So I have a friend which I like him soo much more than a friend and he likes me soo much more than a friend but the problem is..he is my bestest friends x-bf and one of my bestfriends bf..but he keeps asking me out. I love him and he is everything im looking for but Im confused and dont know what 2 do becuase I dont wanna loose my bestfriends. We have been in love for over a year now. What should I do? Please help.
THANX*
2006-09-13 14:24:31 · 22 answers · asked by saweet_chick_lee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell them you want your turn with him too!
2006-09-13 14:26:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I understand from your question that a. the guy you like has a girlfriend and b. he is still very interested in you, and has expressed this quite clearly. I don't think it's fair to his girlfriend (also being one of your best friends) for him to keep dating her when he's interested in you. I think they need to break up, rather than continue the misconception. It will be better for her in the long run.
Secondly, talk to your friends about the situation. Don't just assume that he's off-limits. Feel them out first, who knows- you may have the go-ahead. If not, I know it's difficult, but try to find someone else to focus on. You should also look at why he and your first friend broke up in the first place, and make sure the same problems don't apply to you.
Once again, I know all this stuff is hard, but nevertheless, good luck!
2006-09-13 21:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have actually gone through this and have been with him for almost 6 years now and have 3 beautiful children and are in love now as we were in the beginning I met him through my best friend when I was 12 years old and after they broke up I ran into him at my other best friends house a couple years later and they were dating and then his best friend and I were dating for a while and after all that ended we always kept in touch and then I actually set him up with a friend of mine about 4 or 5 years later and we ended up becoming very close friends and we had very strong feelings for each other ,but we NEVER did anything while he was still with my friend then they broke up and we got together my best friend and I didn't talk for about 6 months and that was very hard because we were friends since 2nd grade,but she got over it and we are very happy now and all of his ex gf (my three best friends since grade school) all still get along and hang out together.anyways the point I'm trying to make is if your love is strong enough and your meant to be together than you will be but he needs to break up with his gf BEFORE you do ANYTHING! or you will ruin your freindships forever.So good luck on a very difficult situation and I hope you enjoy your lives together
2006-09-13 21:40:15 · answer #3 · answered by freckleface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay a HORRIBLE situation is Hurrican Katrina or Whitney & Bobby's marriage. This is just a case of you wanting something you dont have a right to. Boys have a saying "Bros before Hoes" - take a lesson from them honey, don't sell out your girl for a man that will do the SAME THING TO YOU later on. Why would u want someone that would do such a thing to his girlfriend (YOUR BEST FRIEND)?!????
2006-09-13 21:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop and look at what he is doing to your friends and then think do you want him to do that to you. He is with one of ur best friends and is an ex to another one. I think he just likes your whole little friends group and wouldn't waste my time with him. Sounds like someone who likes thrill of messing around.
Drop him...plenty more decent guys out there, unless you want to be friendless and in a couple of months dateless too.
2006-09-13 21:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't even start anything with him. Those two girls are your friends. I can see if he wasn't with either of them any longer then maybe ok. Besides what kind of guy is he asking you out while he has a girlfriend? Don't ruin your friendships with these girls for this obvious jerk. Good Luck
2006-09-13 21:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by asmokincutie® 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in one helluva situation sweety. Your Damned if you do, Damned if you don't. So which Damned can you live with? Keep in mind, lust comes at the turn of a head, bestfriends come at the turn of a decade.
2006-09-13 21:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by Tigger-Tiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is in love with you then why is he with Her? that makes no sense.. Be careful because you will lose your best friend if you find out he is playing both of you
2006-09-13 21:28:55 · answer #8 · answered by Lea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to cool off. He needs to figure out if he wants to be with his CURRENT girlfriend. In the meantime, you need to evaluate wether your love for him is worth losing your friends. What about the "no dating ex's" rule?
2006-09-13 21:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by hotkitten152 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friends girl. You might find out that they do not care. If they do you have to decide which is more important to you. If they are really your friends they will want you to be happy.
2006-09-13 21:27:04 · answer #10 · answered by :) 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if I understand this correctly, you are in love with your best friend's ex boyfriend and your best friend's current boyfriend... my question is why do you want to date him when obviously he can't be faithful? If he's dating your best friend, then he shouldn't even be asking you out!
2006-09-13 21:32:12 · answer #11 · answered by bunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋