Say your adopted like (me),and know who your birthmother is,and of course the people who adopted you too.Would you say the women and man who created you are your true parents? OR The people who take care of you everday??
2006-09-13 13:32:00 · 16 answers · asked by PolishChikka 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I was adopted, too. I haven't met my birthparents since I've been old enough to remember. All I know are their names. The woman who adopted me was a nutcase, and I haven't had contact with her in years, nor do I wish to. I don't really consider myself to have parents, as strange as it sounds. If someone asks, I just tell them I was an orphan. =P
2006-09-13 13:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to that. The people who created you are your biological parents, but the ones who cared for you, day in and day out, are the ones who parented you. That's the real job of parents, not just giving birth. Giving birth is like getting out of the blocks at the start of a race. If you quit then, you don't win the race. Parenting is going down the home stretch and being there for the long haul.
2006-09-13 20:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well in my opinion it would be the parents who raised me, loved me. Personally, I would call the birth parents my 'sperm donors'. Yes, before I piss anyone off, I know that there are reasons behind giving a child up and I do think under some circumstances that is OK but still the parents who raises an adopted child would be considered the 'real' parents.
2006-09-13 21:30:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider my "Real Parents" the ones that actually raised me. When someone gives a baby up for adoption they give up all rights to be called a parent. My Ex-brother in law was adopted and he has no interest what-so-ever in finding the woman that actually gave birth.
2006-09-13 20:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raised by my mother and "step-father" and knew who my real dad was but never really saw him growing up. To this day I consider my dad to be the man who raised me, taught me to ride a bike, drive a car, picked up the pieces of my first broken heart. As the years went on I did develope a relationship with my dad and I did love him but there is a saying out there "Anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad" this goes for your adoptive mom too. These people have raised and loved you not because they HAD to but because they WANTED to which makes them special. Your biological parents can be special and you can have feelings for them but your parents are the ones who have sacraficed for you and raised you into to what you are today.
2006-09-13 21:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say the people who take care of you every day, although your birth mother will always be your mother because biologically she is. unfortunately she didnt raise you up to how you are today. if she was your real mother she would take the opportunity to get to know you. however your real mother can also be considered as your real mother if in some way, she's part of your life. if she's been there all along right in front of you without realising, that is. this is because she's taken the effort into getting to know you, which means that she loves you and cares about you.
2006-09-13 20:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that your adopted parents are your real parents. You know your biological mother but it's your adoptive parents who have been there through your whole life, for the ups and downs and dissapointments and heartaches. it might be nice to know your biological mother but it is your adoptive parents who deserve the credit.
2006-09-13 20:36:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going to answer this from the perspective of a birth mother, which I am. I gave birth to a beautiful baby boy, but I am only a birth mother who carried him. His true parents are his mother and father who raise him, know him better then anybody else, spend everyday loving him, take care of him when he is sick. I will always love him, he knows I am his birth mother, but I am not his mom. Look at it this way, your birth mother loved you enough to admit she wasn't able to care for you in the way you deserved and needed, your mom chose to love you and care for you and give you everything you needed. I think that definately makes the ones who raised you your real parents.
2006-09-14 00:09:03 · answer #8 · answered by curls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm adopted too. I consider all my parents to be my real parents. If it weren't for my biological parents, I would not be here on earth. If it weren't for my adoptive parents, then who would have raised me? I feel really lucky to know all of them and we all get along great!
2006-09-13 20:41:22 · answer #9 · answered by angelfmlj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am just like you and I feel like anyone can give birth that has the chance too but it takes love, attention, and time to make you a parent. I consider my non biological parent my true parent my mom, my dad. Those who raised me gave sperm f you ask me. They didnt take the time to love me and raise me.. It takes attention and love to be a parent. Time.. So answer those who raised you just thank your biological for giving the eggs and sperm.
2006-09-13 20:40:41 · answer #10 · answered by tashafleming25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋