5

I know that it sounds hard, but you reallly just need to stop thinking about her. Keep yourself busy and when you find yourself thinking about her, try thinking about something else. You probably really love her and she was the most important thing to you. That kind of stuff is hard to overcome. Its fear. You need to date other girls; so what if they dont compare to her. Your expectations are too high if you cant find someone else. There are 1,000 people in this world that you are compatable with. You need to have to right frame of mind and a good attitude about finding someone else to enjoy their company. You just need to admit the fact that she doesnt like you anymore and she has moved on. She probably doesnt realize what she lost, you didnt loose anything; you gained the opportunity to meet someone else, someone more right for you. I think that she is the one that lost something, she lost you. You are probably better off without her. Just go out and have fun, you really need to do stuff to keep your mind busy so your not always thinking about her. Its been 4 months, she isnt coming back.

Answer 6

You need to go out!
Date! Have fun and stop thinkin of her-she clearly told you she doesn't want you so move on. Get online meet someone-ANYWAY possible go out to a club and get crunk boi!
Or at least dance and try to meet someone HOT there! Just dont sit there and whine about it-what does that accomplish? Nothing and thats why you cant get over her.

Answer 7

first you will have to let her go, you can't get over her because you DON'T want to. You will just have to face the fact that she has moved on, and you will have to do the same. It is not fair to you or to the new girls that you meet to keep hanging on to her like that... Just put her out of your mind, and when you find yourself starting to think of her do something to distract yourself, or think of something else... Being with someone becomes like a habit, and sometimes it is hard to break habits but it can be done... Good Luck

Answer 8

When I got married my exboyfriend said he started his truck driving career to get away from the memories. After I got divorced he said that never worked he never stopped thinking of me. We got married and now divorced but I think his new long term relationship has helped everyone let things go.

The only thing really is time and getting back into the dating game.

Answer 9

Remember the good times and the bad times. Keep dating, and pull out the strong points that you liked about your ex in the new woman, and remind yourself that maybe the bad parts will be better in the new person. There's a reason you are an ex...remember why.

Answer 10

Date other girls. And when that doesnt work, date some more. Hell, date 'em all if you have to. Nobody said getting over another is ever easy. It takes time, but sitting at home alone stewing about it doesnt help. Get out and have fun.
Good luck.