does anyone have word of relief?

Question

I lost my 36 year old son a healthy father of 3 on may31 and today we buried my 84 year old father in law

Answer 1

I am so sorry to hear about your lose, I am sure it is a hard thing to deal with....turn to god for help

Answer 2

I wish I had better words of wisdom honey, but sometimes things like this are beyond our comprehention, and we won't have the answers we seek until it's our time. I lost my mother not to long ago and she was only 47. There was no rhyme or reason as to why this happened, and I was not only hurt, I was angry. Someone once told me that God sends us all here with a mission or a job to do. When we've completed that, he brings us back home. This lady also told me that although it's okay to mourn the loss, it's not okay to cry rivers of tears in sorrow. She told me that my mother was just an angel sent to touch our lives and I should be grateful that I had her at all. At first, this sort of upset me more, but the longer I thought about it, the more I realized she was right. I was crying for selfish reasons....I wanted my mother, I needed her yet, I wasn't ready to let go. It was all about me and what I wanted. When in fact, my mother was right where she belonged, and as long as I keep her in my heart and soul, she'll never be more than a thought away.

As for your father-in-law...honey, this man lived a long, full life. His life shouldn't be a tragedy, it should be celebrated. Mourn the loss, but cherish the stories you can tell to future generations. The body dies, the soul lives on forever.

Answer 3

I am so very sorry! I too have lost a son, 2 yrs. ago, he was 22. I cherish every moment I had with him & I know he is in heaven w/our Lord Jesus for eternity & I will meet him there someday but yes, my heart still aches - life is fragile & we are not promised a certain number of days but the only relief I have found is in God's word, the bible. Psalm 139, Joshua 1, the books of John, Ephesians & Proverbs. Start reading & quench the thirst in your soul - only God can give you & me the peace that comes beyond our understanding because it is from Him. I am also sorry about your father in law - I hope you enjoy fond memories of both your loved ones. My heart aches with you but my soul is peaceful knowing that Jesus will come someday soon - be ready!

Answer 4

In everything there is a season and a reason for every purpose under heaven. A time to be born and a time to die. For certainly we brought nothing in this world and naked shall we return to our Maker. Immortality is the word no human being nor creatures of any kind can ever claim. There is an appointed time for everyone of us. In your grief, just remember, they will be with the Lord forever and that they have already found peace and rest in their soul.

Answer 5

There is always a reason behind the events both good and bad in our lives. The people that we love and lose are never really gone they are a part of us forever. In accepting that they are in a better place the pain will soon be lessened especially if there are other people to go to for support.

Answer 6

I lost my 26 year old healthy son a year and a half ago. Then this past January I lost my 88 year old father in law to lung cancer. It is extremely difficult and still hurts every day. You might try calling hospice. They called us and offered counseling after we lost our father. If you find it very difficult to cope please see your doctor to discuss this. My heart goes out to you, I know what you are going through.

Answer 7

I know everyone will tell you that time will ease the pain and in ways it is true but you never forget. I lost my 11 month old son in a car accident 5 years ago. I was so mad and I blamed God, the driver that was drunk and hit our car, I blamed my husband for talking me into going to town that night, and I blamed myself for putting the car seat on my side of the car instead of the middle where I normally put it. I could understand when my grandparents died they were old and had lived a full life, but not my child that still had so much life ahead of him. Finally after a few months of me being in my mood of hating everyone my best friend came over one day and literally smacked me. Once she got my attention she told me that I was dishonoring the memory of my son by hating life as he was the happiest baby she had ever seen and instead of becoming someone he wouldn't know that I needed to do something to honor his life. I was mad at her for intruding but after I calmed down I saw she was right, my son always tried to make everyone happy and sensed when we weren't and I knew he would be sad to see me the way I was. I started waking up everyday and reminding myself of the good things that I have in my life, my other children, my mother, my husband, my health. I went back to church and finally saw that God had other plans for my son and that now he was my angel looking out for all of us from above. You have togrieve, get mad, blame whoever you want, but then you have to look back on the life you had with your son and remember all the good times and know he wouldn't want you sad same with your father in law. Spend time with your grandkids as they are a living part of your son and tell them stories about him so they will always remember this is a way for you to share and heal at the same time. It still doesn't seem fair that so many innocent people die when all the druggies and criminals are left here but then I tell myself they are someones child too. Good luck to you and sorry about your losses.

Answer 8

If they were Christians, I can honestly tell you that they are in gheaven with our dear Lord, Jesus Christ! If so, rejoce!... If no, I am sorry, but then I can offer no words of comfort... All I can do is quote a songI relied on when an 11 year old friend of mine died... "Oh yeah life goes on Long after the thrill of livin is gone Oh yeay say life goes on Long after the thrill of livin is gone...."

Answer 9

I feel so sorry for your thing

"He will live with them,and they shall be his people. God himself will be with them, and he will be their God. He will wipe away all tears from their eyes. There will be no more death, no more grief or crying or pain. The old things have disappeared."

May God keep you and your family.

Answer 10

Everything happens for a reason. You certainly have had your share, my heart goes out to you and your family