Sorry it's a bit long. I'm dating a man non-exclusively right now. We both care about each other very much and we have both said we're serious about the relationship. Me and him aren't dating any other people. We have been dating for six months on and off and we both say we love each other. He's asked about having sex with another woman though. He says it's just for sex and there's no feelings involved. I don't know how exactly how I should feel, I have doubts running through my mind right now. I keep his sexual needs satisfied and I'm there for him when he needs me emotionally. So my question is if a man is claiming he loves you, you're both happy in the relationship emotionally and physically and is serious about the relationship, why would he want to have sex with someone else? Thanks to those answer in advance.
2006-09-13 13:48:33 · 16 answers · asked by hearts99992000 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Gah'. You two are at the 'sex' and 'I love you' stage, but neither of you don't consider this to be an exclusive relationship? That was mistake number one. (In my opinion) I don't know that I'd really want to be in this relatinoship at all to be honest. If you're wanting to continue this relationship then just tell him no. Say you're not ok with it. Say something along the lines of "We're not 'just dating' anymore. We're in a relationship and I don't think it's right for either of us to see other people in a sexual or romantic way anymore." In all honesty, I think that if you tell him this and he does agree, he'll probably just end up cheating on you. Be it now or on down the road. Then he'll tell you "It's 'just' sex and that you're the only one he loves." blah blah blah, stuff like that. I can't decide which way to go with this answer. On one hand I want to answer your question. On the other hand the only 'real' advice I have to give to you involves leaving him.. so.. I guess good luck to you.
2006-09-13 13:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by Olivia B 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is absolutely no reason if he is serious about you for him to have sex with another woman. If he is asking that, then obviously you aren't keeping him as satisfied as you may think you are...that or he is a dog.
You need to seriously question if this guy is right for you, what about long term? It sounds as if he is the cheating kind...do you want to have to worry about that the rest of your life?
You need to find out if something is missing in your sex life together and see if you can rectify it, or deal with the possibility yopu are with a man that just can't commit - and move on.
2006-09-13 20:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some couples do share multiple partners. Although, since you have been with this guy for 6 months with no prior incidents, I'd say he isn't one of those people. So ya got two options, he is changing how he views relationships, or he is losing interest in you and seeking other outlets. I'd lean toward the second one. He's probably starting to be interested in others, but enjoys the security you offer. Dump the dude. It isn't going to last much longer.
2006-09-13 20:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was commited to you emotionally,exclusively or non-exclusively he wouldn't want to have sex w/another woman. Not to say men don't on ocassion think about it, but why would he want to if he's in love w/you and can have sex with the woman he loves. Don't tell him you're ok w/it,because clearly you're not. Tell him what you want. If you want him to commit,you gotta draw the line. Good luck! :)
2006-09-13 20:52:50 · answer #4 · answered by *Juicy Princess* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not in love with you exclusively, he wants his cake and eat it too. He is not serious about this relationship, may be he need some growing up to do. Find someone who will love you, and only you. he is out their, so don"t sell yourself cheap. Let him go out and have all the sex he wants, plus diseases.
2006-09-13 20:58:22 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite know, my exboyfriend used to say things like that, he said he wouldn't though cause he knows it would mean we would end, it did just end, and i think it's cause he finally decided to be with other women. I think it's cause they really like variety, and get bored easily with just one, or he's the type that thinks that sex is completly different and has nothing to do with love. I blame all those attractive women out there!, anyway, i think it means they don't really love you like they say they do, and they are very screwed up. Does he think it's okay if you have sex with another man too, just for sex, with no feelings either? i don't think so.
2006-09-13 20:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's either hedging his bet (you) or he's manipulating you into getting mad at him and breaking up. Ask him if he's feeling trapped?
Also, two can play at that game. Tell him you have no problem with him doing that as long as he practices safe sex, and you will do the same. He may change his mind when he is confronted with the same request from you.
2006-09-13 20:56:09 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you got to do family research because where he comes from maybe they dont equate sex with love . or maybe he just dont love you as a husband loves a wife , oh thats right you said boyfriend , dont trip unless the knot has been tied all nice and legal and cerimonialy like. until then hes just a boy thats a friend that you also have sex with. get it all straight with him and yourself and then keep it all straight and then you wont be asking stupid questions . [ no offence ]
2006-09-13 20:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's truly in love he would want only you. To use other women "just for sex" does not say much about his character. Personally I would move on and find someone who is more deserving of your love and friendship
2006-09-13 20:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lose him just as fast as you can.---------------------------If he can want another woman when your relationship is so young, then this man has no intention of faithfulness to you. If he wants to be be with others then you have to worry sexually transmitted diseases. He can't be very happy in this relationship or he would not be looking for another woman.------------------------Dump him and find a man that loves you and want to be with you.
2006-09-13 20:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Janis G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋