Is this abuse?

Question

Is spanking ur child abuse?

Answer 1

It's not exactly abuse, but I don't ever believe in spanking a child. It's not the right way to discipline a child.

Answer 2

It depends on why you are doing it. There are circumstances where you would want to shock a child so that they do not repeat a behavior, example: a child runs into the road - you give a spanking and the child associates running into the road with pain. The reason parents discipline is to change a behavior and I think there are more creative ways to change a behavior than a spanking. If a spanking is given out of anger than yes I believe it is abuse.

Answer 3

If you are the parent of the child and wishes him good for the future, sometimes it is required to use a little force to get him to the right direction. But dont head into spanking as a first resort. You can try and reason with him and talk some sense into him, teach him what is right and what is wrong. But if he still continues to do wrong, then a little punishment is well deserved, such as taking his privileges away. Though if that doesnt work, then a little spanking would never hurt. Just enough to let him know that he's doing the wrong thing and if he does it again he will have that little spanking if not more again.

Answer 4

I was born in the 60's and we didn't have time out as children I was spanked as a child and some times both my parents got carried away with it but I still respect them both to this day because I understand the difficulty parents experience raising children. Just remeber:
1. Never spank out of anger- calm yourself first.
2. If the spanking hurts your hand you are doing too hard. That is why you should not use some other type of object. Some say that the hand should be for giving love not punishment; I respect my parents more for the love and punishment I recieved by their hand more, when I recieved spankings from something else such as a belt, a switch or a paddle that is when the spanking was more severe and done out of anger.

Answer 5

I don't understand why the majority of people who answered this question says this is okay!! I think spanking is really wrong under all circumstances. When you want to teach rules to your kids you should tell them why there are these rules and why they should follow them. For example you should not punish them if they do something dangerous, but you should explain to them what are the dangers and why they have to be more careful. I was raised by this method and think this was good for me. When there is no reason for a rule you should not make up such a rule.
People are also right that there is a difference between beating and spanking. But I say if a child is beaten so hard that there are marks of it then this is abuse and should have legal consequences.
Otherwise it can be excused and is not a matter of law but I believe it is still not good for children.

Answer 6

A parent must set boundaries. If you smack the child directly on the behind it sends a message. Random threats do not work, children just tune them out, especially if the threats are never followed through. After the spanking always explain the actions that caused the spanking so the child fully understands what will happen the next time it happens.

Answer 7

No! Hitting is abuse. Spanking is a must! A slap in the mouth for back-talking, bad words and spitting, a slap on the hand for touching things the child's not suppose to, breaking things, throwing things, and hitting others, and the spank on the bottom for everything else!

Discipline and correction go hand in hand!

But don't forget to praise the child for all the good stuff he or she does or else the spanking doesn't work!

Answer 8

No there is a difference in spanking a child and beating a child. Swatting them hard enough to get their attention is one thing, smacking them hard enough to leave marks, even a whelp, is going over board. If you are going to spank them make sure the crime fits the punishment and that they know exactly what they did to deserve the spanking and never spank when you are mad as you might hit harder than you should. If my kids deserve a spanking they get it but after I have counted to 100 and have control of the situation again.

Answer 9

If you believe the Bible it says "spare the rod, spoil the child." A spanking is not abuse. Abuse is when you burn something or break something. Well timed punishment to get a child's respect and attention is okay. Once you have it, you can have a wonderful relationship.

Answer 10

It depends on how often you spank your child. There are other ways to punish your child other than just spanking them. Grounding them , taking away thingz they like. Spanking is not abuse unless you leave bruses or there is a red mark on the childs body.